Unsupportive Friends?

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Jan 3, 2014 14:14:54 GMT -5 @dontcallmeshirley1 said:

It's one thing for friends to say shitty things like "you're so skinny" or "running AGAIN"? That's probably jealousy or resentment that you've gone in a different direction. But for someone who is not your mom to constantly tell you about shin splints is just plain weird. Also, the Jewish comment? Do you really need this person in your life? It sounds to me like you might be questioning that.

Re the Jewish thing, she's just a bit ignorant. I'm not making excuses and I most certainly let her know it was NOT okay to say. She's not said anything like it since, so perhaps she's grown up a bit. 

Oh, yeah, she gives me the whole "skinny cow" remarks and asks me what I weigh. I tell her (though frankly I don't weigh myself very often so it may not be accurate) and then she goes on about weighing tons more (though she never says what she weighs and I don't care to know) which I find weird. It's pointless basing your own weight goals on what someone else weighs. Everyone is different both in height and shape. A certain weight may look great on someone else, but make me look ill. I go by my own shape and tone. 

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Jan 3, 2014 17:47:22 GMT -5 wanderlustmom said:

I agree. So annoying. Thinking jealousy for your friend. My mom drives me crazy and is always telling me I'm pushing myself too hard, going to hurt my knees or get too skinny. I am a size four so this is strange.

Size 4 is a UK 8 I think. That's slim, but not ridiculous. I'm between an 8 and a 10 (US4-6). So, yeah, I'm slim, but I'm no waif. I like the shape of the muscles I have. 

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Jan 3, 2014 18:29:50 GMT -5 brooke77 said:

I'm sorry you're having this issue,but glad you posted because now I know I'm not alone with these comments. I always get the comment I'm ruining my knees (?!?!?) from my in laws, friends, mom... It's an annoyance and I try not to talk about running. Usually my in laws bring it up (when is your next race, how many miles did you run today). My advice is to try to nicely inform your friend that your shins are fine; she can stop asking about them.

I've found runner friends/coworkers who I talk about running with. Everyone else I don't talk about it since I either get negative comments or blank stares =)

You are definitely not alone. And I save my chat about running for this board! I figure it would be boring to people who don't run.