How do I make this clear to you?

[Deleted]

I don't want to go to your baby shower, ok?

I keep getting meeting invites to a co-worker's baby shower for her third baby.

First, I am not close to this co-worker. We are not unfriendly, but we are not friends.

Second, it's your third fucking baby.

I declined the first meeting invite. Now the shower has been moved to another day, and I declined again. Then I get an e-mail asking why I can't come.

BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO, OK?

[yellowbrkrd]

Why would someone ask WHY you can't come? So rude and awkward.

[y4m]

Wait. Tell me the pregnant coworker isn't inviting you directly.

[partiallysunny]

How rude!

[victoria0993]

She really sent you an email asking why you can't go?? That seems crazy and kind of rude to me! Wow. I just wouldn't respond to the email... Or respond and say "because I don't want to go".

[ssmjlm]

May 14, 2012 12:58:55 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Second, it's your third fucking baby.

This, WTF are they doing have a shower for a third child?

[womet]

Definitely rude of them to ask you why you aren't coming. Can you be honest that you aren't close with X, don't understand why anyone needs a shower for their 3rd child, and are busy??

[Deleted]

May 14, 2012 13:00:16 GMT -5 y4m said:

Wait. Tell me the pregnant coworker isn't inviting you directly.

No, the person throwing it is. But she is not even throwing it. It's a lunch. You know, one of those deals where everybody throws in money at the end, and the guest of honor doesn't pay.

More salient points:

(1) I'm not friends with the lunch planner.
(2) I don't waste my time on people who aren't my friends.
(3) I don't like the restaurant. LOL.

I don't know why I'm invited at all.

[Deleted]

Did the guest of honor actually ask you why you can't go??? People amaze me...

[Deleted]

Maybe next time you should go and say "wow, three kids, your life is going to suck now" and then you won't get invited anymore.

[womet]

miso, can you just say that you already have plans that day?

[Deleted]

May 14, 2012 13:02:53 GMT -5 @booby said:

this stuff never happens to dudes. my advice? get a penis.

I now lunch more often with the guys than with the girls.

[Deleted]

May 14, 2012 13:04:49 GMT -5 @notquiteblushing said:

Maybe next time you should go and say "wow, three kids, your life is going to suck now" and then you won't get invited anymore.

I do say stuff like this. ALREADY.

[mypalbabs]

Tell them it conflicts with a shower for a friend's fourth wedding.

[iamali]

Was it a group invite and you just happened to be on the list?

Meh, just decline.

[Deleted]

FWIW, I just said, "I do not plan to attend because I am not close to Jennifer. Thanks."

[Deleted]

May 14, 2012 13:08:38 GMT -5 iamali said:

Was it a group invite and you just happened to be on the list?

Meh, just decline.

Not a group invite. I declined.

And then I got a specific e-mail to me, asking for a reason.

[ecupirate04]

Was this the one you also declined to host?

[Mrs.Beagle]

That's ballsy to ask for a specific reason

[evans]

I would be totally annoyed. What's the point in asking why you cannot attend a lunch work shower for a third baby? Was she trying to guilt you into coming?

[Deleted]

May 14, 2012 13:07:47 GMT -5 mypalbabs said:

Tell them it conflicts with a shower for a friend's fourth wedding.

Yes. THIS!!

[kittycatlove]

If I got the guilt email asking why I couldn't attend I wouldn't be so nice, I'd tell them exactly why and it's probably not what they want to hear, but oh well.

[Deleted]

May 14, 2012 13:11:42 GMT -5 ecupirate04 said:

Was this the one you also declined to host?

Nope. Believe it or not, that was another one.

People at my job are fucking fertile.

[mbcdefg]

I think you need to present her with some sort of chart explaining the difference between an invitation and a subpoena.

[ecupirate04]

May 14, 2012 13:18:22 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

May 14, 2012 13:11:42 GMT -5 ecupirate04 said:

Was this the one you also declined to host?

Nope. Believe it or not, that was another one.

People at my job are fucking fertile.

Wow!

[MixedBerryJam]

May 14, 2012 13:08:47 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

FWIW, I just said, "I do not plan to attend because I am not close to Jennifer. Thanks."

I haven't read all the comments yet ... I just wanted to say that I really respect that you said this. It's so easy to just say "I'm busy" (or worse even: go even though you don't want to) but I have a lot of admiration for people who confront honestly. I. Am. Afraid. of. Confrontation.

[Deleted]

Ugggh. Yes.

I am not a baby person. I have met maybe 1-2 that I like and they are already born.

I have no interest in having a party for your fetus if I'm not even close friends with you.

[starlily]

May 14, 2012 13:19:03 GMT -5 mbcdefg said:

I think you need to present her with some sort of chart explaining the difference between an invitation and a subpoena.

Lol, because I have promised miso I'd issue subpoenas for her baby shower if she ever spawns.

[clickerish]

Why is this woman's having children becoming an entire office's responsibility? I don't get this.

[rex]

Events I don't like going to: Baby Showers, Wedding Showers and Weddings.

No one cares as much as the person having the baby/getting married.