Because you would be surprised at how many people don't make their kid a priority after divorce. I'd much rather hear up front that I would have to be ok taking the backseat to someone's kid than to date someone who doesn't make their kid a priority.
Sorry, that one is a touchy one for me, because my ex makes ds a priority the 8 days a month he has him, but any other time, he has an excuse as to why he can't participate in school things or other things for ds. He always has a dinner to go to for gf's friends or something like that (he doesn't lie about what he is doing most of the time, just makes it obvious that if it isn't his time with ds, girlfriend is the priority). Then he complains that he doesn't know ds' friends or what is going on at school. Um, show up at Back to School Night or Open House. Wait 5 minutes on the playground the one morning a week you drop him off and see him with his friends, talk to the other parents and say hello to the teacher. It isn't rocket science.
No, it pisses me off because I assume that someone's children takes priority over me. I would be shocked and turned off to learn otherwise. That being said: I think it is a fucking shitty thing to recite a litany of people that take priority over me , even if its true. I assume it and do not need it spelled out for me.
"My hobbies? Going to the GYM! Fitness is important to me and I'm looking for someone who also values that as well."
Aka no fat chicks. We got the memo dude.
LOL. My profile did say that fitness is important to me and that I wanted to date someone active. It wasn't about avoiding fat dudes though. My ex wasnt fat but he was LAZY and always said working out "wasn't his thing". I couldn't be with someone like that again! But yeah, I'm sure a lot of guys mean it like you said too.
XH and were the opposite! I'm slim, but I'm not particularly sporty. It was always a point of contention because a great Saturday morning to him was a long sweaty cycle trip, whereas for me it would be a cup of coffee, a bathrobe, and a book.
Dating a sporty girl is very important to him now. And going to the gym really was his hobby. What kind of time can he beat on his daily 10K? Cataloging his music collection by BPM so that he can find a running mix that matches his gait. This was his thing.