If you don't have at least one picture, I will not respond...
My friends would describe me as....
I'm ambitious but not married to my job...
A lot will describe who they are looking for and then say, "if this is you, drop me a line!" But then never really say anything about themselves which annoys me...
Post by formerlyak on Jan 27, 2014 18:39:53 GMT -5
I also hated the ones who pretty obviously were looking to wear the pants instead of looking for a partnership. Things like "I like taking care of my lady" or "I want to relieve all your worries" ... anything along those lines. Um, I don't need someone to take care of me. I am 38 years old. I want someone to be an equal partner and a companion.
I hate the "no drama" line. It makes me question him and his choices. Also makes me wonder if any sort of disagreement is considered "drama" to him.
I often see: - I'm looking for a woman who knows what she wants/has life figured out. - I'm tired of the bar/club scene. Never had a real relationship from there.
Oh I can't believe I forgot about this one! Passion! You must have something you're passionate about (and not shopping, happy hour, insert other stereotypical female past-time). It's really no surprise I've had little luck online. I get so annoyed.
Post by Wanderista on Jan 27, 2014 21:55:47 GMT -5
Hiking is common in my area too. Also a lot of guys have gone carless around here. A lot of guys are new in town or wanting to explore the city or going to bars. None of these people bother me.
I did see one guy the other day who said, "My ideal woman is someone caring who has made helping others a central part of her career. No one who works in business or marketing please." ... Erm, I guess that no one who works in business or marketing cares about what happens in the world? I get what he's saying but yeah, way to stereotype, dude.
A lot of guys around here talk about their careers A LOT. I don't think that's really gender-specific in this area though.
Edited to add: There are lots of references to "craft beer".
Running and/or the beach. I'm comfortable on the couch or going out for a night. As long as it's not every night on the couch. HAR HAR HAR. No drama, as has already been mentioned. I'm a softie at heart.
I also hated the ones who pretty obviously were looking to wear the pants instead of looking for a partnership. Things like "I like taking care of my lady" or "I want to relieve all your worries" ... anything along those lines. Um, I don't need someone to take care of me. I am 38 years old. I want someone to be an equal partner and a companion.
I completely agree with this one.
I also see "I am active and enjoy going out but also enjoy a night in." Don't we all???
Because you would be surprised at how many people don't make their kid a priority after divorce. I'd much rather hear up front that I would have to be ok taking the backseat to someone's kid than to date someone who doesn't make their kid a priority.
Sorry, that one is a touchy one for me, because my ex makes ds a priority the 8 days a month he has him, but any other time, he has an excuse as to why he can't participate in school things or other things for ds. He always has a dinner to go to for gf's friends or something like that (he doesn't lie about what he is doing most of the time, just makes it obvious that if it isn't his time with ds, girlfriend is the priority). Then he complains that he doesn't know ds' friends or what is going on at school. Um, show up at Back to School Night or Open House. Wait 5 minutes on the playground the one morning a week you drop him off and see him with his friends, talk to the other parents and say hello to the teacher. It isn't rocket science.
"My hobbies? Going to the GYM! Fitness is important to me and I'm looking for someone who also values that as well."
Aka no fat chicks. We got the memo dude.
LOL. My profile did say that fitness is important to me and that I wanted to date someone active. It wasn't about avoiding fat dudes though. My ex wasnt fat but he was LAZY and always said working out "wasn't his thing". I couldn't be with someone like that again! But yeah, I'm sure a lot of guys mean it like you said too.
Because you would be surprised at how many people don't make their kid a priority after divorce. I'd much rather hear up front that I would have to be ok taking the backseat to someone's kid than to date someone who doesn't make their kid a priority.
Sorry, that one is a touchy one for me, because my ex makes ds a priority the 8 days a month he has him, but any other time, he has an excuse as to why he can't participate in school things or other things for ds. He always has a dinner to go to for gf's friends or something like that (he doesn't lie about what he is doing most of the time, just makes it obvious that if it isn't his time with ds, girlfriend is the priority). Then he complains that he doesn't know ds' friends or what is going on at school. Um, show up at Back to School Night or Open House. Wait 5 minutes on the playground the one morning a week you drop him off and see him with his friends, talk to the other parents and say hello to the teacher. It isn't rocket science.
Kids absolutely SHOULD be the #1 priority. I think what Saint Monica might be getting at is, I looked at like, I feel like making kids a priority goes without saying. When guys posted that or carried on with stuff like "my son/daughter is MY WORLD!" I felt like they were actually like your ex-H, just making themselves sound like father of the year. I know so many shit dads who post pics of their kids all over FB, about how much they love them and take them to do this and that, when in reality they suck.
Because you would be surprised at how many people don't make their kid a priority after divorce. I'd much rather hear up front that I would have to be ok taking the backseat to someone's kid than to date someone who doesn't make their kid a priority.
Sorry, that one is a touchy one for me, because my ex makes ds a priority the 8 days a month he has him, but any other time, he has an excuse as to why he can't participate in school things or other things for ds. He always has a dinner to go to for gf's friends or something like that (he doesn't lie about what he is doing most of the time, just makes it obvious that if it isn't his time with ds, girlfriend is the priority). Then he complains that he doesn't know ds' friends or what is going on at school. Um, show up at Back to School Night or Open House. Wait 5 minutes on the playground the one morning a week you drop him off and see him with his friends, talk to the other parents and say hello to the teacher. It isn't rocket science.
Kids absolutely SHOULD be the #1 priority. I think what Saint Monica might be getting at is, I looked at like, I feel like making kids a priority goes without saying. When guys posted that or carried on with stuff like "my son/daughter is MY WORLD!" I felt like they were actually like your ex-H, just making themselves sound like father of the year. I know so many shit dads who post pics of their kids all over FB, about how much they love them and take them to do this and that, when in reality they suck.
I can see this take on it. You should read my ex's facebook posts about our kid. You'd think he does everything and I do nothing. Luckily the people who matter know the real scoop and laugh at his ramblings on facebook.