Where would you stay?

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I'm going with DH's coworker to visit his girlfriend for 4 nights. I was originally planning on staying at a hotel nearby, but F, K (coworker)'s girlfriend has said there is room at her house if I'd like to stay there. 

I'm conflicted, I bet there will be a crowd at her house as it is the Chinese New Year when families typically get together to celebrate. I'm hesitant to impose any more than I already will be. But I don't want it to seem rude if I decline the invitation to stay there. 

Cost is not an issue as the hotel I'd stay at otherwise is about $15/night hahaha. 

I know this is limited info to go on, but I'd appreciate any opinions, especially from anyone with experience with Chinese culture

[anna7602]

I have zero experience with Chinese culture. But in my family/culture, people get very, very offended if you stay in a hotel instead of staying at their home. So, your question is not unreasonable. I hope someone can give you the Chinese perspective.

[potatopie]

I would feel like you do, that I don't want to impose.

But also, as a host, I'm always in the "more the merrier" camp. Maybe ask one more time and see if they insist and then bring a nice gift when you go. No one will hate you for taking up the invite!

[singingpilgrim]

I think if you're invited to stay at their house, as I would think it might be rude not to and I doubt if they invited you they'd see it as an intrusion.

[echo]

The Chinese are very hospitable,I think they are probably very sincere in their invite.I do not know who you are dealing with,if they are used to westerners or are very traditional Chinese,but sometimes I found it tiring staying with a traditional family because they worked SO hard to make sure I was happy/comfortable that in the end I really began to feel like a bother. Do what makes you more comfortable.Have you ever stayed with a Chinese family before?Is the house going to have western amenities,or will it be typically Chinese?

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Thank you all for the input.
I texted K (DH's coworker) and told him that I'm happy to stay at F's house if it really isn't a problem. I haven't heard back from him. I'm just going to go with the flow.
I don't know what sort of house they live in. I assume it probably has some western amenities. Whatever the case, I'll make do. F is wonderful and very hospitable so I'm sure her family will be friendly enough. And her family has met K a few times so they have some experience with Westerners.

[oneslybookworm]

I would agree that it's probably a sincere request. However, you could page TofuMonkey (she lived in China for quite some time) and she could give you a better insight to the Chinese culture. But, it sounds like you're sorted! Good luck and have fun!