Marathon traveling dilemma

[ans1999]

I train with two other girls who are both doing their first marathons. I am doing my third. In the past, we have done girls trips to do half marathons. We have already booked our hotel- we are sharing a two bedroom hotel room. My husband told me their husbands are planning to surprise them by being there on race day. It is totally sweet of them. We don't have local care for our kids (not overnight) so we would have to fly my mom in if he wanted to come. Both my brothers are getting married soon and most of our travel budget is committed to those events. I am worried about being the third wheel. I guess there isn't much I can do without being a jerk, huh? Hopefully I won't have to share the hotel room with all of them.  Do you think I should try to book another hotel room for me just in case?

[runaways]

I'd just try to contact the husbands and find out what the deal is. I'd think they'd both be getting hotel rooms if they are planning to show up as a surprise.

[ans1999]

Feb 2, 2014 15:17:05 GMT -5 runaways said:

I'd just try to contact the husbands and find out what the deal is. I'd think they'd both be getting hotel rooms if they are planning to show up as a surprise.

I would hope so. However, they asked my husband not to say anything. I know our hotel is sold out. Do you think I should go ahead and say something for planning circumstances? It will probably leave me driving 6 hours home by myself too. Ugh, boo!

[runaways]

Eh, I think that if you already booked your room and they didn't think to find out about the hotel you're staying at earlier, that's their issue and not yours. I'd plan to stay in my room and let them do their thing. But if it's that important, call them up and tell them you won't say anything to your wives, or maybe have your husband call them and mention you told him the hotel is sold out, just so they know.

I mostly think that this is not at all your problem and you should continue as planned. Especially if they didn't want you to know they were coming.