I was just going through some financial stuff. In the eight months since I left xh, I've managed to pay a pretty substantial amount of debt and not incur any additional debt, in addition of course to paying the entire mortgage. I should be able to pay off another bill at the end of the month, which will leave me with one credit card to pay off. The balance is pretty large, but I feel like I'm seeing a light at the end of the tunnel. I also have enough money in my savings account put aside to pay my lawyer.
In the meantime, the balance on the card xh agreed to pay on is now $95 higher than when I left. I should probably be grateful it's only that much higher. I know he has another card that is not a joint account- I can only imagine what the balance is on that.
I really am proud of myself. And the thing is- I'm still spending money. I go out, I'm buying myself things, I'm doing things I couldn't have done with xh. I don't think I ever realized how much money he sucked out of me.