Please understand, I'm cursed with the oldz....but why are people so quick to follow each other on social media shit? I think it adds a false sense of 'knowing' each other and opens the door to misinterpreting stuff.
And honestly, I think we can all agree that it is hard not to over analyze things after a divorce, especially if the marriage ended because of cheating or abuse. You always "look for signs." It's something that dh and I talked a lot about when we started getting more serious about our relationship because I was really scared and had really high walls up. He also had walls up for other reasons, so he understood why it was hard for me to let someone in completely. I spent time talking with my therapist about it, too,and she'd point out all the ways this relationship was so different from my first marriage. There were days that dh could tell I was in my head about things and he'd tell me I needed to talk and get it out. But obviously you can't do that on date three -- just pointing out that the over analyzing thing doesn't go away easily. And I think it's probably normal after divorce.
Because I feel like I've been so breezy! I felt like sharing my own overanalyzing moment for your enjoyment mp. I had tentative plans with a dude on Thursday. We were texting today so I said something like "Thursday still work?" And he replies "Sounds good! I'm free tomorrow too. Either is good."
AND I'm freaking out with my analyzing. I'm like why is he trying to get out of Thursday? He must have a better offer for Thursday. Thursday is a way better date day than Wednesday. #anxietyforthewin
Because I feel like I've been so breezy! I felt like sharing my own overanalyzing moment for your enjoyment mp. I had tentative plans with a dude on Thursday. We were texting today so I said something like "Thursday still work?" And he replies "Sounds good! I'm free tomorrow too. Either is good."
AND I'm freaking out with my analyzing. I'm like why is he trying to get out of Thursday? He must have a better offer for Thursday. Thursday is a way better date day than Wednesday. #anxietyforthewin
Or maybe he wants to see you a day earlier?
This would be the rational person's thinking;). I thought of that and I was like "no way, he's trying to get out of seeing me on Thursday."
This would be the rational person's thinking;). I thought of that and I was like "no way, he's trying to get out of seeing me on Thursday."
I am TOTALLY rational when it's someone else's life! In my own life, I'd be like, "He wants to push it up a day so he can go ahead and get it over with!" LOL
Post a thread so I can tell you to chill the heck out, because SERIOUSLY, it's soooo easy when it's not your own situation! LOL! But when it's me it's like "OMG the world is over, clearly.'"
Seriously I was like well I might as well admit it to mp:) and clearly you have a much better read on the situation than I did. I'm sorry it didn't work for tonight and I think you are handling it like a champ!
Post by pantsoffdanceoff on Feb 4, 2014 22:47:39 GMT -5
I think you have a great attitude about tonight. Granted I haven't done much dating, but I don't see how someone goes from cuddling on one date to nothing the next. So work stuff might just be really stressing him out. If he wants to make plans again he knows where to find you.
I f hate dating grrrrrr, I dont have much experience with the dating thing either and I am 38. Ive had 2 serious long, very long term relationships, the last one we even got engaged and therefore I havent dated a lot.
I hate the game playing, I hate dating and I think Ill be forever alone. I still have feelings for my exfiance, we been on and off for the past 12yrs, and the thought of having a new relationship gives me anxiety. My exfi is a great guy but he lives in the west coast and I live on the east, plus he is a workaholic and his communications skills are not the best, which is a bad combination for a long distance relationship. Sometimes I feel we are meant to be together since we havent really dated anyone else in all these years, but then I dont know. Sorry if this a long post, I am mostly a lurker here and I never really made an official introduction
I hope things work out with you and this guy, dating sucks!