You know he could be very high functioning autistic as in Aspberger's. I don't know a lot about it but their empathy and sympathy levels are not natural to them and have to be taught, but that usually takes early intervention. He just may not be mentally capable, sort of like Sheldon from big bang, bad analogy but you know how he feels about coitis right? I hope your dog gets better.
ETA: I don't even know of I spelled coitis right. I hate that word.
2. Maybe I am in the minority here, but I think what really happened is:
He decided he isn't interested in pursuing you (for whatever reason - maybe there's no spark, maybe he's a damn fool), and he decided it would be easier to turn you off to the idea of dating any further.
I what sparked this was: -he started to realize it and commence the fade away after your last date -he kinda sorta said he was kinda sorta busy, and you texted him something dramatic (that happened to be true) -he decided to do the opposite of dramatic and tell you he is devoid of emotion. He felt you were leaning too far in one direction, so he leaned away.
Next time, tell a friend or a person you know much more about the seizure. I understand being upset but I think this kind of behavior can scare people away. It would have been totally fine to tell him after he started communication again. Like, he texts "what's up?" and you could have then said "my dog had a seizure". To use it to initiate contact (even though it really happened) might look odd depending on context.
That said, this all should kind of flow. Especially early on. It's okay that it didn't. I just think he decided to pass and is bullshitting a bit. Still dodged a bullet because you want someone who is 1. interested and 2. honest.
I agree with @gypsy. Also I thought you had decided to let this guy go. What was the intention in texting him about stinky (which I'm sorry to hear about!)? Either way it's good you found this out early but I think you came across really dramatic to him yesterday first with the "you seem distant" morning text and then the dog seizure. I think he is legitimately busy and stressed about work and this was added a lot of pressure from someone he's been on three dates with so I think he purposefully turned you off. I'm sorry it didn't work out though!
mp I'm sorry to hear you feel that way. I posted because I have been in the exact same situations as you and was trying to offer some insight. I've also know several men who have done things to intentionally turn off women. And you're right we can only go by what you posted on here. I'm certainly not claiming to know him better but how am I suppose to know there is more to the story? Sounds like you've got the situation figured out though so I hope things work out how you want them to be.
I don't quite understand the whole 'you're being sooooo dramatic' piece here. She text him about her dog. She wasn't begging him to hold her or kiss away her tears. She wasn't begging him to love her or she'd die. She shared info about something happening in her life with a guy she was interested in.
Would it have been better to text someone else, sure, but I don't see this as a huge dramatic outburst by mp
mp not that you need to justify anything to me, but these details give me a better context. I'm also the most literal person in the world. In my mind it went like this: You seemed distant I'm busy Want to hang out still I'm too busy My dog had a seizure I don't have empathy and don't understand death What about love? Nope
So given my ASSumptions it seemed a but much. But given that there was much more back and forth I get it.
And I promise I come from a good place even if it seems harsh. I struggle with anxiety like crazy and I try and pass on things I've learned along the way because it SUCKS. And I don't like seeing people having the same experiences as me.
This is so weird. You posted about it, so of course people are going to share thoughts.
Then you get a little dramatic about varied opinions.
I wouldn't read a lot into a lengthy text discussion.
I don't think he's lying about things. I agree he meant what he said. I just think he meant it with you, and not that it would be his reality across the board.
Either way, I wasn't trying to offend you or play "armchair psychiatrist".
I do think if you react to guys the way you reacted to differing opinions here, then they might find you to be kind of emotional.