Oh WOW. That truly sucks mp I'm sorry. I have a former friend like that. When I texted her the night I separated and I was sobbing in my bed, she texted back "Sorry to hear that. I'll pray for you." She just doesn't feel things, it seems. It makes being around her really hard, so you did dodge a big bullet. Still, that must be really disappointing.
Love and passion and emotional/intellectual compatibility are really not too much to ask for, and I really do think that people who want it and are looking for it always find it. Anyway, big hugs.
Oof, that sucks but it is nice you found out before you got too invested. There are plenty of people that can give to you what you want and need, and it's not too much to need love. I'm sorry it happened this way but.. well.. I guess it's good you know?
What a dumbass. Aren't sociopath's better at faking it than that? Yes, you dodged a bullet.
That being said, he already didn't follow through with plans and told you he might not be available tonight. That means stop. I 100% mean this with sincerity, so please don't get offended. You seem like an awesome person, but I would have been so annoyed if you kept texting after I already (passive aggressively on his part) said that I was busy and stressed and I might not be available to text tonight. Let him come to you.
Im sorry about your dog, i know how it feels. My dog had some seizures in the past and they are terrible and scary. I hope your doggy is ok.
In reference to the guy thank god it happened soon, you dont need this crap. He should definitely look into buying an inflatable doll, that way there wont be any feelings, emotional attachment or sympathy at all.
Was he ever married or in a long term relationship? If he was, how did he handled his lack of emotions?? It must be really hard to live like that :/
mp Believe me, I get it. I was born and raised in L.A. so I completely understand that it's a different planet when it comes to dating. I don't think you are endlessly contacting dude. I was trying to be gentle, I swear! lol.
My anecdote: I met a friend of a friend on a camping trip and we hit it off. At the end of the trip he said he was going to take me out the following week. We text and talked non stop the whole week leading up to date day. I thought we were really into each other. I never initiated. It was always him. So date day was approaching, but he never mentioned it. I asked. He ended up telling me that I was too available. WTF? He said every time he text or called me, I responded. He said that I never made him wonder about me and it didn't seem like I had too much else going on. Excuse the fuck out of me for being polite and prompt? IDK. However, I got it. I stopped planning my time around others. If a guy wanted to be with me, he had to make plans in advance. I didn't wait or wonder. I don't advocate games of any sort, but it really did make a huge difference. I had to beat them off after that. haha. You'll get there. You almost already are!
So sorry about Stinky:( so scary. I am so glad you texted him and found all of this out! Could you imagine not feeling empathy, or just not having any feelings in general? It seems eerie to me. Bullet totally dodged! Yay you!
I'm sorry At least you got an answer before you invested too much time and energy. I hope Stinky is feeling better. That must have been scary. ((hugs))
aww mp that sucks. I am so sorry! At least it was only 3 dates and no sex. I am so proud of you for not settling and asking those hard questions right up front. I do believe you will find love.
Post by pantsoffdanceoff on Feb 5, 2014 9:08:06 GMT -5
Wow, I am a sensitive person and cannot imagine not feeling empathy or really any normal emotions. I'm glad you dodged that bullet. I hope Stinky is feeling better.
I'm sorry about your dog! My dog has seizures and I remember when he had the first one and it was so scary. I hope he's doing better!
As for the douche, WTF! He did you favor by cancelling the date. It's one thing to not have empathy or feelings, but to know you don't and to tell people, that is kinda odd. NEXT!!
Post by riverpestie on Feb 5, 2014 10:08:14 GMT -5
I hope Mr. Stinkster is doing better today.
I can understand about not being able to talk about your feelings very easily, but not actually having feelings?? Yeah, it's good you found out now! Sheesh.
God, I'm sorry. And along with Stinky, how horrible. You have a good head on your shoulders though, and you'll be okay. I know you liked him, I'm sorry he turned out to be an unfeeling weirdo.