Would you be pissed

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We all (me, husband and both kids have the crud - cough & runny nose). Husband decided he wants to stay home today. He admitted he is probably well enough to go in but really just wanted a day to rest. He got up with us this morning and I asked him to help me finish getting the kids ready since they were going to daycare. He's really awful in the mornings about getting up and I typically do pretty much everything, which is another battle and story in and of itself.

Today is trash day, so I asked him to get their drinks and string cheese for the car ready plus to get their shoes and coats on while I took the cans to the curb and backed my car out. 

When I walked back into the house, the girls were sitting in the living room with their cups, no shoes, no coats - and no dad.

I asked them where he was, and they said he was upstairs.

I called up to him and he said he got tired and went back up. I got pissed because now I was running late and still had to get shoes and coats on, finish getting my stuff together and get them in the car. He said I was being a bitch because he didn't feel well, meanwhile I'm sick and exhausted too.

Am I being out of line for being upset?

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I'd be pissed for sure. That is not even a hard task when really sick.

[callalily]

Man colds. Can't live with them, can't kill them. I'd be so pissed.

[hereigo]

uh, No. I'd be pretty pissed, too.

[JamaicanPineapple]

Oh no, I'd be pissed...a lot. Sack up, man cold or not.

[bex1973]

The only thing that would really piss me off would be my H calling me a bitch. That would NOT fly.

[starburst604]

I'd be pissed, but I already know that while me and H could have the same exact cold and symptoms, in his mind he is MUCH SICKER than me. No one has EVER had a cold as bad as his. Ain't much that's more pathetic than a man with man cold. Women just seem better a toughing it out through a cold. I hope he gives you a break when he's "feeling better".

[sunshineluv]

He called you a bitch? Heck yes I would be pissed.

[soozy87]

I would be mad.

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Thanks guys. Yeah the bitch comment didn't go over well at all.

He whined about colds being harder on people with asthma. I said they're also hard on moms who work at least 9 to 10 hours a day, get up early and work at night and don't take a lunch break and slammed the door.

[kwx2]

Sounds typical in my house. DH is is the biggest baby ever when he is sick.... Like he is DYING when he gets the sniffles. Thankfully DD is 17 now and can manage herself. But when she was smaller this used to go up my ass sideways! I always threaten to call the rescue on him now, you know, since he is dying. And he usually perks up a little bit! lol

[urbancowgirl]

Yes, I would be mad.

[FastHands]

Him not helping with the very simple tasks would annoy me to high heaven. Him calling me a bitch would not fly. And if that was within earshot of the kids?! Fuck that.

[eddy]

Oh yeah I would be hella pissed.

You have to function as as a parent even when sick. He gets to lay around once everyone is out of the house.

[Ohhmm(bligo)]

[eddy]

Also what you asked of him was easy. GAWD, I am raging for you.

[thebuddhagouda]

Fuck that noise. Even if you were completely healthy and not also sick, you asked him to do a simple task. Unless he said "I really don't think I can do that feeling as 'bad' as I am right now" or something else to make you realize it won't be done, then he'd better fucking do it. Parenting is a team effort.

And calling you a bitch on top of it. I would be for real having a come to jesus talk tonight when you're both calm.

[Deleted]

Yeah, I'd be super pissed.

[snickers]

I would be pissed, yes!

[mariafromnj]

Yeah that would be a big fight. That is messed up.

[thebuddhagouda]

And completely forget the man cold and the not helping with the kids, your husband called you a bitch.

[Deleted]

Thanks guys. I'm oddly enough not that mad anymore but at least I know I was validated in my rage as I drove away. Of course, once I was on the road with my doodles and listening to our morning jams, I was fine.

[beefcheeks]

Feb 13, 2014 10:10:59 GMT -5 eddy said:

Oh yeah I would be hella pissed.

You have to function as as a parent even when sick. He gets to lay around once everyone is out of the house.

Exactly!  Men are such whiners.

[whitemerlot]

I would be upset that he didn't get the kids ready. Calling me names is unacceptable.

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Feb 13, 2014 10:16:50 GMT -5 tillie said:

A. Why are you taking the trash out (and taking the kids to daycare).
B. Calling you a bitch is disrespectful and unacceptable.

Yes, you have every right to be pissed.

I actually never take it out. I did it today since he was sick and I had assumed he was going to do all that other stuff while I was outside.

[Yankees21]

Yes, I'd be pissed. Why does he get to milk being sick when no one else does, and calling you a bitch on top of it?

[thebuddhagouda]

I'm glad that you're okay now, but please don't let it go without a discussion.

[beefcheeks]

Feb 13, 2014 10:16:50 GMT -5 tillie said:

A. Why are you taking the trash out (and taking the kids to daycare).

I don't get it? Why wouldn't she do these things? 

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Feb 13, 2014 10:19:47 GMT -5 thebuddhagouda said:

I'm glad that you're okay now, but please don't let it go without a discussion.

Nope it won't. Calling me a bitch was not acceptable. Thankfully the girls were already out the door and walking into the garage so they didn't hear it. 

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Feb 13, 2014 10:20:10 GMT -5 beefcheeks said:

Feb 13, 2014 10:16:50 GMT -5 tillie said:

A. Why are you taking the trash out (and taking the kids to daycare).

I don't get it? Why wouldn't she do these things? 

I actually don't take it out as a trade off since I'm the one that loads the kids and takes them to daycare every day. I think that's what she was getting at.