Also, we have a kind of unspoken rule about this in that whoever gets to stay home and do jack shit all day takes the lion's share of the work in getting the children ready in the mornings, making dinner at night, etc, unless they're seriously dying.
Yes
Unless you are puking you have to participate in the morning on some level. Sorry not sorry.
It took a couple years but H is good about it now.
Also, we have a kind of unspoken rule about this in that whoever gets to stay home and do jack shit all day takes the lion's share of the work in getting the children ready in the mornings, making dinner at night, etc, unless they're seriously dying.
This exactly. I'm home on Fridays, and MH takes him to daycare, and I get up and get his bag ready and his clothes on and whatnot so H can get himself ready for work. On mornings when we're both going to work, we still split the load even though I'm usually the one that actually drops him off.
And yeah. Namecalling may be acceptable in some relationships, so if it's okay in yours, KOKO; but I'd burn shit down over being called a bitch. That's fucking disrespectful.
Right? I seriously can't get over this. I would be lock the doors/sleep on the couch level raging over this.
Post by hopecounts on Feb 13, 2014 10:29:06 GMT -5
I'd be pissed. I have a cold and I am still managing to take care of DD (I'm a SAHM) all day. Is it fun, no but it's not that hard. You asked him to do 2 easy tasks to get y'all out the door, he should've sucked it up for the 5 or so minutes it would've taken and then gone and laid down.
And yeah. Namecalling may be acceptable in some relationships, so if it's okay in yours, KOKO; but I'd burn shit down over being called a bitch. That's fucking disrespectful.
Right? I seriously can't get over this. I would be lock the doors/sleep on the couch level raging over this.
No it's definitely not ok and I don't mean to make it sound like it's ok. I absolutely plan on talking to him about it tonight because it is unacceptable to me to say that to me, regardless of whether the girls were there or not. I just don't want to talk to him about it today while I'm at work because I would get upset here and I really do try to keep my emotional stuff out of the workplace.
I actually don't take it out as a trade off since I'm the one that loads the kids and takes them to daycare every day. I think that's what she was getting at.
Right, I kind of read it as, you were doing something nice for him - not asking him to go outside - and instead asked him to do something else would be easier/better for him since he was sick. I think that is nice of you, and I don't get why some one would ask "Why did you do that". IDK, maybe I'm being weird. lol
I actually don't take it out as a trade off since I'm the one that loads the kids and takes them to daycare every day. I think that's what she was getting at.
Right, I kind of read it as, you were doing something nice for him - not asking him to go outside - and instead asked him to do something else would be easier/better for him since he was sick. I think that is nice of you, and I don't get why some one would ask "Why did you do that". IDK, maybe I'm being weird. lol
I actually don't take it out as a trade off since I'm the one that loads the kids and takes them to daycare every day. I think that's what she was getting at.
Yes, exactly. I just meant that it seemed as though you had enough on your plate this morning.
Ideally the things I'd asked him to do would have happened while I was out there messing with the trash cans.