WWYD - or at least come and be annoyed with me.

[mcc]

He sounds like a super humanitarian preying on people with big hearts. I'm sorry

[Deleted]

That is super gross.

How did H find out you slept together? That's so crazy!

I wouldn't do anything. It's gross, but probably not unusual and I doubt the founder would be able to do much since he's not doing anything illegal or against the rules (are there rules?).

[becwheat]

I am admittedly overly sensitive to the age issue because this is how X started his decent into under age girls.. but that is just me, she is legal, so whatever.

However if this organization has a policy against this, then I would report it. How did you find out about the other girl? They may not be able to do anything about that situation if you are going on hearsay. It is just skeezy though. Gross!

[doriswe]

He sounds skeevy.

[MyName]

He definitely sounds skeezy, but they are both adults like you said.

[becwheat]

Feb 13, 2014 13:08:40 GMT -5 mp said:

Feb 13, 2014 13:05:41 GMT -5 @buckybells said:

That is super gross.

How did H find out you slept together? That's so crazy!

I wouldn't do anything. It's gross, but probably not unusual and I doubt the founder would be able to do much since he's not doing anything illegal or against the rules (are there rules?).

H and I became good friends and she found out he had slept with "someone". Turns out there was at least one other person besides me - but when she found this out, I came clean because I didn't want there to be anything between our friendship (and she was doubting the story about him cheating on her.)

Anyway, it could have blown up on me, but it didn't.

I don't know if there are rules for their employees, but either way I feel it's bad juju. Bad juju but not illegal or my business, I know. I just have to believe in karma.

MY thought on reporting it to the organization was just in reference to your experience. My mom is a court reporter and has worked on a lot of case of sexual harassment and this guy might leave the company with lawsuit someday if he continues to do this. That was my only thought on why I may report, IF there is a policy. 

[cuddlyevil]

Yipes.

I'm sorry mp.

[Deleted]

Sorry mp, that stinks

[Deleted]

Sure it's a little skeevy, but I don't really think it's a big deal. Everyone is legal and I actually think it's probably pretty normal for people to "connect" over this type of trip. The trip members are volunteers right? So the 20 year-old likely isn't receiving special treatment (promotions, bonuses, etc.?). I guess I'm missing something but I don't see anything really that inappropriate here. If he was making people uncomfortable that would be one thing. But it sounds like he was professional by flirting with you after the trip (not excessively during) and who's to say it isn't the same with this girl? I'd let it go. You've already spent too much energy on someone who is an asshole.

[formerlyak]

There are likely rules for their employees about sleeping with people on the trip, but if it happened after the trip on their own time, the company probably doesn't want to be involved and their rules likely no longer apply. Regardless, if you did write a letter it would be a his word against your word kind of situation and his side of the story (since he sounds super on the up and up) would be something like, "Oh, she's just jealous because she tried to get with me and I turned her down. Now she is trying to make me look bad somehow." KWIM?

It is annoying though.

[Deleted]

Feb 13, 2014 13:37:28 GMT -5 mp said:

Feb 13, 2014 13:30:37 GMT -5 @pdx18 said:

Sure it's a little skeevy, but I don't really think it's a big deal. Everyone is legal and I actually think it's probably pretty normal for people to "connect" over this type of trip. The trip members are volunteers right? So the 20 year-old likely isn't receiving special treatment (promotions, bonuses, etc.?). I guess I'm missing something but I don't see anything really that inappropriate here. If he was making people uncomfortable that would be one thing. But it sounds like he was professional by flirting with you after the trip (not excessively during) and who's to say it isn't the same with this girl? I'd let it go. You've already spent too much energy on someone who is an asshole.

Isn't that what more than half of proboards is, LOL? Spending too much time on shit we shouldn't?

I am annoyed and grossed out. I posted about it here.

I think when you're leading a humanitarian trip, it's gross to use that as a platform to sleep with people.

No, it's not illegal. It's not even necessarily unethical. It's just gross and I think it's a bad image for the organization. It's a small incestuous world in this circle, and the reputation gets out there.

I've already said I wanted to send a letter, but wouldn't become it would come across petty.

Should we all stop venting on here?

I was trying to be nice and say you are too good to waste your time on an asshole that's all. 

[jojoandleo]

Yeah, I find it skeevy to go on humanitarian trips specifically to get some ass. Happening to connect? Cool. But this sounds like his actual agenda is to get laid by randoms who won't know his GF.

Skeevy- /gavel.

[starburst604]

He is gross. I wish there was something you could do about it too, but such is life. H isn't still with him, is she?

[Deleted]

What a douche.

[Deleted]

No. Move on.

It's gross and he is gross and it is completely understandable that you feel this way.

But she's of legal age and it is none of your business.

Ignore.

[kaneen]

Ewww...skeevy dbag.

Not you, the guy