Post by nonsenseabound on May 14, 2012 15:47:57 GMT -5
My aunt's sister just died after a battle with lung cancer. I am sending my aunt a card, but do I put some money in it?
Background: the sister has a husband/three adult daughters and they will be taking care of all arrangments in another state. My aunt's father just died two months ago and I included $25 in that check towards a memorial fund. FWIW, I knew her father a little from my childhood. I do not know this sister except for a few weddings and showers over the years for my cousins.
Post by definitelyO on May 14, 2012 15:59:12 GMT -5
I wouldn't send money in the card. if they are taking memorials then make a donation in his name on your own. don't give her one more thing to do or wonder what to do with...
If they are asking for donations in her name, you can do that if you would like to. But don't include a random check with the card, that seems very awkward.
You could send money to a charitable organization in the sister's name, but I'd personally only do that if it was requested in lieu of flowers. Or if you know for a fact that the aunt/sister supports that charity.
If you just want to do it to show your sympathy, you could send a gift card to a local restaurant and say something like, "Please order dinner one night, on me."
When MIL died, a friend of hers sent MH a sympathy card and a check, and requested that MH buy some yellow roses (for friendship) and leave them on her grave for him.
Post by MixedBerryJam on May 14, 2012 16:16:39 GMT -5
If there is a memorial fund and you want to donate to it, send a check under separate cover.
I am widowed and I probably received 200 condolence cards. Not one of them had a check made out to me in it. (We had memorial charities [ddh's two favorite charities] that people sent donations to directly if they wished, but did not have an actual memorial fund.)