I have a flameworthy question.

[Jalapeñomel]

Assuming she is having a shower, no I don't think I would bring a gift.

[katie4253]

I wouldn't.

[livinitup]

I bought a gender neutral onesie to one Agee months ago. They served more than cake, so it had a party vibe and I didn't want to bring wine.

[noodleskooze]

No

[livinitup]

I bought one gender neutral onesie to one a few months ago. They served more than cake, so it had a party vibe and I didn't want to bring wine.

I think you can go without a gift to someone's home who is serving cake.

[rupertpenny]

I wouldn't. Part of my reasoning is that you have to buy something gender neutral, but if someone is making such a big fucking deal about what parts their kid has they probably have no use for gender neutral anything.

[sookie]

I would if it was a close friend and I saw something randomly that I wanted to get. Otherwise, no. I wouldn't expect gifts either.

[runner09]

I would but that's just me. I don't think you need to or have to bring a gift, especially if they will have a shower.

The only gender reveal party that I attended was for a very close family member and only family members attended.

We all brought a boy and girl gift, then returned the one not needed.

I think they are a fun way to celebrate but i would side eye if they do it expecting gifts.

[jackie011]

I wouldn't, as I agree the whole point is to get everyone pumped that you're Team Blue or Team Pink, right? But, I've also never been to one before. A good friend called me right after her AS and told me she was having a girl, and I happened to be out shopping, so I picked up a pink stuffed animal and gave it to her the next time we were together. Maybe you could get a small something after the fact? I agree, though, if she's going to have a shower, just wait until then to give a gift.

I think a lot of people just like buying baby stuff- at least that's been our experience so far!

[Deleted]

No. I refuse to encourage the madness.

[londoncalling]

I did a board book from TJ Maxx. $5. My store regularly has The Very Hungry Cattepillar, Brown Bear Brown Bear, various Dr Seuss, and Little Blue Truck. Pretty basic and I don't feel empty handed.

[Brie]

I support all events that result in me getting cake.

I would bring something small, like a book.

[shortstax]

I've brought a gift bag with 2 packages of wipes in it. Total cost = $5. I figure if I went to a dinner party I'd typically bring wine, and that didn't fit the situation for a gender reveal.

[carolinagirl831]

Feb 16, 2014 9:29:25 GMT -5 @starry said:

I have come full circle on gender reveal parties now that I have never seen anyone IRL have one. I am highly considering getting a "gender" reveal cake for #2 so that me, my husband, J, my parents, and in laws can all find out together (I won't invite anyone else).

Anyway I say no gift.

ETA: on second though maybe I will also have a photographer so you all can really flame the hell out of me

See I don't think it's that weird if you only invite family, grand parents eat up this kind of thing. It's more the inviting all you're friends and coworkers that gets the side eye, no one else really cars that much!

[winecheery]

I'd bring something like a book, or wubanub or whatever that is small and gender neutral. But I love giving gifts.

Honestly who cares if the concept of a gender reveal is stupid or not, if I'd decided to attend, that means I'm committed to buying into the crazy, and therefore that means showing up and celebrating properly. To me, for this kind of thing, I bring gifts lol

Actually, I'd probably bring a Sophie, because that is a gift I have bought for every girlfriend when they've announced their pregnancies. It's become a little tradition in my circle. Like, when you're KU, winecheery buys you the infamous giraffe! I always buy these women shower gifts later, too.

[gibbinator]

No. I went to one that one of my moms group moms threw for another pg moms group mom (confusing sentence). We played old wives tales games and made our guesses, then ate cake. No one brought a gift.

[chicago]

I'd bring something small in a gift bag and probably a card.

[ECB]

This is where I REALLY draw the line. Assuming they'll have a shower, the idea that gender reveal parties are ALSO gift giving events? No, no, no. The greed has to stop somewhere! (Not that they are throwing the party to get presents - but if it actually becomes expected that gifts are given, then it does start to become greedy to have multiple gift giving events where you're inviting the same people to them.)

This is why I don't see engagement parties as gift giving events either. They'll definitely get a wedding gift from me, and possibly a shower gift if I'm invited. I'm sure as hell not buying a THIRD gift for the couple too!

[dulcemariamar]

I would probably buy something small. Less than 10 dollars but I would only go if I was super close to the person. I think they are totally AW events but I love cake.

[shellbear09]

Nope but I've never been to one.

[curbsideprophet]

No, I don't think I would bring a gift.

[sporklemotion]

Assuming there's no shower, I would bring a gift if she's a close enough friend that you would have given her something anyway. I had friends who weren't invited to my shower give me little things (a book, outfit, etc.). I don't know if they knew I had a shower-- it was family-only and very last minute (I was 38 weeks).

[iheartbanjos]

Yup. I either do home made burp cloths (I bring both boy and girl colors and just give the appropriate one) or I do a onesie from their alma matter. A wubanub is a good idea too!

[leonard131]

I don't see the need but if it at her home then maybe something small along the lines of what you spend for a hostess gift.


Not big into gender reveal but I thought what some friends did was cute. He was overseas so wasn't able to go to the sonogram when you normally find out. She asked them not to tell her either. When he got home a couple months later she had cupcakes made. She had asked the nurse at the doctors office to write down the sex in a sealed envelope. She gave it to the bakery and they both got to find out at the same time when they bit into their cupcake.

[dragonfly08]

I had never heard of these until I started reading about them here. Not sure what I'd do if invited to one. On one hand, I don't see the need for yet another gift giving opportunity...I've got the shower and/or the birth of the baby for that. On the other, I rarely say no to cake and hate to go anywhere empty handed, but my usual go-to of a bottle of wine or flowers for the hostess doesn't seem right for this. Maybe something small like a board book or gender-neutral item.

[scribellesam]

My agreeing to attend some dumbass AW party should be gift enough.

Kidding. Mostly. I would not bring a gift.

[GracieLouFreebush1]

I've been to one and brought a board book.

[statlerwaldorf]

I've only been to one, but no one brought gifts.