Eating as a guest

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Why are people saying that they hold back their eating when they are guests?

How is this "polite"?

If I'm not eating, it's because your food sucks.

If I'm wolfing down your grub, you should be happy and take it as a huge compliment.

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I always take a little less than I would at home so there is " enough" to go around. I am always afraid there won't be enough food for everyone & I will be the pig on there 4th slice in the corner.

[valetgirl]

Exactly! In my crowd/family, you are encouraged to indulge.

[ginap]

Because I don't want people to know that I am the piggy pig pig that I truly am.

[wannabe]

Usually to make sure I don't eat so much that there isn't enough for other people.

[Deleted]

I don't hold back to be polite, I hold back because it is utterly embarrassing how much food I can put away.

[whattheheck]

I take a modest first serving, make sure there is enough for everyone, and then take seconds. My sister-in-law loves when I come to visit because I am not shy about taking seconds or leftovers - she can cook!

[Deleted]

I don't hold back. Sometimes Dh gets embarrassed by how much I eat at parties.

I roll my eyes at him and get a second helping.

[Deleted]

I am from Minnesota so this is how everyone is.

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Feb 18, 2014 17:31:11 GMT -5 @savestheday said:

I always take a little less than I would at home so there is " enough" to go around. I am always afraid there won't be enough food for everyone & I will be the pig on there 4th slice in the corner.

Feb 18, 2014 17:32:14 GMT -5 wannabe said:

Usually to make sure I don't eat so much that there isn't enough for other people.

I don't go to shitty parties that don't have enough food.

That's no party.

[flutterfly]

I just would rather there be enough leftovers to go around.  If it's obvious that it's going to waste then I'd probably indulge more.

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Feb 18, 2014 17:35:51 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Feb 18, 2014 17:31:11 GMT -5 @savestheday said:

I always take a little less than I would at home so there is " enough" to go around. I am always afraid there won't be enough food for everyone & I will be the pig on there 4th slice in the corner.

Feb 18, 2014 17:32:14 GMT -5 wannabe said:

Usually to make sure I don't eat so much that there isn't enough for other people.

I don't go to shitty parties that don't have enough food.

That's no party.

Yeah but in my mind there is NEVER ENOUGH!!! Like EVER!

[dana2006]

Normally this is not an issue for me, but sometimes I find myself curbing how much I eat at my MIL's house. She eats like a bird and has occasionally made oblique comments that make me think she might find huge appetite in women offputting. So I cut back to H's level--I normally eat more than he does.

The downside to having non-Asian inlaws. LOL.

[8675309]

For my parties, I always ALWAYS over estimate the food and I don't ever plan on changing that. I also buy those cheapy tupperware containers for every party and offer friends to take home some of the left overs. (They never decline.) This pisses DH off but that's why my RSVP rates are so high. PEOPLE EAT at my parties!

[Deleted]

Ok.

I'm about to make a gross generalization that may offend many of you.

Who is hosting these parties that don't provide enough food?

Because.

Well.

That doesn't happen when Asian people host.

LEFTOVERS FOR ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL.

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Feb 18, 2014 17:40:15 GMT -5 dana2006 said:

Normally this is not an issue for me, but sometimes I find myself curbing how much I eat at my MIL's house. She eats like a bird and has occasionally made oblique comments that make me think she might find huge appetite in women offputting. So I cut back to H's level--I normally eat more than he does.

The downside to having non-Asian inlaws. LOL.

You get it.

And I wrote my post below before even reading your post.  Hahahahahaha.

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Feb 18, 2014 17:41:06 GMT -5 8675309 said:

For my parties, I always ALWAYS over estimate the food and I don't ever plan on changing that. I also buy those cheapy tupperware containers for every party and offer friends to take home some of the left overs. (They never decline.) This pisses DH off but that's why my RSVP rates are so high. PEOPLE EAT at my parties!

Why does this piss him off?

I'll tell you what would piss me off.

NOT ENOUGH FOOD.

[papie]

Feb 18, 2014 17:41:11 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Ok.

I'm about to make a gross generalization that may offend many of you.

Who is hosting these parties that don't provide enough food?

Because.

Well.

That doesn't happen when Asian people host.

LEFTOVERS FOR ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL.

Or greeks.  My mom would DIE. 

[sharknado]

I went to a wedding reception that was catered by an Asian restaurant. They sent people home with doggie bags.
kevin arnold

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Feb 18, 2014 17:43:38 GMT -5 sharknado said:

I went to a wedding reception that was catered by an Asian restaurant. They sent people home with doggie bags.
kevin arnold

We provided takeout boxes for our guests to take wedding cake home.

I mean, we did have four different flavors of cake.

This way you got to have four pieces if you wanted!

[papie]

Feb 18, 2014 17:40:15 GMT -5 dana2006 said:

Normally this is not an issue for me, but sometimes I find myself curbing how much I eat at my MIL's house. She eats like a bird and has occasionally made oblique comments that make me think she might find huge appetite in women offputting. So I cut back to H's level--I normally eat more than he does.

The downside to having non-Asian inlaws. LOL.

My ILs are like that.  They go out for dinner every single day and SHARE a meal.  The first time I was over for cake, I asked for a small piece (because in my family if you don't ask for a small piece you get 1/6 of the cake) and got the thinnest sliver I had ever seen.  WTF? lol

Oh and the first time I was over there for a BBQ, they asked if I wanted a hot dog or burger.  I said one of each.  Then realized thatit was NOT normal in their family.  Damn skinny wasps. 

[8675309]

Feb 18, 2014 17:42:40 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Feb 18, 2014 17:41:06 GMT -5 8675309 said:

For my parties, I always ALWAYS over estimate the food and I don't ever plan on changing that. I also buy those cheapy tupperware containers for every party and offer friends to take home some of the left overs. (They never decline.) This pisses DH off but that's why my RSVP rates are so high. PEOPLE EAT at my parties!

Why does this piss him off?

I'll tell you what would piss me off.

NOT ENOUGH FOOD.

Because the left overs go home with other people! Which reminds me. I still have TONS of left overs in our fridge from the Superbowl party even AFTER I gave away shit. I need to point that out to DH's stingy ass.

[starlily]

Feb 18, 2014 17:41:11 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Ok.

I'm about to make a gross generalization that may offend many of you.

Who is hosting these parties that don't provide enough food?

Because.

Well.

That doesn't happen when Asian people host.

LEFTOVERS FOR ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL.

I once went to a baby shower where they took away the food before people could have a round 2 at the buffet spread. And then the leftovers were packed away and placed out of sight.

The hosts were not Asian.

[murdock]

I always eat as a guest. I keep telling myself that it's a compliment to the host.

I have one friend who did not provide enough food at parties. A few of us had to lovingly tease her into submission to supply more.

[Deleted]

If it's someone I know well, then all bets are off. But if it's someone new or someone I don't know as well, I am more reserved. This is only because I tend to be weird about food from people I don't know well.

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[sandyapples]

Feb 18, 2014 17:32:11 GMT -5 ginap said:

Because I don't want people to know that I am the piggy pig pig that I truly am.

Exactly, lol.

[dana2006]

Feb 18, 2014 17:46:26 GMT -5 papie said:

Feb 18, 2014 17:40:15 GMT -5 dana2006 said:

Normally this is not an issue for me, but sometimes I find myself curbing how much I eat at my MIL's house. She eats like a bird and has occasionally made oblique comments that make me think she might find huge appetite in women offputting. So I cut back to H's level--I normally eat more than he does.

The downside to having non-Asian inlaws. LOL.

My ILs are like that.  They go out for dinner every single day and SHARE a meal.  The first time I was over for cake, I asked for a small piece (because in my family if you don't ask for a small piece you get 1/6 of the cake) and got the thinnest sliver I had ever seen.  WTF? lol

Oh and the first time I was over there for a BBQ, they asked if I wanted a hot dog or burger.  I said one of each.  Then realized thatit was NOT normal in their family.  Damn skinny wasps. 

I do this too, and MIL would chuckle, which gives me a complex. It was the worst when I was in my first trimester extreme hunger phase and she was making fun of my appetite--RAGE.

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Feb 18, 2014 17:54:40 GMT -5 starlily said:

Feb 18, 2014 17:41:11 GMT -5 @misoangry said:

Ok.

I'm about to make a gross generalization that may offend many of you.

Who is hosting these parties that don't provide enough food?

Because.

Well.

That doesn't happen when Asian people host.

LEFTOVERS FOR ALL!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL.

I once went to a baby shower where they took away the food before people could have a round 2 at the buffet spread. And then the leftovers were packed away and placed out of sight.

The hosts were not Asian.

WTF?!?!?!?!?!?!

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Feb 18, 2014 18:00:22 GMT -5 dana2006 said:

Feb 18, 2014 17:46:26 GMT -5 papie said:

My ILs are like that.  They go out for dinner every single day and SHARE a meal.  The first time I was over for cake, I asked for a small piece (because in my family if you don't ask for a small piece you get 1/6 of the cake) and got the thinnest sliver I had ever seen.  WTF? lol

Oh and the first time I was over there for a BBQ, they asked if I wanted a hot dog or burger.  I said one of each.  Then realized thatit was NOT normal in their family.  Damn skinny wasps. 

I do this too, and MIL would chuckle, which gives me a complex. It was the worst when I was in my first trimester extreme hunger phase and she was making fun of my appetite--RAGE.

I am in a rage for both of you.

Clearly, one of each is the correct answer.

[jane6672]

I feed people because I love and appreciate them.


I'm not stingy with my love.