I strongly dislike when people bring the drama...

[gerberdaisy]

did she deactivate? I was reading that on ML though. Then I couldn't remember her back story and went and read old posts...this afternoon has not been productive.

[spindle92]

I was right in the middle of reading her back story when BAM, she deactivated.

[gerberdaisy]

Well that stinks. I was expecting a solid 9 months of drama out of that post Now how do I kill the last 25 minutes of work.

[gerberdaisy]

Feb 19, 2014 16:34:52 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

I was right in the middle of reading her back story when BAM, she deactivated.

I just read it all, so if you have any questions I can help. 

[spindle92]

Feb 19, 2014 16:36:43 GMT -5 gerberdaisy said:

Feb 19, 2014 16:34:52 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

I was right in the middle of reading her back story when BAM, she deactivated.

I just read it all, so if you have any questions I can help. 

Fill me in, what is her story with the bf?

[spindle92]

Feb 19, 2014 16:33:06 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

I'm surprised she deactivated. She's gotten flamed worse before, probably even during last year's unplanned pregnancy...

and she was pg last year - was it by her current bf or someone else?

[gerberdaisy]

Feb 19, 2014 16:37:47 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

Feb 19, 2014 16:36:43 GMT -5 gerberdaisy said:

I just read it all, so if you have any questions I can help. 

Fill me in, what is her story with the bf?

Oh crap, I promised to have the info, and I started at the beginning and got bored.  I'm such a failure.  All I saw was a post on here from 12/13-ish that said she "found the man she wants to marry" only I believe it had caps and !!!!!1!!!.  Other than that just on ML that she was complaining about money problems. 

[gerberdaisy]

Feb 19, 2014 16:39:15 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

Feb 19, 2014 16:33:06 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

I'm surprised she deactivated. She's gotten flamed worse before, probably even during last year's unplanned pregnancy...

and she was pg last year - was it by her current bf or someone else?

xh, right?

[spindle92]

Feb 19, 2014 16:40:42 GMT -5 gerberdaisy said:

Feb 19, 2014 16:37:47 GMT -5 spindle92 said:

Fill me in, what is her story with the bf?

Oh crap, I promised to have the info, and I started at the beginning and got bored.  I'm such a failure.  All I saw was a post on here from 12/13-ish that said she "found the man she wants to marry" only I believe it had caps and !!!!!1!!!.  Other than that just on ML that she was complaining about money problems. 

Come on girl - I need more!!!

[spindle92]

Feb 19, 2014 16:42:05 GMT -5 mp said:

Her current boyfriend was the emotional affair man that ended her marriage. I mean, I don't think she had a healthy marriage, but she literally went from the exH to the current boyfriend with no break. She said she gave therapy a shot but it didn't work, after like 2 times of going. She was one of the most codependent posters on the board, which leads me to believe this was NOT an accident, at all.

It is coming back to me now, thank you mp.

[gerberdaisy]

Feb 19, 2014 16:42:58 GMT -5 jellymankelly said:

Feb 19, 2014 16:40:56 GMT -5 gerberdaisy said:

xh, right?

I was never clear on this. She was under her old sn at that point. She was still married, but was having (or had recently had) an affair with the guy who is her BF now.

You're probably right.  Thought I read something that said it was him (xh), like they got back together for a hot min, he may have forced her (hesitant to say that cause I don't want to be wrong), then pregnant.  I should have read closer.

[spindle92]

Feb 19, 2014 16:45:54 GMT -5 @boing said:

It wasn't an accident. She mentioned just a few weeks ago wanting to be pregnant. And then when she announced she said it wasn't "exactly" planned. It was definitely "accidentally" on purpose.

Good memory @boing.

[gozf]

I really wish she would have stuck with therapy and taken some accountability.

[kitkat1502]

I was lurking reading and could not for one second believe "three methods failing" BC, Condoms, and charting". Which I guess charting was some app? Anyway, then when she was called out and asked if the condom broke, if she missed a pill she responded with "I don't know". What do you mean you don't know...a condom broke once last year and I got the Plan B pill the next day. That kind of thing you remember if you're really trying not to get pregnant.

[berbles]

Blarg. I like (and have met) her. But man. This is bad. It reminds me a lot of my ex and how any time life started to feel manageable/stagnate, he would throw some chaos in, just for funsies. Usually it was another pet. This is how we ended up with 5 animals.

Honey, if you're still reading, I wish you the best.

[Deleted]

Damn is this whole post deleted now? I could use a little dramz to get me through the day.

[justkly]

Feb 19, 2014 16:42:05 GMT -5 mp said:

Her current boyfriend was the emotional affair man that ended her marriage. I mean, I don't think she had a healthy marriage, but she literally went from the exH to the current boyfriend with no break. She said she gave therapy a shot but it didn't work, after like 2 times of going. She was one of the most codependent posters on the board, which leads me to believe this was NOT an accident, at all.

You forgot to add that her current BF was her Ex's BFF.

[lyssbobiss, Command, B613]

Wow. That was...fun?

[berbles]

I've never understood why people deactivate immediately after they start drama. All it's going to do it make people talk MORE and now you can't even come back and defend yourself!

[justkly]

Yes mp.  I didn't recall that either. Someone called her out when she initially said she was pregnant and she confirmed it.  I can't find it since she deactivated.  I'm a little shocked at the BFF thing, but not the pregnancy. I hope Sourpatch20 is happy with the decisions she has made and good luck to her.

[Deleted]

happens every week on this board

[jojoandleo]

I feel like this is a good place to admit I only use one form of BC. When I wasn't in a committed relationship, I used condoms too, but once I moved in with H? Ah hellllllll naw. One of the main reasons for BC is to not have to mess with condoms. Does this mean if I get oops pregnant it's not really an oops? Do I need to use multiple forms of BC in order to claim a pregnancy was oops? Or is that claim only for people pretending a planned baby was an oops?

[Deleted]

She was having an emotional affair and then pregnant with the H's (?) baby, had a miscarriage. Then she left her xH and moved right onto the emotional affair guy's dick and is presently pregnant (we think?) with his baby. Possibly. If she was using 3 methods of BC (pills, condoms and "charting"), one could assume she's probably peeing on the remote and getting seeing a + (volume) sign. Anyways, the new BF/baby daddy was her xH's BFF and in their wedding (best man?).

Lost cause, that one. Poor kids.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

Feb 19, 2014 22:47:36 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I feel like this is a good place to admit I only use one form of BC. When I wasn't in a committed relationship, I used condoms too, but once I moved in with H? Ah hellllllll naw. One of the main reasons for BC is to not have to mess with condoms. Does this mean if I get oops pregnant it's not really an oops? Do I need to use multiple forms of BC in order to claim a pregnancy was oops? Or is that claim only for people pretending a planned baby was an oops?

I think the thing with her that made it so suspect was saying "did everything we could" and when then questioned more said the 3 BC's she was supposedly using.  Also, I think a couple weeks ago she was saying something about wishing she was pregnant.  She always struck me as very codependent and I remember her pouting and being a sad sack when her BF had to go out of town for like 2 days.

I think if she had said, we were only using BC or only condoms people would have responded differently.  But claiming to have done EVERYTHING!!!

ETA: and yes, that claim is only for people with a planned oops baby

[spindle92]

Feb 19, 2014 22:49:22 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

She was having an emotional affair and then pregnant with the H's (?) baby, had a miscarriage. Then she left her xH and moved right onto the emotional affair guy's dick and is presently pregnant (we think?) with his baby. Possibly. If she was using 3 methods of BC (pills, condoms and "charting"), one could assume she's probably peeing on the remote and getting seeing a + (volume) sign. Anyways, the new BF/baby daddy was her xH's BFF and in their wedding (best man?).

Lost cause, that one. Poor kids.

Now that is a recap.

[jojoandleo]

Feb 19, 2014 22:57:00 GMT -5 pantsoffdanceoff said:

Feb 19, 2014 22:47:36 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

I feel like this is a good place to admit I only use one form of BC. When I wasn't in a committed relationship, I used condoms too, but once I moved in with H? Ah hellllllll naw. One of the main reasons for BC is to not have to mess with condoms. Does this mean if I get oops pregnant it's not really an oops? Do I need to use multiple forms of BC in order to claim a pregnancy was oops? Or is that claim only for people pretending a planned baby was an oops?

I think the thing with her that made it so suspect was saying "did everything we could" and when then questioned more said the 3 BC's she was supposedly using.  Also, I think a couple weeks ago she was saying something about wishing she was pregnant.  She always struck me as very codependent and I remember her pouting and being a sad sack when her BF had to go out of town for like 2 days.

I think if she had said, we were only using BC or only condoms people would have responded differently.  But claiming to have done EVERYTHING!!!

ETA: and yes, that claim is only for people with a planned oops baby

Yeah, I feel like I'm doing everything I can just by having an IUD (even though I know my mom got pregnant with one).  I dunno, the chances are so slim when actually inserted correctly that I would be pretty fucking pissed if I got pregnant.  And I would coe on here all "OMG!  I got pregnant with an IUD!  WTF!?!"

I feel like coming on all "we used 3 forms of birth control and I douched with a coke afterwards" is code for, "Well, I told HIM I was on the pill and poked holes in the condom."  

[chikastuff]

Feb 19, 2014 23:20:27 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

Feb 19, 2014 22:57:00 GMT -5 pantsoffdanceoff said:

I think the thing with her that made it so suspect was saying "did everything we could" and when then questioned more said the 3 BC's she was supposedly using.  Also, I think a couple weeks ago she was saying something about wishing she was pregnant.  She always struck me as very codependent and I remember her pouting and being a sad sack when her BF had to go out of town for like 2 days.

I think if she had said, we were only using BC or only condoms people would have responded differently.  But claiming to have done EVERYTHING!!!

ETA: and yes, that claim is only for people with a planned oops baby

Yeah, I feel like I'm doing everything I can just by having an IUD (even though I know my mom got pregnant with one).  I dunno, the chances are so slim when actually inserted correctly that I would be pretty fucking pissed if I got pregnant.  And I would coe on here all "OMG!  I got pregnant with an IUD!  WTF!?!"

I feel like coming on all "we used 3 forms of birth control and I douched with a coke afterwards" is code for, "Well, I told HIM I was on the pill and poked holes in the condom."  

OMG I'm dying!

[katietornado]

OK so if you're on the pill, there's nothing to chart, because you're not ovulating. WTF?!

[Deleted]

Feb 21, 2014 21:02:10 GMT -5 katietornado said:

OK so if you're on the pill, there's nothing to chart, because you're not ovulating. WTF?!

Whoa whoa whoa.  You can't just come in here swinging your big logic and SCIENCE all over the place.  We are ladies.  LADIES.  ::clutches pearls::

[doriswe]

Feb 21, 2014 21:04:39 GMT -5 @bigtowlittletoe said:

Feb 21, 2014 21:02:10 GMT -5 katietornado said:

OK so if you're on the pill, there's nothing to chart, because you're not ovulating. WTF?!

Whoa whoa whoa.  You can't just come in here swinging your big logic and SCIENCE all over the place.  We are ladies.  LADIES.  ::clutches pearls::