When do you look forward to your DH leaving?

[cricketwife]

Someone posted yesterday about being glad that their DH is going out of town. I've heard other people (who've been married longer than I have) say the same thing.

I miss him when he's gone. I don't know if it's because we've been married <2 yrs or b/c we were on different continents before we got married or what.

At what point will I say, "Yippee, DH is leaving!" And what is the advantage to his absence? I'm genuinely curious.

[mrsjuleshs]

Mine works out of town so he is gone every other week. I do miss him but not as much when DD is over at her dad's and I get the whole house to myself.

[rikki]

My husband travels a lot for work. I don't mind it at all. After a week or so, I am ready for him to come home. When he is not traveling, I want him to come home earlier than he does. I get antsy to eat and hang out.

[Deleted]

We're coming up on our second anniversary. I miss DH when he travels (which is a lot) but I really enjoy the first night of alone time to watch shows he can't stand and eat whatever I want.

[Brie]

Jul 9, 2012 10:23:17 GMT -5 cricketwife said:

At what point will I say, "Yippee, DH is leaving!" And what is the advantage to his absence?

I think, for us, it's more of making the best of the situation. I prefer to have DH home, of course, but when he has to go somewhere (or, more often, when I have to travel solo for work), it's fun to focus on doing things that I enjoy without having to compromise for a change of pace.

I like being able to have full control over the remote, having foods DH doesn't like for dinner, stretching out in the bed, and not having to wait for him to finish with his obscenely long showers in the morning. I still miss him, but it is a nice change of pace to spend a few days apart here and there.

[jinnifah]

Recently, when he says "I'll take DS out for a couple hours tomorrow to give you a break", haha

Otherwise, I really prefer when he's home (pre and post baby)

[everafter07]

I'm never happy that he's gone, but I like some aspects of being on my own.

I can watch whatever I want on TV, eat cereal for dinner, read until late (DH complains that the light from my ipad keeps him up), go out with just girlfriends (I can do this anytime, just prefer to do stuff with him and couple friends when he's home)

[hannamarin]

I like having control of the remote. And being able to eat cereal for dinner
One night tops.

[Deleted]

I'm an introvert. I like having time to myself. H can be like a tornado, turning on the TV and lights and leaving his shit everywhere (figuratively!). I like to sit and read with a glass of wine.

I like it when he works one or two evenings a week and I have the house to myself. I would not like it if he traveled frequently for work.

[stingsharkruns]

We've been married a little over 3 years. DH travels for work most of the time, but for the last month he's been home. We were getting a little testy last week. on Saturday he drove around looking at boat crap w/ my Dad, and yesterday he went to the gun show in Orlando. The timing for him to be gone for the weekend was perfect. We needed some space.

When he's gone for work; I like the quiet on Monday/Tuesday, by wednesday i'm sick of talking to him on the phone, and by Thursday I can't wait for him to get home.

[niki]

His Sunday night hockey games. I indulge in chicken nuggets, fries, and reruns of "My Big Fat Gypsy Wedding" (non-crappy American version).

[birdmom]

DH travels frequently for work, usually for a week at a time. One time he was gone for 12 weeks, but home on weekends. That kinda sucked, but if it's just for a week and he's home again, I'm used to that and don't mind it. Now that we have a kid, it's actually easier for me because it's one less person to clean up after

[ReenaP]

I enjoy it every now and then because I get to watch movies he doesn't want to see, and order foods that he doesn't like.

[fbf2006]

I miss him when he travels, which was quite often last year. We're homebodies and I don't like being home alone for extended periods. I don't mind one night.

[aliciar6]

with FI, never. it just doesn't feel right when he's gone.

with XH, i loved it when either he was away or I was away

[chessie]

DH is part of a mountain bike group, when he leaves normally I worry..but gives me time to spend more time with my horses without feeling too guilty.

[otowngirl]

I enjoyed it more pre-baby, but when MH goes out of town without me (which is really not that often), I like eating / watching whatever I want, and being able to keep the house nice and straight.

I'm sure I would feel differently if MH went out of town more often, though.

[mrshandy]

After we had DS, I don't really look forward to him leaving since it's always easier to have two pair of hands.

Before DS, I didn't mind it every now and then. I get to watch trashy television and do whatever I want.

[miss1180]

we just had our 7 year anniversary. I love having him around- he's my best friend, and we genuinely have a great time just hanging out together.
BUT... once in awhile, i do like a 'break" from him :-) when he goes away for work, or even when he goes out for a beer with some of his friends on Thursday nights. its just nice to have the house to myself for a little while and eat what I want for dinner, and not have to compromise about what i want to watch on TV... but only for a few nights, tops. if hes gone for a week I start to get antsy and want him home.

[ejpint]

We've been married just over two years. I hate when he's gone overnight, which is pretty rare.

We both appreciate the odd night where one of us is busy - he'll sometimes spend the evening with his brothers/friends, and I'll take advantage of wearing my ugliest yoga pants and eating ice cream out of the tub while watching Jersey Shore. I'll go out for dinner and drinks with girlfriends, and he'll take advantage of sitting around drinking beer and playing nerdy video games. Win-win.

We're still very much "what should WE do tonight". Overall, we both prefer to be together as opposed to doing our own thing in separate areas of the house.

[keweenawlove]

We've been married ~2 years, living together for 3. I don't neccessarily "look forward" to him leaving, but I do enjoy having the house to myself every once in awhile. He only travels 2-3 times a year for work and after a day or two of him away, I start to miss him.

[BNL2]

Neither of us travel for work so there is rarely long periods of separation. I'm off this summer and spend most of my days home alone. It's ok and about all I can handle. I still feel a little lonely a few days a week. We've been married 5 years.

[yellowbrkrd]

We've been married 5 years and together 13. The only reason I sometimes look forward to him leaving is because we share a car and I like having access to the car (he drives it to work and I do not work). Otherwise, I miss him and don't really like when he's gone.

[gt7301b]

Having a clean house. My DH is able to trash a freshly cleaned house in about 10 minutes. It is his special "gift".

[aspentosh]

We've been married almost 5 years and I still don't like it when he's gone overnight. I don't mind his weekly softball games because I get some time to myself (well, plus DD). I'm a baby

[Susie]

I really enjoyed living alone before I got married, and when he's gone, I have that quiet and space back. Since it doesn't happen often, it's kind of a treat. I get the bed to myself, don't have to compromise on what we feel like for dinner, etc.

[sillygoosegirl]

I don't get people who are excited about their spouse going out of town. I miss him when we are apart. We've been married 7 years, and in the past year I've started occasionally being glad for him to be gone occassionally, but it's more about our strange circumstances. In the past year, I've started working out of town 4 days per week, and sometimes when I get home DH can be a little smoothering because he is excited for me to be home. I'm excited to see him too, but I also need me-time at home (being alone in a hotel just isn't the same), and it can be a little much some days. I sometimes can't wait for him to get out the door Friday mornings. But then by lunch time I wish he was home again.

[mollz007]

I miss him when we are apart. I am OOT right now and my H is at home and I miss him like crazy. Besides this trip, we haven't been apart this long since before we got married. I have been married less than a year though so I'm not much help.

[audette]

This might have been prompted by me - DH left yesterday for a work trip.

DH is very much a homebody. I like to get out and about a bit more.

We are also fairly practiced at spending copious amounts of time apart - DH is active duty military, and we are around about half/half of time spent staying under the same roof, and time spent living apart. I kinda have to enjoy my alone time, or else I'd go completely, totally batty...


I get to set the temperature in the house, and watch whatever I want on TV and cook foods that I like that DH doesn't care for, etc... I find I have more time available for myself, too.


It all works out OK. I love my husband, and enjoy the time I spend with him when he is home. I look forward to his return from this trip. But, I'm not going to turn into a hermit, or not allow myself to enjoy the weeks between now and then.

[MamaMaui24]

I like when he leaves the house for volleyball on Wednesday nights - then I can have the tv to myself for SYTYCD.