I took my 3 year old to the story time today. At story time she ran over to a stroller and touched one of the toys on it. She noticed it had a toy that she has and likes to point out the toys. I was right behind her and told her not to touch the stroller or the toy. Being 3 she touched it anyway. The other mom grabbed her arm and yelled at her not to touch.
I find it ironic that she was mad at my daughter for touching a toy and grabbed her arm to redirect.
Yes, it would have bothered me. And I'm non-confrontational, so I probably wouldn't have said anything to the mom. But I would have wanted to yell right back at her.
I probably wouldn't have said anything, but in retrospect I would have wanted to say (sweetly directed at my child)"That's a good rule." (Directed with death glare at other mom.) "NO touching other people's things."
I would have straight up told her to not touch my kid. I think it's important to teach him that I will defend his bodies boundaries, even if it seems silly.
Something to the effect of " sorry DS touched your stroller but please don't grab him. I am working on teaching him " body boundaries" you understand right?
Was there a baby or a smaller child in the stroller at the time? Not that it makes it excusable, but I wonder if she was trying to (inappropriately) guard her child's space in the moment.
That's really the only reason I can even understand why she would do this. I know when DS was tiny I saw " big kids" as a threat that might hurt him or make him sick. Was there a nb in the stroller?
Was there a baby or a smaller child in the stroller at the time? Not that it makes it excusable, but I wonder if she was trying to (inappropriately) guard her child's space in the moment.
Empty Stroller. She has baby she was holding and 3 or 4 year old boy. Her older boy is very well behaved. My child is a little more outgoing/wild.
I think it was completely inappropriate for her to touch your child at all in this situation. She was completely wrong.
That being said, I have an infant and it's cold and flu season. I understand not wanting small children to touch my son's stroller toys. It really stresses me out when they do, and I then remove the toy until I can disinfect it or I try to quickly wipe it down with disinfectant until I can more thoroughly clean it.
I would never have touched or said anything negative to your child, but I would have wished you would have stepped in and redirected your child before he/she touched the stroller toy.
Yes, I would be very bothered. I would never be ok with anyone else touching my kids. The only time I think I would re-direct a kid is if I had a newborn and even then I would just put my hand in front of my infant.
Post by moopoint17 on Feb 26, 2014 18:38:59 GMT -5
Yeah, no touching my kid. It's especially inappropriate if there wasn't another child in the stroller.
I would have apologized for her touching the stroller (I tend to apologize for everything) but I would have told her never to touch someone else's child. Ever.
I think it was completely inappropriate for her to touch your child at all in this situation. She was completely wrong.
That being said, I have an infant and it's cold and flu season. I understand not wanting small children to touch my son's stroller toys. It really stresses me out when they do, and I then remove the toy until I can disinfect it or I try to quickly wipe it down with disinfectant until I can more thoroughly clean it.
I would never have touched or said anything negative to your child, but I would have wished you would have stepped in and redirected your child before he/she touched the stroller toy.
Oh I understand her not wanting my dd to touch her things. It is an issue we are trying to work on. When I saw her go for it I did tell her not touch but well she didn't listen and I was a few steps behind her so I couldn't grab her quick enough.
Yeah, no touching my kid. It's especially inappropriate if there wasn't another child in the stroller.
I would have apologized for her touching the stroller (I tend to apologize for everything) but I would have told her never to touch someone else's child. Ever.
Normally I would have apologized but she grabbed dd before I could apologize and at that point I was just too annoyed and said nothing.
I would have been mad at the yelling (how loud are we talking about here?) and the touching. She was out of line. I'm cool with someone redirecting and addressing my child, but no yelling and grabbing unless it is an immediate safety issue. This does not include germs, imo.
I think it was completely inappropriate for her to touch your child at all in this situation. She was completely wrong.
That being said, I have an infant and it's cold and flu season. I understand not wanting small children to touch my son's stroller toys. It really stresses me out when they do, and I then remove the toy until I can disinfect it or I try to quickly wipe it down with disinfectant until I can more thoroughly clean it.
I would never have touched or said anything negative to your child, but I would have wished you would have stepped in and redirected your child before he/she touched the stroller toy.
I don't think there is a person who doesn't understand why the mom didn't want her stuff touched. But grabbing another child outside of an emergency situation is not appropriate.
I would have been mad at the yelling (how loud are we talking about here?) and the touching. She was out of line. I'm cool with someone redirecting and addressing my child, but no yelling and grabbing unless it is an immediate safety issue. This does not include germs, imo.
Loud enough that people on the other side of the room looked over.
Im going to say - if you're that uptight about other kids touching your kid's toys/stroller, don't go to a kid-heavy event. Seriously. With kids of a certain age, it's HARD to get them to understand what they can/can't touch.
Yeah I would have been pissed. When DS is in a stroller I know other kids will come touch etc. It's part of what kids do. I would never touch a strangers child unless my own was in immediate danger (or I was touching their arm for directional purposes or the like).
Post by zeewifeandmama on Feb 26, 2014 21:04:56 GMT -5
Oh yes, that would have really bothered me. One, that she put her hands on my child and two that she raised her voice to my child when I was *steps* behind. Not cool.
Post by stealthmom on Feb 26, 2014 21:30:00 GMT -5
Here's the thing. If you are THAT neurotic about other littles touching your kid's shit, you have NO BUSINESS being at a storytime. Stay the fuck home if you can't control yourself.