I *HATE* eHarmony!

[imalwaysme79]

Why didn't I listen to you ladies? It's been nearly a month, and not one person has contacted me NOT ONE! I have sent "icebreakers", "eHarmony questions", I even sent someone an email. WTF!? They view my profile, but never ever ever ever send anything back. I'm so mad, frustrated and annoyed.

I contacted eHarmony 11 days after I joined, because this was already happening, asking for a refund. They told me to add more to my profile, and upload more photos. Fine. I did that. It didn't help. I just sent them another email tonight, demanding they refund my money and close my account.

I definitely DO NOT recommend eHarmony!!

UGH!

[Deleted]

Well I don't think that you can fault eharmony for their members not responding. To be honest I don't really see where they owe you a refund. It's kinda hit or miss online and the challenge with eharmony is that you have a much smaller pool so I think it usually takes a ton of time to find someone, if at all. For some people or areas it works great, others it doesn't. Perhaps Match would work out better?
Also I know all the ladies would be happy to review your profile and provide feedback.

[imalwaysme79]

I realize it's not their fault, but you are required to subscribe for AT LEAST 3 months, I don't want a refund for the month I have already used. It's worth a try, and the worst they can do is say no.

I know it's all geographical, and everyone has different experiences with different sites all over the country/world. I just thought it was one place that I hear so many mixed reviews about, and just wish I would have listened to the wise ladies here. I tried Match last year, and although it was better than eHarmony, I actually had communication with people, I'm not positive I would try it again, but not ruling it out. OkCupid and POF seem to be mostly guys looking for hookups, but those are free, and so I don't mind keeping my profile up there, and seeing "what happens".

[starryfish]

Try POF or OKCupid which are both free and have smartphone apps, which i love. I find a lot more people on POF than OKC in my area.

[callunafirefly]

I didn't find anyone on match so I went to eharmony. The "free" version was lacking so they sucked me in to subscribe. I knew within 20min I wasn't finding anyone. I cancelled within the 3 days and got my refund.
**i hope, I should go check that**

[starburst604]

I tried it once for a month and had the worst 3 dates of my life. I know almost no one who has any success with it. I wonder if it's on it's way to closing down at this point.

[naeljun]

I hate the way eharmony works.

[luv2rn4fun]

I LOVE eHarmony...but I'm a little biased since I met my amazing husband through the site. Honestly, I wasn't really looking to get married at the time since I really enjoyed being single. I was only Fitness Singles and went out with a lot of guys but they all had the fitness thing in common and some a little more, but when it came down to my core values, goals, beliefs, etc I knew that finding someone on that site was pretty unrealistic.

My best friend kept trying to get me to sign up for eHarmony because she wanted me to find my husband...after 3 tries, I finally played along and I'm so glad I did!!! The questions to create your profile were very painful and time consuming. But, the initial communications, especially the second one, were critical in really weeding out the "potential" dates. My journey was that I went out with 1 person a couple times and started communicating with my husband while shortly after and really never looked back!

I'm just trying to throw out a positive outcome from eHarmony...it really does work! My husband is my perfect match...we are best friends, have a lot of common interest, same core beliefs, goals, and dreams and we complement each other in other areas!

Good luck! Sorry you haven't been successful...but if the money really isn't a big deal, it's worth it to give it time to work!

[blackkitty]

eharmony is full of suck. I only did one month and only ended up talking to like 3-4 guys and only met one. The one guy I did meet was almost 20 years older than me and tried to get me drunk and make out with me in the parking lot.

[formerlyak]

I think it depends on a lot of factors ... age, region, what you are looking for. I had no luck with Match. I think in the 6 months I was on it, I went on like 3 dates. With eharmony I had much better luck, many first dates and met my bf on eharmony a little over a year and a half ago.

If you are stuck using it because of your subscription, have a guy friend look at your profile and give some input. Maybe there is something in your profile that comes across in a way you didn't anticipate that is turning off potential dates?

[halfbrit]

I tried E-Harmony during one of their free periods and it matched me up with my EX-H. That was a fun discovery. I got the hell out of dodge after that.

[blackkitty]

May 11, 2012 13:03:08 GMT -5 halfbrit said:

I tried E-Harmony during one of their free periods and it matched me up with my EX-H. That was a fun discovery. I got the hell out of dodge after that.

hahahahaha
That is awesome

[halfbrit]

May 11, 2012 13:07:49 GMT -5 @blackkitty said:

May 11, 2012 13:03:08 GMT -5 halfbrit said:

I tried E-Harmony during one of their free periods and it matched me up with my EX-H. That was a fun discovery. I got the hell out of dodge after that.

hahahahaha
That is awesome

It's about par for the course for me.

[freddyisready]

I met my husband on plentyoffish.com. It's a free site. There was also on eat let you look at picture and thumbs up or thumbs down people. I called it boy shopping and would just browse when I was bored. I never got anything out of it,bit it was funtoplay:)