Pet grief

[ooglie26]

Lots of crying, and just time. I cried over my dog for a month or two last year, and still miss her an unbelievable amount, even a year later.

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

[zoidberg]

Cried and cried and cried until my eyes hurt and I ran out of tears.

I'm so sorry.

[luvvy]

Yep. I balled my eyes out. It helped that I knew it was better for her because she was in so much pain but I still cry when I wake up and realize she isn't here anymore.

[shoeless]

I'm sorry very sorry. I wish I had a quick easy solution however I've found that time seems to be the only common denominator.

[thinkofthesoldiers]

I always have another dog waiting for me at home. It helps.

Also I take comfort in knowing that they aren't suffering anymore, that I was there with them until the end, and then I cry. It is weird, but I tend to do most of my crying before they pass (if I know it is going to happen in the nearish future). There is a peace in knowing that they are in a better place with no pain.

[jacquie]

I'm so sorry. It really does just take time.

Even now, three and seven years after losing our dogs, I miss them and hurt when I see their pictures. I don't know that I'll ever not feel sad about losing them.

[DotAndBuzz]

I'm so sorry. Many hugs for you and your pup.

Lots of crying. I'm still sort of having a hard time, nearly a month later.

For the immediate days following, I actually had to have H take care of the other cat, because I honestly couldn't go down into their food and litter box room without just losing it. I found that explaining it to my kids helped. We still cried, but forcing myself to articulate and acknowledge the grief process for them, so they could know what their feelings were about (and that they were ok), actually helped a lot.

(((((hugs))))) again.

[bonnie]

Mar 6, 2014 21:57:26 GMT -5 thinkofthesoldiers said:

I always have another dog waiting for me at home. It helps.

Also I take comfort in knowing that they aren't suffering anymore, that I was there with them until the end, and then I cry. It is weird, but I tend to do most of my crying before they pass (if I know it is going to happen in the nearish future). There is a peace in knowing that they are in a better place with no pain.

Same for me. We still have three cats that bring us joy and make us laugh a lot! Our cat that we put down at the beginning of January had brain cancer and I did a lot of my grieving before we even had to put him down. Although I still cried my eyes out that day and off and on the next. The two months since then have become easier and I seem to think about it less and less.

Sorry for your loss.

[Deleted]

I sobbed uncontrollably in a ball on the floor then took 2 Tylenol PM (at 6 in the morning) and slept for about 6 hours. Woke up and cried some more.

It sucks and I'm really sorry for your loss.

[bonquiqui]

I'm so very sorry

[alzi]

All the tears. I'm so sorry.

[murdock]

I'm so sorry.

Letting myself cry was the only thing that helped.

[isabel]

I cried until I thought I couldn't cry anymore. And then I did that all over again. I cried about him today because I found one of his hairs embedded in my coat. It's been almost a year.

It sucks. It sucks so hard. But it does get better. DH reminds me all the time to smile and think about the good times. It helps a bit.

I'm so sorry for your loss. (((((hugs)))))

[FastHands]

There is no right way, and everyone deals differently. I cried prettt much nonstop for 3 days, and then I waited until dh went to bed and sobbed more and had panic attacks every few nights. That lasted about a month.

I "talked" to him a lot. I also found it cathartic (and also fucking brutally hard) to write a list of all of his quirks. He was such a funny character, and I didn't want to forget any of the silly habits he had. It's been a year and I still revisit that list and add to it (and cry, heh) probably once a month. I cherish it.

[Deleted]

I'm sorry. It sucks.

[ginap]

There was much crying. It's been 2 months now and I still forget that Bella isn't here anymore - I still expect to see her laying in her favorite spots. We were cleaning out the file cabinet the other day and threw away her file and that was hard and really final.

[escrow]

We had to put our 4 year old lab down when I was 3 months pregnant, she had lymphoma. We loved that dog soooo much, losing her was one of the hardest things I've or through.

Like everyone else I bawled my eyes out for months. But what I did right away was buy a pretty journal and started writing all of the great things about her and all of the great and silly memories we had with her. It was hard to do but it helped and now when I look at it I can remember her better.

Also just knowing she wasn't in pain anymore and that although her life was cut short she had a great, happy life. We spoiled her and I'm so glad.

[walterismydog]

I'm sorry for your loss

I don't think there's a right or wrong way to grieve. I think the best thing to do is let the emotions happen naturally.

[morningmania]

I am so sorry. It was a little peace knowing he was not in pain anymore. It is never easy no matter what the circumstances are.

[EmilieMadison]

I'm sorry. we had to put our kitty Tucker to sleep 2 weeks ago. I am a very much a shove your feelings down and don't think about them kind of person, which is all kinds of not healthy and I definitely do not advocate this for other people.

I think crying and talking about it probably helps.
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[cbwm1]

I'm so, so sorry.

[liverandonions]

I'm so sorry for your loss. I also cried all the cries and she was really my husbands dog. Feel however you feel and don't let anyone make you feel bad if you grieve for awhile.

[polka]

I am so sorry

[flamingeaux]

I cried like the pansy bitch that I am.  And now when I cry more than 2 years after the fact, I remind myself that she was sick and hurting, and was only going to get worse and I spared her that, and she knew she was loved.  And now I'm going to leave this thread and go cry again.

[Deleted]

Crying is my first reaction. The only thing that helps is time. I'm sorry for your loss.

[jaycee]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. So many pets are an integral part of their families and losing them feels like a hole in the family and that something so important is missing.

I hope you find comfort in the memories of you pet. Thinking of you.

[sergey]

I'm sorry, grieve in whatever way feels best.

[BaliHai]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[revolution]

Crying. Let yourself grieve like you would grieve for anything else. It's ok to be sad. My dog's will be gone for 2 years on Sunday, and I have been getting choked up this week. So it is completely normal.

[leeann]

I'm so sorry. It's completely normal to feel a huge loss and cry over a pet. I bawled for days when our dog died.