My DS used them sparingly as a little one, then barely used them at all. When he started getting eyeteeth and molars in, the DCP noticed that the paci helped. Now I feel like he is fully dependent on it (not blaming DCP, his new toddler teacher is better than I am at using it sparingly).
If it's hidden, he is fine so technically I could probably quit the paci but he is so much more difficult without it.
But seriously, it's like split personalities. He throws tantrums putting him in the carseat where he's stiff as a board, trying to twist and flailing all his limbs while screaming and crying. I give him the paci and he's calm and relaxed, lets me put him in the seat without a fuss. If I give the paci mid-tantrum its like a light switch, instant calm.
Is this normal? I always thought kids needed pacifiers to go to sleep or whatnot but he is like two different kids with and without it.
We had gotten down to him only having it at bedtime, but as he started getting more and more Terrible Twoish, I started giving it to him at other times too because I am weak. Now he's back to almost full time.
DD is 22 months and still has hers and I'm the idiot that gave her wubanubs as a baby and now that's the only type of paci she likes. I've tried cutting the paci off the animal but it doesn't work. It's her security blanket and I think they just become ridiculously attached to it.
She only gets it at daycare at nap time, but I'm so bad at home, lately I give it to her more than I'd like. I'm not entirely worried about it yet, and kind of hope she will eventually give it up on her own.
Post by karmasabiotch on Mar 8, 2014 21:14:48 GMT -5
Thus is flameworthy but J will use them as long as he wants too. Only in his room. I will gladly pay for braces if this small thing offers him comfort. 10 minutes after hes asleep it falls out of his mouth. it soothes him in a bad day. he knows its a room thing only. My IL's judge the hell out if me on this issue.
I'm team pacifier until college. You're literally putting a cork in it...let's enjoy it while we can! I often wish I could plug H's mouth with a pacifier.
I just don't get why he acts like his carseat is lined with tacks and then with the paci he just snuggles right in. That's just one example but he just seems more able to self regulate when he has it.
Em can be a terror like you described (ie the stiff as a board when being put in the car seat). We no longer do Pacis. However, she now has a special toy that she only has in the car. This helps. A LOT! Same with bed - she has her lion which soothes her anywhere plus a elephant that is ONLY in her bed room. With her lion, if she's having a tantrum I can ask "where's lion?" and she'll stop and go find him, give him a hug and say "awww". This doesn't work all the time, but most!
Is it possible you could find a special toy that might sooth him instead?
Em can be a terror like you described (ie the stiff as a board when being put in the car seat). We no longer do Pacis. However, she now has a special toy that she only has in the car. This helps. A LOT! Same with bed - she has her lion which soothes her anywhere plus a elephant that is ONLY in her bed room. With her lion, if she's having a tantrum I can ask "where's lion?" and she'll stop and go find him, give him a hug and say "awww". This doesn't work all the time, but most!
Is it possible you could find a special toy that might sooth him instead?
He doesn't really seem attached to anything. I have a few lovies, he just throws them. He plays with toys for just a few minutes. Sometimes he will take a drink from his sippy cup and that's enough to get him to chill out but other times he turns his head away like he doesn't want it.
I get this reaction pretty much when I pick him up or dont let him walk where he wants. He's VERY into walking everywhere himself. I tried to get him to climb into the seat himself but he doesn't seem able to get in there. I think if it was forward facing he could manage, its kind of awkward, he would have to climb in and rotate 180 degrees.
G's sippy cups are like this. Any time he is having a fit if you give him a sippy, it's like a different kid. They're still little... It's not a big deal to have something like that to calm Them and I guarantee he won't still have a pacifier in high school!
Thus is flameworthy but J will use them as long as he wants too. Only in his room. I will gladly pay for braces if this small thing offers him comfort. 10 minutes after hes asleep it falls out of his mouth. it soothes him in a bad day. he knows its a room thing only. My IL's judge the hell out if me on this issue.
Thus is flameworthy but J will use them as long as he wants too. Only in his room. I will gladly pay for braces if this small thing offers him comfort. 10 minutes after hes asleep it falls out of his mouth. it soothes him in a bad day. he knows its a room thing only. My IL's judge the hell out if me on this issue.
How old is he?
5 or 6...I think he's Edith's age or maybe a year older.
Thus is flameworthy but J will use them as long as he wants too. Only in his room. I will gladly pay for braces if this small thing offers him comfort. 10 minutes after hes asleep it falls out of his mouth. it soothes him in a bad day. he knows its a room thing only. My IL's judge the hell out if me on this issue.
How old is he?
5. I encourage him to give it up. Bribes don't work. Pedi says its better than his thumb. He's starting to get embarrassed about it so I think its time is coming close to ending.
ETA: my niece was 6 and she is 19 now and in her jr year at U of M. Not my best parenting choice but I stand by it.