Maybe this is flameful

[cleo29]

But, I would NOT want to run into the last guy I dated seriously before H. It was a really, really hard breakup for me. At the time I was just starting to experience my issues with anxiety (thought didn't know it at the time) and things were just rough.

It was awkward enough when we went to a neighborhood cocktail/play group and in walks his former roommate and his wife, whom I both knew.  It was instant sweat on my part and I think the guy was just as shocked to see me.

I don't know, I feel like that is one chapter of my life that should remain closed. I have been fine seeing and talking to other ex boyfriends.

[cville]

I don't think that's flameful. That's just not wanting to be reminded of a bad time in your life and of you at your worst/not best self.

[Deleted]

I don't want to run into the last guy I dated before H because he was impressively unattractive and a goob and a harsh, honest reflection of where my self esteem was in that moment in time.

[BaliHai]

I only have one ex I don't/wouldn't mind running into. The others make me feel embarrassed for myself.

[cleo29]

I did run into him once after our breakup, maybe a month or so later. Thank goodness I had lost some weight and was looking better. lol It also made me realize that there were sides of him that i really did not like or at least admire.

[eddy]

I don't want to run into mine because he was such a fucking douche and I feel all sorts of remorse that I dated him so long.Like I am embarassed for myself 15 years later. UGH SO DOUCHEY

[leeann]

There is probably only one that I don't want to run into. I guess I don't WANT to see the others, but it would be NBD if I happened to run into them somewhere.

[cville]

Mar 10, 2014 13:00:14 GMT -5 eddy said:

I don't want to run into mine because he was such a fucking douche and I feel all sorts of remorse that I dated him so long.Like I am embarassed for myself 15 years later. UGH SO DOUCHEY

I have one like that too.  I was 128 pounds and he convinced me my ass was fat.  MY ASS WASN'T FAT, MOFO, YOUR HEAD WAS.

[eddy]

Mar 10, 2014 13:06:47 GMT -5 cville said:

Mar 10, 2014 13:00:14 GMT -5 eddy said:

I don't want to run into mine because he was such a fucking douche and I feel all sorts of remorse that I dated him so long.Like I am embarassed for myself 15 years later. UGH SO DOUCHEY

I have one like that too.  I was 128 pounds and he convinced me my ass was fat.  MY ASS WASN'T FAT, MOFO, YOUR HEAD WAS.

This guy was just kind of a loser. I was so much better than him. And he had a tribal tattoo. And he liked douchey hobbies. And he wore tank tops a lot.

OMG I want to go hide in a corner right now.

[Deleted]

I hate all of my exes except one.

I'd hate to see any of them except that one.

[chiclet]

Mar 10, 2014 13:08:03 GMT -5 eddy said:

OMG I want to go hide in a corner right now.

Any room in that corner for me?

[Deleted]

I have one that would make me fall apart if I ran into him. Otherwise, I wouldn't give a damn if I saw any of the others.

[CurlyQ284]

Mar 10, 2014 13:08:03 GMT -5 eddy said:

Mar 10, 2014 13:06:47 GMT -5 cville said:

I have one like that too.  I was 128 pounds and he convinced me my ass was fat.  MY ASS WASN'T FAT, MOFO, YOUR HEAD WAS.

This guy was just kind of a loser. I was so much better than him. And he had a tribal tattoo. And he liked douchey hobbies. And he wore tank tops a lot.

OMG I want to go hide in a corner right now.

Uhhh...does he live in Maryland? Lol

[dizzydee]

I have had 3 serious relationships before R. 2 of those guys have died since I've dated them...yeah. The one left was a super douche and left me with a $500 cable bill with hella porn charges on it. I run into him occasionally and he looks really old and very bald.

[Deleted]

Eh I'm mostly ashamed of my choice in exes and wouldn't want to see them. The last time I saw my most serious ex was in court when I successfully got an RO against him, so yeah, no interest in going down that road again.

Also I'm chubbier than I was then. So I can't even want it for superficial reasons, lol

[cleo29]

Mar 10, 2014 13:22:57 GMT -5 Que? said:

I have three exes that I'm still in contact with. One is at, the other two are people that were excellent friends to me first, and still are.

The one right before H....that dude shredded me. I have heart palps just thinking about seeing him again, which is how I felt most of the time I was around him. Nope.

Yep, that is my reasoning too.  

(hug)

[pantsparty]

I have one ex on Facebook, the others I feel would be very awkward to run into. Not much ill will, just that I'm the type that would avoid a lot of people I went to high school with because I hate small talk, and small talking with an ex seems horrible.