I have an ex BF thought as well

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I found recently that an ex I really had a favorable opinion of has completely loathed me for years after the break up (like 7 years? I think?). I mean, I hadn't talked to him after the breakup, but it was basically the world's most amicable breakup with zero drama or lingering issues. I can't even think of issues while we were dating, and we just never saw each other in any setting ever again. 

I was MORTIFIED when I found out he thought I was like, the most up to no good, rotten, horrible person in the world. H thinks it is hilarious. 

It makes me feel sad and sort of alarmed that I had no idea he had ill will towards me. I said perfectly normal, generically nice ex girlfriend things about him for YEARS to mutual friends.  Lol, it had never occurred to me that we had not come to the same agreement that we were better as friends. I wonder if the exes I hate have any idea that I want them to never run into me ever, ever again and be audited by the IRS every year until they die. 

[isabel]

Why are you mortified? Clearly he has issues. I would laugh about it.

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Mar 10, 2014 13:42:48 GMT -5 isabel said:

Why are you mortified? Clearly he has issues. I would laugh about it.

Mainly because he apparently has been really vocal about it for years and I had absolutely no idea and I feel awful that he apparently would harp about it to mutual acquaintances. 

ETA: Also, maybe it's the intensity of the dislike he has for me? That sort of blew me away. 

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I know my ex hated me and the friend of mine I was "banging". He had issues, lots and lots of issues.

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Mar 10, 2014 15:04:40 GMT -5 TamiTaylor said:

I'm of the opinion that someone that spews vile hate/lies/gossip always looks worse than the person they're bashing.

I agree. 

People who are doing the bashing look so much worse than the person they are talking about. This guy sounds like a whacko.