yes yes yes and yes. I've showered with both my girls almost exclusively. Two benefits: they got sleepy and DH took them from me while I was still in the shower, did PJs and diapers and got them into bed. Plus, it meant I actually got a shower every day without listening for a screaming baby.
Showering with baby is such a time saver!
I have never heard of this! How long do y'all think we could make do without a bathtub? We will be in this house at least until his second birthday.
Yeah I'm here with you. I do this pre natal yoga and on the cover of the DVD it says"a great way for early communication to strengthen the bond with your baby"
my husband read it and said you really believe this shit? I said no, but it sure gets my ass in shape. And anything to help me delivery room I'm going to do.
there is a time for meditation in the DVD where you're supposed to look into your Womb and "communicate" with your baby. I just use that time to breathe and relax and meditate.
My prenatal yoga class is way too crunchy for me. We watch home birth videos LOL. But the yoga part is really good for me!
I am all for yoga. I'm not one to work out (if you ever see me running, you should probably run to because something is chasing me) but yoga is right at my pace and really does get results. I have this one DVD for strength and tone that I've been using for years, so I found out I was pregnant I bought prenatal one. When I'm finished, all the right muscle groups are sore, but in a good way. I love how they work all the muscles you will need for delivery. As well as the muscles will need for carrying to reduce hemorrhoids!
Another non-bonder here who hates being pregnant. I am normally very petite, and have always been super athletic. I feel awkward and fat and I know it's only going to get worse. I know a lot of women want the baby placed on their chest as soon as it comes out. I've already told H I want the midwives to clean ours up a bit before they hand it to us.
This is your first, no? My last felt like a dream I was living and we talked about the baby all the time but it didn't feel really real. And even when DS was born and they held him up I almost recoiled b/c it was so strange. I instantly liked him and was excited, but the overwhelming love and bond was something that developed over the next few weeks.
Others have different experiences, though. It's all normal!
Yes, first baby. I have no fucking clue what I'm doing LOL. Thanks for the reassurance!
Thank God. I'm right here with you on the bonding thing. The cat still thinks the nursery is her room, and I finally ordered a crib (I say finally because I keep seeing people that haveva nursery planned and ready at 12 weeks - I'm almost 25!) to try and make it feel more real. Feeling her move helps, but sometimes I forget and think, "Shit. Something isn't agreeing with me!"
Honestly, so far I totally understand the "I didn't know I was pregnant!" people. I'm sure that'll change, but the bonding hasn't happened, either, yet. I don't know if it's because of my losses and I'm not letting myself bond, or what.
Anyhow, I'm all over the place today, but you're not alone!
I'm due any day now and I'm still not sure that I'm "bonded"- I'm very excited to meet the little guy, but it still doesn't seem quite real to me. It's hard to explain, but you are definitely not alone! Also agree with the not liking pregnancy thing.
I can relate. I don't feel like I've really bonded with the baby yet either. I will be 17 weeks this week. I've just started registering for a few classes and looking at items for the registry. I feel like it will come later when I can really feel the baby move or at least if nothing else when the baby is born.
We as well need to think about either moving or storing a lot of items that are in our second bedroom. I feel overwhelmed with all of the things we need to do. I have tried to make a plan for each month and tackle things that way.
Yeah I'm here with you. I do this pre natal yoga and on the cover of the DVD it says"a great way for early communication to strengthen the bond with your baby"
my husband read it and said you really believe this shit? I said no, but it sure gets my ass in shape. And anything to help me delivery room I'm going to do.
there is a time for meditation in the DVD where you're supposed to look into your Womb and "communicate" with your baby. I just use that time to breathe and relax and meditate.
My prenatal yoga class is way too crunchy for me. We watch home birth videos LOL. But the yoga part is really good for me!
Another non-bonder here who hates being pregnant. I am normally very petite, and have always been super athletic. I feel awkward and fat and I know it's only going to get worse. I know a lot of women want the baby placed on their chest as soon as it comes out. I've already told H I want the midwives to clean ours up a bit before they hand it to us.
We were watching the movie "Knocked Up" the other night (which is really different when you're actually knocked up LOL). When she gave birth, they put the baby directly on her chest and I was like "eww, that's so gross!" H felt the need to tell me that in the movies, they use cream cheese and jelly to emulate the gunk on the baby. I was like "if I were acting in that scene I'd be dipping a cracker on the baby for a snack!" We are gross.
We did from it 3 or 4 months until just under two years. I will try to go longer this time because using the real bathtub hurts my back and knees.
This information could be life-changing. Thanks, ladies! (heart)
For a long time? When they are little, I found it helpful to have one of those really thin baby towels that are practically useless for actually drying them off. I wrapped the baby up in that and held them inside the towel while showering. That makes them a lot less slippery and helped keep them from getting cold while washed off.
Another non-bonder here who hates being pregnant. I am normally very petite, and have always been super athletic. I feel awkward and fat and I know it's only going to get worse. I know a lot of women want the baby placed on their chest as soon as it comes out. I've already told H I want the midwives to clean ours up a bit before they hand it to us.
Another one here for giving it a nice wipe down before handing it over to me. yech.
Actually, I want NOTHING to do with the whole pregnancy/delivery thing. I do want to be a mom but the whole 9 months and pushing it out? Na. I use to say I am all for a 9-month induced coma. Wake me when it gets here. To be honest I think I would have been OK with adoption if we could have afforded it - though I still do like the fact that my baby I made and has my DNA.
I feel kinda bad considering I dealt with IF issues for so long and I am SHOCKED that I'm actually having a baby at all, but let's face it, being a mother and raising a family is much more than pregnancy and I don't have to guilt myself in to liking it if I don't.
I am not feeling bonded either and I don't think I ever did with any of my pregnancies. I am excited about the baby COMING but it feels like he is not here yet, you know? In fact my main worry if something were to happen would be how heartbroken my kids would be. And really it takes a whole after birth too. And then one day you wake up and BAM. You realize you love that little person so much it hurts.