I am going to go ahead and tag NitaX who was invited to a wedding, RSVP'd, and a month before the wedding the bride asked her to be "on standby" due to the cost of the wedding.
She also keeps openly complaining that her family hasn't helped her pay for the wedding. Every single status about her upcoming wedding, she works in "we had to pay for this ourselves, now we cannot afford this or that because we had to pay for a wedding"
I am going to go ahead and tag NitaX who was invited to a wedding, RSVP'd, and a month before the wedding the bride asked her to be "on standby" due to the cost of the wedding.
What? That is really shitty of that bride.
Yes honey. That actually happened. The bride was concerned about her seating as several guests had RSVP for them and 10 other folks instead of the guest +1 policy. This lead to the bride sending me a text asking her "understanding guests" would mind being placed on 'standby.'
I think this is OK in the case of a destination wedding, but otherwise it is totally rude! PLUS complaining about it on FB. blech
I disagree. Wedding showers aren't a right. If you make the choice to have a small destination wedding, then you need to accept the consequences that go along with that choice you willingly made. One of those consequences is you either politely decline anybody's offer to throw a shower since it's rude to invite people to a pre-wedding activity if they aren't invited to the wedding, or you only invite people who are invited to the wedding and you have a small shower. It's all part of being a grown-up.
Yes honey. That actually happened. The bride was concerned about her seating as several guests had RSVP for them and 10 other folks instead of the guest +1 policy. This lead to the bride sending me a text asking her "understanding guests" would mind being placed on 'standby.'
Yes honey. That actually happened. The bride was concerned about her seating as several guests had RSVP for them and 10 other folks instead of the guest +1 policy. This lead to the bride sending me a text asking her "understanding guests" would mind being placed on 'standby.'
What the heck?! Why not put the uninvited guests of guests on "standby."
Because that is too much like right as my mom would say.
Honey, you should see her FB posts. She was SOOOO happy some dude asked her to get hitched, and she went clean into wedding planning.
Then when she realized her ass needed to pay for it, she started bitching about costs. Then she took a poll of her married folks and asked if they would have a big wedding again. So, homegirl is already having regrets. Me - I've been laughing my ass off at it because it's so Beebee Bride turned Cheapo Bride. Boo - you should have just eloped or done something small.
But no, she wanted all the world to see the end of her single days.
She also keeps openly complaining that her family hasn't helped her pay for the wedding. Every single status about her upcoming wedding, she works in "we had to pay for this ourselves, now we cannot afford this or that because we had to pay for a wedding"
I think this is OK in the case of a destination wedding, but otherwise it is totally rude! PLUS complaining about it on FB. blech
I disagree. Wedding showers aren't a right. If you make the choice to have a small destination wedding, then you need to accept the consequences that go along with that choice you willingly made. One of those consequences is you either politely decline anybody's offer to throw a shower since it's rude to invite people to a pre-wedding activity if they aren't invited to the wedding, or you only invite people who are invited to the wedding and you have a small shower. It's all part of being a grown-up.
I agree. I had a destination wedding and did not have a wedding shower at home. I did have an at-home-reception for the people who couldn't attend the wedding. But, it was small as well. Plus, I wasn't just starting out so gifts of towels and crockpots and other housewares were unnecessary.
I think it's okay to have a small wedding then a second low key party for more people but you should be hosting people at the second event, not asking for gifts.
I thought showers were a faux pas after the first wedding, anyway.
But see, she couldn't throw one for her first wedding (she is throwing this shower herself) because she didn't tell anyone she was getting married. She planned a big wedding and didn't tell any of her family. THEN she told them last minute and got mad that only 2 family members showed up. She made nasty phone calls to her parents because they had other plans and didn't come.
Her second wedding, they went to the court house and her parents paid for the after party and court fee.
So now family doesn't want to help her, at all, for this wedding and she's mad. She is also doing it up with every last "traditional" wedding event because "I never got to do those things before". Followed by "no one is helping me pay for this"
My husband and I are just sitting back watching this all unfold because you can't stop watching.
Post by chickadee77 on Mar 12, 2014 11:45:28 GMT -5
I had a destination wedding, very small. My coworkers threw me a shower, and I felt kind of weird about it. They assured me it was okay, just coworkers and an excuse to eat cake and gab, more or less, and no one expected an invite to the wedding. I still felt weird, but at that point it seemed more like accepting gracefully was the better option to avoid hurt feelings on their part, as they were really excited about it. That was my only shower, though.
But see, she couldn't throw one for her first wedding (she is throwing this shower herself) because she didn't tell anyone she was getting married. She planned a big wedding and didn't tell any of her family. THEN she told them last minute and got mad that only 2 family members showed up. She made nasty phone calls to her parents because they had other plans and didn't come.
Her second wedding, they went to the court house and her parents paid for the after party and court fee.
So now family doesn't want to help her, at all, for this wedding and she's mad. She is also doing it up with every last "traditional" wedding event because "I never got to do those things before". Followed by "no one is helping me pay for this"
My husband and I are just sitting back watching this all unfold because you can't stop watching.
SHE'S THROWING A SHOWER FOR HERSELF? OMG
And her bachelorette party. She doles out the roles to her bridesmaids on facebook as to who is paying for what, what the location will be, etc.
And her bachelorette party. She doles out the roles to her bridesmaids on facebook as to who is paying for what, what the location will be, etc.
you are making this up. lol no one is this greedy and grasping. I HOPE no one is biting on these ridiculousnesses.
Nope. I started looking into it when I noticed that she posted "so and so, can you be in charge of setting up and paying for the location?" and then made a post about how she is so excited for her bacherloette party and planning it was really tough on her.
Her friends seem to think it is just dandy.
Maybe her friends are cooler than mine.
ETA: I guess there is the possibility that she gave her friends the money to pay for these things.
I've gone to two showers where I wasn't invited to the wedding. Both were destination weddings where it was pretty much only family. I was okay with that.
That, to me, is another thing entirely. Otherwise I consider it the height of rudeness to invite someone to the shower and not the actual wedding. That actually happened to my H and I this past Fall/Winter. I can admit I am still judging those "friends".