Starries, can we get a dating update?

gault Elder Posts: 12,297 Likes: 10,201	Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 12, 2014 10:58:50 GMT -5 margarita, cuddlyevil, and 1 more like this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by gault on Mar 12, 2014 10:58:50 GMT -5 I'm so happy you're having a good time! Can you tell us about him a little bit, even if it's just fun and nothing serious at this point? How's the sex?
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tiramisu Senior Member Posts: 9,526 Likes: 9,220	Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 12, 2014 12:07:48 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by tiramisu on Mar 12, 2014 12:07:48 GMT -5 I second this request!
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neonpink Full Member Posts: 4,183 Likes: 3,173	Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 12, 2014 15:00:33 GMT -5 Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by neonpink on Mar 12, 2014 15:00:33 GMT -5 ditto!
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cuddlyevil Elder Posts: 23,572 Likes: 16,453	Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 12, 2014 15:38:30 GMT -5 tiramisu likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by cuddlyevil on Mar 12, 2014 15:38:30 GMT -5 taps toes looks at watch taps toe
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tiramisu Senior Member Posts: 9,526 Likes: 9,220	Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 12, 2014 17:16:17 GMT -5 via mobile Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by tiramisu on Mar 12, 2014 17:16:17 GMT -5 starrieskies where are yooouuuu?
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partiallysunny Elder Posts: 12,543 Likes: 5,130	Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 12, 2014 17:59:05 GMT -5 via mobile Chirp likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by partiallysunny on Mar 12, 2014 17:59:05 GMT -5 What did I miss? Is starries going steady with someone?
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pinkplasticdoll Senior Member Posts: 6,202 Likes: 3,335	Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 12, 2014 23:25:02 GMT -5 partiallysunny likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by pinkplasticdoll on Mar 12, 2014 23:25:02 GMT -5 partiallysunny i am loling that you said going steady with someone. like I am loling hard, I think my H thinks I have lost it.
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Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 13, 2014 9:02:19 GMT -5 gault, margarita, and 4 more like this

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Post by starrieskies on Mar 13, 2014 9:02:19 GMT -5

LOL! I'm sorry you guys!!! I wasn't on at all yesterday!

Dating is ok. I still need to come up with a good nickname for him... I'll probably just call him no nickname for now...

I met him on okc. He's a little bit older, 41 to my 35, athletic, has 2 boys (16 & 18).... we've decided to see each other exclusively, but we're keeping everything casual. Honestly, I enjoy his company, the sex is amazing, but I'm not sure I see us as a long term couple. I don't know if that's just me being scared our if it's my gut. But I'm proceeding with caution.

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partiallysunny Elder Posts: 12,543 Likes: 5,130	Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 13, 2014 9:09:22 GMT -5 via mobile starrieskies likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by partiallysunny on Mar 13, 2014 9:09:22 GMT -5 Can I ask why you can't see the two of you as "long term couple"? I'm purely curious. I'm glad you've find someone to have fun with.
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margarita Full Member Posts: 4,167 Likes: 2,346	Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 13, 2014 9:26:35 GMT -5 starrieskies likes this Quote Select Post Deselect Post Link to Post Member Give Gift Back to Top Post by margarita on Mar 13, 2014 9:26:35 GMT -5 I'm just glad you're having fun, starrieskies! He sounds nice.
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Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 13, 2014 9:40:13 GMT -5 via the ProBoards App partiallysunny likes this

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Mar 13, 2014 9:09:22 GMT -5 partiallysunny said:

Can I ask why you can't see the two of you as "long term couple"?

I'm purely curious. I'm glad you've find someone to have fun with.

I will answer this when i get to work and a computer.

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Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 13, 2014 10:27:19 GMT -5

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He is nice.

Mostly the long term thing is scheduling. I'm concerned that my lack of availability is not really conducive to a long term relationship. We saw each other last night for the first time in a week... I know that he wants more of a relationship, and I'm not sure I'm ready to offer that. My focus for the last few months has been DS and myself (in that order) and that's it. I'm just not sure I have a lot of room for another person in that equation.

We've had a very frank and open discussion about that, and he seems to be ok with it. But I don't know.

I also haven't shared a lot of my past with stbx with him, and I'm still dealing with a lot of the mental issues that have resulted from our disfunctional relationship. That's a lot of emotional junk to just dump on a new guy...

He asked me last night if I missed him and I didn't really know what to say. Truthfully, I'm not used to having someone in my life and I was just fine not seeing him for a week. It really didn't bother me... I know that's not the response he wanted to hear, but that's how I feel. I enjoy my time with him, but I don't feel like there's something missing when I'm not around him...

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Mar 13, 2014 10:27:19 GMT -5 starrieskies said:

He asked me last night if I missed him and I didn't really know what to say. Truthfully, I'm not used to having someone in my life and I was just fine not seeing him for a week. It really didn't bother me... I know that's not the response he wanted to hear, but that's how I feel. I enjoy my time with him, but I don't feel like there's something missing when I'm not around him...

That is 110% perfectly OKAY. Don't force yourself to feel or be anything you don't/are not.

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Starries, can we get a dating update? Mar 13, 2014 10:45:31 GMT -5 BabyLove likes this

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I'm not. I could just tell he was a little bit disappointed when I hesitated before answering. He wasn't super excited about the answer, but he said he understands and respects it.

He texts me every morning at about 7:30 to say good morning... I know its a very nice, super sweet gesture, but part of me feels like he's trying too hard to convince me he's a good guy... Like I said, it very well could be my paranoia, or it could be that he really is a nice guy. I haven't really decided yet.

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Post by partiallysunny on Mar 13, 2014 10:50:15 GMT -5

I think it's a sign of a heathy relationship to not "need" someone. You're doing just fine, starries.

I how he doesn't pressure you too much. It would suck if his neediness drove you away.

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