Not even Married+everyone wants to see me Preggie

[rebeccalynn]

You know what? People don't make sense, seriously. I'm not even married yet ( engaged to be married in 7 months) and everyone keeps asking when I'm going to have kids.... WTF? Since when do I know when I want to have kids considering I'm not even married yet?? It seems strange that no one wants anyone pregnant BEFORE marriage, but since I'm getting married my family already wants me to have a child in my first year of marriage? NO WAY! I said the next time someone asks me when I'm going to have a baby I'm going to get pregnant BEFORE getting married and no one can say anything.
Seriously.. I want to enjoy my married life before even thinking about having kids!!!

[Deleted]

That is soooo common! People are always focused on the "next step". I would just tell them that you want to focus on your marriage and if they press the topic, just say "this is not open for discussion" and change the subject. Congrats on your upcoming wedding!

[Deleted]

I just learned to ignore people who kept asking this. It was easiest.

[rebeccalynn]

It' so frustrating though! People always seem to be pressuring to do something, like they are never satisfied with anything! I mean, heck, right now is NOT the time to even be thinking about kids! I have a LOT of time to have kids AFTER getting married and enjoying life just the two of us before.. one on one time and traveling and doing different things that I won't be able to do with kids! The last thing that I am thinking about is having kids, but it seems to be the only thing that everyone else is thinking about!

[Deleted]

This happens all the time. At least it did with me. One step at a time, People. One step at a time!

[alabasterangel]

Pregnant sucks. They can get pregnant if that appeals to them.

[louietunes]

Some people don't feel like they're living unless they're asking inappropriate questions.

When I was single: "So, do you have a special guy?" followed by "Why not?"

When I was dating D: "When are you guys getting married?" The first time we were asked, we had been on two dates.

When we were engaged: "When are you guys going to have babies?" Um...not right now?

Now that we're married and tell people we don't want kids: "You'll change your mind." I'm pretty sure that at 31 and 33, we're kind of set in our decision.

I just go ahead and say inappropriate things back.
Them: "When are you guys going to have kids?"
Me: "Never. When are you going to die? You're married and have kids, so death would be next, right?"

[lizardesque]

This might work:
"If you want me to get pregnant ASAP, does that mean you will take care of the kid? No? Well, STFU then."

[MyName]

We've been together a long time, and even though most anyone who knows me knows I will never have kids, there are still some assholes who don't take the hint.

I usually go for "If I wanted to carry around a parasite, I'd rather contract malaria" and "Do you really think someone that hates kids should have one?"

Louietunes - that response is great! I will have to use that!

[lizo11]

May 15, 2012 9:33:21 GMT -5 lizardesque said:

This might work:
"If you want me to get pregnant ASAP, does that mean you will take care of the kid? No? Well, STFU then."

I like this response!! Congrats on your upcoming wedding! Hopefully people will leave you alone and allow you to enjoy married life first!

[MrsBunnyfoo]

Good for you on knowing you want just enjoy being married. You know I think looking ahead to he next step is a huge part of American culture. From the time we are little we are on schedules and have this and that to do. Rarely do we get to think about and be present in the moment we are in.

[rebeccalynn]

May 15, 2012 9:33:21 GMT -5 lizardesque said:

This might work:
"If you want me to get pregnant ASAP, does that mean you will take care of the kid? No? Well, STFU then."

LOL, I said that to my mother in law today... I said if she wanted me to have a kid that badly, would she take care of it?

[Deleted]

You know what? I'm still dating, and I get asked that all the time. "When are you two going to settle down and have some kids?"

I didn't realize that was my primary function in life. Jezzuz.