I don't know - Jane and Janice are not that alike in my book. I'm in a very similar situation though! We are planning to name our baby Jules if it's a boy. That is the name of MIL's father, grandfather, great-grandfather and maybe even further back than that. Great family name. Except MIL's name is Julie, and she is super self-involved and I just KNOW she's going to think we named the baby after her. Ultimately, we just decided to go for it and she can think (and tell people) whatever she wants. We will just continually correct her in public until she gives up.
I think you should go with Jane if you like it. It's a beautiful name.
I don't know - Jane and Janice are not that alike in my book. I'm in a very similar situation though! We are planning to name our baby Jules if it's a boy. That is the name of MIL's father, grandfather, great-grandfather and maybe even further back than that. Great family name. Except MIL's name is Julie, and she is super self-involved and I just KNOW she's going to think we named the baby after her. Ultimately, we just decided to go for it and she can think (and tell people) whatever she wants. We will just continually correct her in public until she gives up.
I think you should go with Jane if you like it. It's a beautiful name.
Thanks for sharing your situation. We do have another name we both like, so we will probably go in that direction instead. Just wanted to get some opinions.
It's a lovely name. Could you potentially claim it as a family name on your side and announce it to her as 'we named her Jane after my great-great aunt' or something?
It's a lovely name. Could you potentially claim it as a family name on your side and announce it to her as 'we named her Jane after my great-great aunt' or something?
Is it a bad thing if she does? It may mean that she gives the baby more clothes and helps out more with babysitting!
I tend to agree with this strategically, though my heart would be all, "she is NOT named after YOU!"
I have the same issue -- a name I have loved for a long time is actually the name of DH's great-aunt...and his mom's middle name. It's not at all after her, for a variety of reasons, but we'd be happy to honor his great-aunt. That said, I'm certain his mom would take it as our honoring *her*, even though I would spell the name differently than her spelling. Part of me wants to not do it, b/c I dont' think she deserves the warm fuzzies of thinking our baby is named after her. And part of me figures it's probably not the worst idea, given things are not as smooth as we'd like with her.