It's officially been 4 months ...

[doriswe]

I hear you on the feelings, my dear!

[les]

I completely understand. It has only been a few weeks for me, but I have had similar thoughts. I have amazing chemistry with a guy I casually dated last year. I know we could have a friends-with-benefits arrangement, but I do not want to get too emotionally involved. Then again, it might be a while before I am in a monogamous relationship.

Silly hormones and feelings.

[katietornado]

DUDE. I went over two years in my early 20s. I love the sex, but staying celibate kept me out of trouble.

Obvi it'll happen again. You're awesome!

[katietornado]

Do you not have a vibrator, woman?

YWIA.

[Deleted]

I agree with your plan not to do FWB. It's usually not worth it. If something fell into your lap that would be one thing, but I wouldn't give it much thought or attention.

Then again, I am just not the type to be fulfilled by that sort of thing. Props to those who like it enough. I need to butterflies and the excitement of them calling, etc. I need to boyfriend part + boyfriend parts = to really enjoy myself.

It won't last forever.

Edit: I went over a year. Then I did end up briefly dating one guy (couple months, maybe less? I forget) and it wasn't *that* great by comparison of doing it with someone you are so into. Then I had 2 incidents with a guy who I kind of liked initially, but then realized he was just weird.

I'd wait. It's 1000x better.

[jojoandleo]

My BFF went 5 years.

I think the longest I have gone since losing my virginity was 1 month? Maybe? I enjoy safe, casual sex though. I understand it's not for everyone and support your waiting. Don't worry, your vagina won't grow cobwebs for AT LEAST another 4 months. . JOKES!

[jojoandleo]

Mar 13, 2014 18:01:09 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 13, 2014 17:59:00 GMT -5 jojoandleo said:

My BFF went 5 years.

I think the longest I have gone since losing my virginity was 1 month? Maybe? I enjoy safe, casual sex though. I understand it's not for everyone and support your waiting. Don't worry, your vagina won't grow cobwebs for AT LEAST another 4 months. . JOKES!

OMG you people and your stories of YEARS. no. I am not listening.

Well, he had a really bad scare. He was kind of a recluse for 4 of those years. BUT! He's still alive, healthy, and as well adjusted as he was to begin with.

[glitzyglow]

I just hit the one year mark.

[locarb]

Imagine the fireworks that will shoot from your vagina when it happens. It will happen ( with the right guy) and worth the wait.

[glitzyglow]

Mar 13, 2014 18:13:15 GMT -5 mp said:

Mar 13, 2014 18:09:45 GMT -5 locarb said:

Imagine the fireworks that will shoot from your vagina when it happens. It will happen ( with the right guy) and worth the wait.

I was thinking of trying to find a gif for this, but since I'm at work, decided against it. Perhaps kevin arnold can come up with something?

[Ace]

It has been right at 3 months for me and it feels like it has been even longer. I don't see that ending anytime soon since I just started the divorce process, unfortunately.

[mcc]

I feel you. I want feelings sex. I drunkenly hooked up with IT guy (no sex) and it wasn't the same.

[naeljun]

I went 4 years too. It's been about 3 months now and while I have entertained the FWB thing a few times, I just don't think I can do it.

[Deleted]

I think my longest dry spell was 7 months.

[glitzyglow]

I did the math because of the thread and it wasn't hard, sadly. I've only had sex 4 times since September 2010. And was of those time was awful, awful sex.

[peppermint]

I'm with ya. Although I'm pushing 3 years. The horror! I just can't do FWB...I always get attached and I'm not going to do that to myself. I know the wait will be worth it to have sex with feelings...but if it could happen soon that would be greeeaaaat. Hang in there!

[Deleted]

I'm at 9 months. And I did stumble into two dicks who could have done the job, if they had ever bothered to rise to the occasion. Talk about fucking depressing.

[dreamcrisp1]

Hold out! I went 3.5 months without sex because I was over FWB and I wanted feelings. And I am so glad I waited. The sex is not only amazing because it's REAL good but it's amazing because we connect and we are head over heels for each other.

[pantsoffdanceoff]

It's been over 2 years for me, I'm pretty sure I'm a virgin again.

[cuddlyevil]

It has been five months for me. The longest I have gone was two years.

I won't lie, I want the peen but I am not ready to deal with catching a case of the feels.

[verycontrary247]

.....

You are a stronger woman than I am, mp

All of you really. I'm a slave to my hormones.

[kaneen]

This thread just made me realize I'm at 6 months. Boo!

[alleinesein]

Its been about 2 months or so. It wasnt that great.

[justkly]

 Dammit mp.  I totally want you to have amazing sex. If I were at home in CA, I would totally hook you up with all the hot peen that I know.    For now, I will just have to stare at juicy military dudes and wish that you could see what I see.  I'm sorry.  

[pantsoffdanceoff]

Mar 14, 2014 1:10:30 GMT -5 verycontrary247 said:

.....

You are a stronger woman than I am, mp

All of you really. I'm a slave to my hormones.

I'm not strong, I just have a lack of options.

Truly, I was with my ex for 15 years, so I never got the chance in college to learn how to find a FWB or just someone to casually date. I am definitely stunted in this area.

[becwheat]

AS I have said before sex leads to attachment for me, so I went 2 years. My sex dreams reach some EPIC proportions during this time. My BF is now reaping the benefits of my deprivation.

[starburst604]

I once went for 6 months, for very similar reasons. FWB situations weren't doing it for me anymore after almost 3 years of single life, and I wanted something real. THEN I got into a 9month relationship with someone who had major sexual issues, and I can count on both hands the number of times we had actual P in V. I almost lost hope that I could find peen and feels in the same package!