I don't get it either. I am only 13 weeks and I know something is different. I am a raging bitch 75% of the time. lol I know each woman has different symptoms, but don't they feel something is off?
I was just thinking about that again today. I know there are a lot of explanations but I still don't really buy it. There has to be a heavy dose of denial going on there too.
It's especially hard for me to imagine, as I feel like I'm pregnant with the world's most rambunctious fetus.
My DH and I were watching a tv show about 911 calls recently. A guy called in saying my wife is having a baby. We stopped smoking, she gained some weight, so I didn't think anything of it. Then he yells OMG my wife just had the baby....my wife is holding a baby. OMG we aren't prepared for another baby.
Post by Wonderwall on Mar 14, 2014 23:28:48 GMT -5
I have an anterior placenta also - so the movement I feel is limited but I still feel something in there shifting... Not something I could easily ignore. Weird!
The few times I've seen that show, I've seen larger women who didn't know they were pregnant. I can see how they might not notice much of a change in shape, and they might not even gain that much weight.
All the other signs though... those would be harder to miss.
I haven't really had much in the way of symptoms so I get how you might not know for quite a while. I probably could have explained away everything until about 20 weeks. But now that my belly is bigger and in the way and making it harder to do things, I think that might be a tip-off. Though if someone were overweight enough to already be dealing with those things, IDK. I do think there has to be some denial going on though.
A friend's cousin could have been on that show. Never had a regular period, TTC for almost 10 years and never got pregnant even after IUI and IVF. She and her DH threw themselves a big 10th anniversary party to kick off their child-free life. A few months before their anniversary she as having stomach issues and was dx with a hernia, and surgery was scheduled for a few weeks after the party. Well the Monday after the anniversary party she woke up with a huge bloated belly, went to the dr and was told she was 32 weeks pregnant.
Post by chickadee77 on Mar 15, 2014 12:23:29 GMT -5
I'm 25 weeks, and I get it up to a point. I haven't had many symptoms, but could easily see writing them off as indigestion/gas, random weight gain, etc. Ask me again in a month, though, and I think it'll make less sense.
The mind is powerful - you see a negative pregnancy test, or think you can't concieve, or are actively preventing... you can explain away a lot of things.
A friend's cousin could have been on that show. Never had a regular period, TTC for almost 10 years and never got pregnant even after IUI and IVF. She and her DH threw themselves a big 10th anniversary party to kick off their child-free life. A few months before their anniversary she as having stomach issues and was dx with a hernia, and surgery was scheduled for a few weeks after the party. Well the Monday after the anniversary party she woke up with a huge bloated belly, went to the dr and was told she was 32 weeks pregnant.
How is the baby?
Baby was 100% fine and is now 4ish years old.
All of this happened around the time of our friends' wedding in 2010.
The story in my family is that my great grandmother had 12 children and then went through what she thought was menopause. Several months later, she went into labor -- and delivered healthy twin boys. My great uncles are in their 70s now and they grew up hearing that story their whole lives. They claim their mother, who was long dead by the time I was born, swore that she didn't know she was pregnant. The crazy thing is that she was a freaking midwife! I agree that the mind is a crazy thing. Maybe she thought in the back of her mind that she was pregnant but just couldn't believe it because she was old and she already had a dozen kids that kept her from thinking about things too long.
A friend's cousin could have been on that show. Never had a regular period, TTC for almost 10 years and never got pregnant even after IUI and IVF. She and her DH threw themselves a big 10th anniversary party to kick off their child-free life. A few months before their anniversary she as having stomach issues and was dx with a hernia, and surgery was scheduled for a few weeks after the party. Well the Monday after the anniversary party she woke up with a huge bloated belly, went to the dr and was told she was 32 weeks pregnant.
Post by amaristella on Mar 15, 2014 17:36:34 GMT -5
I get that denial is a pretty powerful force. I was in labor for 22 hours before I acknowledged it (my water broke while getting up off the couch to go "get checked") but even the people I've known with anterior placentas still had pretty noticeable movement and symptoms during third trimester. I can't imagine what I would need to have going on in life to be so unaware of my own body.
I have an anterior placenta also - so the movement I feel is limited but I still feel something in there shifting... Not something I could easily ignore. Weird!
Me, too. I'm sitting right here with you. There's no way I could confuse this feeling with gas or something else.
I have a friend that did not find out she was pregnant until she was 24 weeks pg. She was 44 years old. Her and her partner (who have been together since university) had been on a 2 month trip travelling around Australia and New Zealand then she got back to England and started a new job. The job involved carrying heavy things and being on her feet all day. That is how she explained the lack of periods (and thought she was starting menopause) and the exhaustion. She is also short and wide. Then oneday she was working in her garden and did not feel right, thought she had IBS so she went to see your doctor. That is when she found out is was expecting.
Post by earlgreyhot on Mar 16, 2014 22:02:51 GMT -5
I can totally see making it to 20-24 weeks for the average person who's not experiencing a regular period. I had zero symptoms that couldn't be related to something else. And I just popped with my second in the last (22 weeks). Full term is stretch but life is weird sometimes.
I had irregular periods and would go almost 50 days a cycle. But being that I started with MS almost right away I would have known pregnancy was the cause. I never get sick.
So I guess you have to have the right combo of irregular cycles, be lucky enough to not have symptoms, and have the correct body type to not show weight gain.