How is everyone this morning? How was your weekend?
My weekend was actually pretty good. I had a therapy appointment on Saturday morning. Then I went out for lunch with H. On Sunday, we ended up getting a confirmation email from our timeshare company. This of course inspired us to start trip planning. Looks like we are going away in May!
It was quite peaceful. I signed the lease and got one key to the house, will get the other on April 1st. I did a bunch of laundry and hung out with the kids.
I'm a little sleepy this morning. My alarm clock that's just a light turned on at 5am instead of 6am like it was supposed to, then didn't turn back on at 6 so it was harder to get up.
My weekend was really good. Friday night M invited me to hang out with him and a couple of his cousins, then Saturday we went to the hockey game and dinner afterwards. Yesterday I hung out with friends and watched a movie called Journey to the South Pacific, then we went to a great place for an early dinner and sat in their garden seating area, drinking beer and eating delicious food. It was one of those perfect moments.
This weekend was great until yesterday. Friday was patio time with friends and wine. Saturday I was up at 8:30 at the pub watching rugby. It was awesome. My neighbor who is Welsh gave me a Wales scarf and I cheered for them. It was really exciting and fun. After we hung out on her patio and made a cheese/bread/fruit/veg feast and it was so good. 12+ hours of drinking is a lot though. I wasn't tanked but I was happy all day.
Sunday went out for groceries and a stupid kid hit my car in the parking lot. Luckily H was sitting in the car because of his allergies or else the kid would have driven off. He hopped out of his car and told him I'm bad at backing up.WTF that is a very important skill to master if you drive. So now I am dealing with his insurance and getting my car fixed. My poor Mini. It didn't deserve a knock in the butt.
Post by captainmel on Mar 17, 2014 10:26:12 GMT -5
I had to reschedule my S2000 drive for later this week. Boo! I was already awake though so I ate delicious oatmeal and pancakes and then I went to a long day at work.
I forgot it was St Patrick's day until this post so I guess it is good I haven't gotten dressed yet.
I desperately need new undershirts.
Boyfriends dad is really deteriorated and I really just want him to die soon.
Post by starrieskies on Mar 17, 2014 10:56:00 GMT -5
My weekend was pretty good. I had an unexpected turn of events in the no nickname guy saga. I found out that it wasn't him online messaging my friend... It was his 18 year old son. His son called me to explain and apologize. I talked to no nickname guy and told him that I'm not sure how I'm feeling about all of this and that I'm going to need some time and space to figure it out in my head. He's been very respectful of my request, so that is working in his favor I suppose.
Strangely, out of no where, dirty dream guy texted me over the weekend too. I swear it's like guys have some sixth sense... We had a nice chat and caught up a bit from the last few weeks.
Went to a birthday party on Saturday night and had a little too much to drink... Spent most of Sunday being lazy. That's about it.
Oh, and this morning DS picked out his own St. Patrick's Day outfit. A green t shirt, matching hat, blue jeans and green striped toe socks pulled up over his pants! I was smiling all morning! I love that he gets into the holidays with me and we can be goofy together!
Post by captainmel on Mar 17, 2014 11:10:24 GMT -5
starrieskies, that is a lot of family drama to have in a new relationship. Maybe the son is having a hard time with his dad dating again but... that is still a lot of drama.
Post by starrieskies on Mar 17, 2014 11:22:50 GMT -5
I agree! A lot of drama... Too much for me to handle at this point, I think. I'm taking a step back and reevaluating whether I really even want to date right now. It was nice, and I enjoyed it, but I don't think I'm going to actively seek out anyone to date.
The issue wasn't so much that the son is having problems with his dad dating. He just moved out here from NC to be with is dad and was using his dad's profile to check out the local ladies (without dad's knowledge)... He actually asked me to give his dad another chance because he really likes me...
I agree! A lot of drama... Too much for me to handle at this point, I think. I'm taking a step back and reevaluating whether I really even want to date right now. It was nice, and I enjoyed it, but I don't think I'm going to actively seek out anyone to date.
The issue wasn't so much that the son is having problems with his dad dating. He just moved out here from NC to be with is dad and was using his dad's profile to check out the local ladies (without dad's knowledge)... He actually asked me to give his dad another chance because he really likes me...
Oy. This really does just seem like too much. If you decide you're not ready to date, that's totally okay. It will probably feel overwhelming for a little while anyway because you're learning to look for signs and trust your gut all over again.
You know I day this out of love and support: do you still see a therapist? Talking about the potential relationship issues, and examining a new guy with the therapist, can help you in identifying a healthy one when you're ready. And of course she/he can help you with stuff about your ex that might come up through the process.
I agree! A lot of drama... Too much for me to handle at this point, I think. I'm taking a step back and reevaluating whether I really even want to date right now. It was nice, and I enjoyed it, but I don't think I'm going to actively seek out anyone to date.
The issue wasn't so much that the son is having problems with his dad dating. He just moved out here from NC to be with is dad and was using his dad's profile to check out the local ladies (without dad's knowledge)... He actually asked me to give his dad another chance because he really likes me...
Oy. This really does just seem like too much. If you decide you're not ready to date, that's totally okay. It will probably feel overwhelming for a little while anyway because you're learning to look for signs and trust your gut all over again.
You know I day this out of love and support: do you still see a therapist? Talking about the potential relationship issues, and examining a new guy with the therapist, can help you in identifying a healthy one when you're ready. And of course she/he can help you with stuff about your ex that might come up through the process.
I've only had a couple of sessions with her in the last month or so, but yes, I'm still going. =) That is an excellent idea and I'm sure it would be helpful.
I really just don't think I'm ready. I thought I was, but now I'm not sure, and if I'm not sure the answer's no. I feel like I was too busy looking for reasons why it wouldn't work than really enjoying the time we were together. I need to be in a place where I'm not constantly waiting for "the other shoe to drop". I thought I was there, but I'm not.
And my weekend was really great. Slept in, Lots of family time (mattress shopping with dad, Target shopping with mom), family game afternoon with my brother, saw chef guy and he cooked me dinner (oh my. Super sexy to watch him cook), watched a few Oscar movies last night. It wasn't too busy and not too quiet.
I had a good weekend, it was spent drinking entirely too much beer and a lot of time with friends. Not so much downtime, which is okay, but I would have preferred a little bit more one on one time with H.
Post by captainmel on Mar 17, 2014 13:41:55 GMT -5
Oh and, my mom took me to Jcrew factory and bought me a bunch of stuff. She waited until the total came up and handed me cash for everything except $2.68 and told me I had to pay the rest to balance it out. I love my mom.
Post by captainmel on Mar 17, 2014 18:17:25 GMT -5
partiallysunny, His dad is pretty much completely gone. He doesn't eat much, he only wants to drink wine (which at this point no one cares about because it makes him happy), he doesn't get up to go to the bathroom so he has to be changed, he has a hospital bed in the living room and he doesn't really leave it ever. He also struggles with pain and anxiety.
His deterioration in the last 3-6 months has been very drastic. If he died in his sleep tonight I think everyone would be happy.
Boyfriend is doing really well.he has gone through most (close to all) of the grieving process already. I would guess he has been at peace with this for at least three years. I'm sure it will still be a little bit sad when he actually dies but when Boyfriend looks at the man in the bed it isn't his dad anymore. His sad dies a long time ago.