Weekly check-in, 3/19

[FastHands]

How is everyone?

kershnic, I hope everyone is home and doing well!

[anna7602]

Good morning! All is good over here. I'm taking DD to our big A/S on Friday, so I am excited about that.

I'm also gearing up to run a 5K this weekend with DH. I hope my pregnant belly doesn't slow him down too much.

[FastHands]

Yay for A/S!

I had my routine Dr. appt on Monday. It was a PITA because we had to rotate to a different office because this Dr. doesn't rotate. And then the appt was roughly 11 seconds long. haha. It was good, though, because this office is at the hospital I would deliver at, and it made me all-too-aware that I didn't know how to get there. heh. We also heard the HB for the first time, which was cool. And, most importantly, we got word that all of the screenings and the NT and BW were "normal."

Then we made our appts for 18 weeks (routine) and 19w6d for the A/S! Now I'm just going to sit here and wait for this thing to start moving enough for me to feel it. Rrrreeeady, baby? Go! ... aaannnnnnd GO!... sigh.

[FastHands]

OH, I forgot I wanted to ask this. Has anyone had mom or MIL with you for u/s appts?? Apparently my MIL told DH that she would like to come to one of our u/s appts. I kind of had this face: . We are not close. DH talks to her on the phone fairly regularly, but we only see each other a few times a year despite their being within a 45min drive. We see MY parents about as often, and they are a 2h plane ride away. So it struck me as really kind of odd. I can't decide if this is just because it's weird in general, or weird because we're not close, or weird because it would make me feel like it should be MY mom if anyone.. So just all around not having warm and fuzzies about it. I told DH that we aren't going to have routine u/s at appts anymore (since we had them at the first 2 appts, I think he thought that would be the norm), since everything is pretty much formed already, and we'll just take a peek at the a/s to be sure everything is going good, and then that's it unless we want to pay the $175 for the 4D one (which kind of creeps me out). It sounds like DH wants the a/s to be private, so he's going to tell her no, so I think I dodged a bullet. heh. But is this a thing?? I get PP saying they'd take their child, but I can't imagine asking anyone else to be there.


It's also making me super paranoid that maybe she wants to be in the delivery room. Because, no. I guess we need to start hashing this stuff out. UGH.

[speyedr]

I had my 37w appt. yesterday and had my GBS swab done and first cervical exam...I am 3cm dilated and 70% effaced so theres that. I realize this doesn't mean a whole lot but knowing that the few irregular contractions I am having are effective is comforting. I am down to weekly appointments now and am hoping this baby doesn't decide to come before Sat. as I'm not sure DH will make it home from work if that's the case. I worry a little as I am working tonight and will be on my feet for a good portion of my 12 hour shift, which is usually what starts the contractions for me.

FastHands--You have to decide what you are comfortable with and I would set boundaries with her now so she knows what she gets to be involved in. I can easily see her requesting to be present for the delivery if you start allowing her to be more involved with the process. I had to tell my own mom that she couldn't be here for the delivery, that I wanted my stepmom with me instead, and while it was a difficult conversation to have it had to be done.

[Deleted]

16w yesterday.

2nd part of NT bloodwork was rescheduled from tomorrow to next Tuesday. Regular dr. appointment is Monday afternoon.

We have another 4 weeks until the A/S.

[picksthemusic]

Mar 19, 2014 11:42:50 GMT -5 speyedr said:

I had my 37w appt. yesterday and had my GBS swab done and first cervical exam...I am 3cm dilated and 70% effaced so theres that. I realize this doesn't mean a whole lot but knowing that the few irregular contractions I am having are effective is comforting. I am down to weekly appointments now and am hoping this baby doesn't decide to come before Sat. as I'm not sure DH will make it home from work if that's the case. I worry a little as I am working tonight and will be on my feet for a good portion of my 12 hour shift, which is usually what starts the contractions for me.

FastHands--You have to decide what you are comfortable with and I would set boundaries with her now so she knows what she gets to be involved in. I can easily see her requesting to be present for the delivery if you start allowing her to be more involved with the process. I had to tell my own mom that she couldn't be here for the delivery, that I wanted my stepmom with me instead, and while it was a difficult conversation to have it had to be done.

FastHands, ITA with speyedr. You need to have your DH set boundaries NOW with what you're comfortable with. And it'd be good to let your DH in on those boundaries that you'd like to see if he has any to add. He knows his mom best, and he'll be able to navigate how she'll react to what you will and won't allow. I kind of know from experience here that if you give them an inch, they'll take a foot. So... yeah. LOL If you want specifics, I am willing to share.

As for me, babe is doing good. Feeling more movement these days which is nice. A/S is scheduled for 4/3, which can't come soon enough. I did do a look-see at work (we have an in-office US machine), and I think I saw a penis, but I'm not for sure. So we're excited to see if there's a penis or not.

Hope everyone's having a good week!

[FastHands]

Thanks guys. We actually talked very early about the delivery room and both are firm on not having anyone there, so I'm not worried about being a united front there. We just never talked abiut u/s appts because I never imagined it would come up! Lol. So when I say I worry about her wanting to be in the delivery room, I more mean that I don't envy my husband's having to shut it down. Haha. That could get interesting.

[Poeticxpassion]

We found out at our AS yesterday that we are having a boy! We are so excited!! In laws are throwing us a huge party in Colorado with my husbands family and friends. Can't wait!! We also will probably be moving out there a few weeks after the baby is born. Eek!

[speyedr]

Mar 19, 2014 13:33:27 GMT -5 Poeticxpassion said:

We found out at our AS yesterday that we are having a boy! We are so excited!! In laws are throwing us a huge party in Colorado with my husbands family and friends. Can't wait!! We also will probably be moving out there a few weeks after the baby is born. Eek!

Congrats on your baby boy! I live in Western CO and we are moving back to the front range sometime soon after LO is born (probably mid-late summer). DH and I grew up in the foothills SW of Denver and lived in the NW burbs for a while before moving here. We are excited to get back to the other side of the state and be close to family again. 

[thatgirl2478]

10 weeks yesterday! I'm one big bundle of nerves for the NT scan in 2 weeks. Especially because I'm 35 and DH is 42...

I have to go up to Chicagoland for my work next week. Even though I'm looking forward to seeing my boss, and she's incredibly nice & supportive, I'm NOT looking forward to telling her I'm pregnant. I'm just coming off a 3 month break (imposed by the company I'm consulting for) and now I can only work for 6 months - and my project is supposed to launch in August (which really means Sept). I'm hoping that she'll take me back after maternity leave (loosely applied term here - I get no leave/FMLA/STD etc).

[anna7602]

FastHands, if it doesn't feel normal/natural to you to have your MIL there, don't feel pressured into it. I am taking DD, but wouldn't ever take MIL or my mom because I just wouldn't be comfortable with that. Is there some other "bonding" activity you could propose to satisfy your MIL's desire to be involved? I went maternity clothes shopping with MIL when I was pregnant the first time. It was innocuous enough. Or maybe you could ask for her opinion on some item you really don't have a strong opinion of your own about- which pattern to choose for your stroller or choosing between this crib sheet and that crib sheet (just tossing out random examples, insert better ones of your own).

All of this advice goes out the window if your MIL has serious boundary issues and going baby item shopping together will lead to her wanting to select everything the baby uses from now through age 18.

[KaraOrNot]

I am 10w5d. 7 days until my NT scan. Eeek!

[ecinereb]

31 weeks! where has the time gone?
Had my routine appointment this morning and no wonder I'm feeling so huge! I'm measuring 34 weeks.
Also went to PT today for my pelvic pain and have a few things to work on but she basically said it's just normal pregnancy changes and to just do my best to avoid things that cause pain. She was also pretty confident that it wasn't anything major so it shouldn't get too much worse.

[statlerwaldorf]

FastHands I guess it's a thing.  My cousin is pregnant and has invited her mom along to every ultrasound which I am guessing is why my mom asked to come to one of mine.  She never asked when I was pregnant with DD and it never even crossed my mind to invite her.  I didn't really care, so I let her come to my a/s.  I wouldn't feel comfortable with MIL.

The a/s is a really long u/s.  It took about an hour.  Also they still needed to go really low to get certain angles, so you run the risk of your MIL seeing your pubes.  It's still a medical procedure, so I would tell her no if you are not comfortable.

[andthentherewere10]

FastHands, I wouldn't allow her in case of bad news. After the a/s, you could always offer her a visit with you to one of those elective ultrasound boutiques.

I'm 33 weeks. Found out I have diastasis (separation of ab muscle) which is what was making my lower back hurt so much a few weeks ago. Started wearing a maternity support belt which has helped a lot. Baby boy his head down and deep - not likely to flip according to midwife. I don't have GD but she prefers that I eat as if I do because one of my levels was borderline. One more appt in 2 weeks and then weekly appts.

[kershnic]

Mar 19, 2014 9:13:27 GMT -5 FastHands said:

How is everyone?

kershnic, I hope everyone is home and doing well!

Yes! We are all home and settling in... I'm still trying to transition them from bottles to breastfeeding, which is a ridiculously time consuming project. Every 3 hours I spend 2 hours feeding, pumping, etc. So you can imagine that 3rd hour is rarely spent on GBCN.

I would not have felt comfortable with relatives at an ultrasound at all. Just say no...it's good practice!

[FastHands]

Mar 22, 2014 11:26:19 GMT -5 kershnic said:

Mar 19, 2014 9:13:27 GMT -5 FastHands said:

How is everyone?

kershnic, I hope everyone is home and doing well!

Yes! We are all home and settling in... I'm still trying to transition them from bottles to breastfeeding, which is a ridiculously time consuming project. Every 3 hours I spend 2 hours feeding, pumping, etc. So you can imagine that 3rd hour is rarely spent on GBCN.

I would not have felt comfortable with relatives at an ultrasound at all. Just say no...it's good practice!

Pffft sure like you're "busy." Ok. I'd love more pics when/if you get time!

And it's definitely a no for mil for the a/s, for sure. I told dh we can make her a copy of the dvd and she can pretend she was there. Lol

[jewel]

16 weeks. I'm in a weird transition period of getting fatter and more pregnant-looking, but because I can't feel the baby, it doesn't seem real at all. It feels like this body, with the belly, isn't really mine. It's hard to explain, but it's all so strange. I also haven't made any sort of announcement at work, so it's getting a little awkward to walk around looking like I drank way too much beer for breakfast.

And the first of an annoying family situation - my SIL just got engaged a few weeks ago, and is planning her wedding. She's upset because we ruined her original wedding plans (on the exact weekend of my due date), and is now planning an OOT wedding for 4 weeks after my due date, fully expecting us to be there. It's likely only 2 hours away, but still, I'm not willing to commit to a weekend out of town, 4 weeks after birth, and with a newborn. She feels like as long as we are out of the hospital, there should be no issue with getting there. Yeah, OK....

[anna7602]

Mar 23, 2014 1:13:08 GMT -5 jewel said:

And the first of an annoying family situation - my SIL just got engaged a few weeks ago, and is planning her wedding. She's upset because we ruined her original wedding plans (on the exact weekend of my due date), and is now planning an OOT wedding for 4 weeks after my due date, fully expecting us to be there. It's likely only 2 hours away, but still, I'm not willing to commit to a weekend out of town, 4 weeks after birth, and with a newborn. She feels like as long as we are out of the hospital, there should be no issue with getting there. Yeah, OK....

Yikes! I hope she settles down.

[jewel]

Mar 24, 2014 13:45:47 GMT -5 anna7602 said:

Mar 23, 2014 1:13:08 GMT -5 jewel said:

Yikes! I hope she settles down.

LOL, it will only get crazier, I'm sure. Quite honestly, I'd be just as happy to miss the wedding, but I do think it's a little crazy that she can't possibly understand why I might not make it to her semi-OOT wedding, maybe 3-4 weeks after birth. What if I have a C-section? The whole thing obviously isn't about me, at all, but I know she'll be furious if we miss the wedding with this ridiculous "birth/newborn" excuse.