I love my Dad & I always will. He is the type that instead of crying over something that upsets him, he attacks the person causing the feeling. (me getting married, me moving, my mom getting sick, etc)
As he gets older and I objectively look at him, I see my Grandfather. His father was a alcoholic. My Grandfather was an abusive, mean, total asshole. My father never drinks, couldn't hit my mom/his kids. BUT his fucking attitude & mouth are the same.
This isn't earth shattering, I told my Dad at the dinner table tonight he was being a prick.
Is he repeating a pattern of behavior or is it anxiety?
It sounds like your dad grew up in a tough situation and tried his best to avoid repeating those mistakes. When you start from something that bad and build yourself up, it can be hard to know what truly good looks like. Good for him for not being an alcohol or physically abusive. It must be difficult for you to see him repeating his father's other behavior patterns. Nothing about that sounds like anxiety unless there is more than you've said here.
For lack of a better word he is social awkward. Me & him he is fine 100% the Dad I know/grew up with. Add other people he picks on a target. Maybe me, mom, brother but never the Interloper. Does that make sense?
My dad is like this, too. When I moved away, he took out his feelings of sadness by screaming at me, blaming me for all of his life's problems. It was really effed up.
My dad is like this, too. When I moved away, he took out his feelings of sadness by screaming at me, blaming me for all of his life's problems. It was really effed up.
Sorry you have to deal with that.
Funny I'm moving for my Hs job & this is what made me the target tonight.
Having your Dad say "you'll be back & only you" really fucks with you. (he is impelling divorce, etc)
I told him to stop being a prick and he barley batted an eye.
WTF?!?
Yes I know I'm a bitch, but you raised me asshole. Ugh!!!!!!!