When I was pregnant DH asked me if I wanted a push present and suggested I ring he knew I had liked in a store. I jokingly said "Yes, but I want a puppy." To my shock, he said OK so I began stalking Petfinder and that's how we got dog #2.
I think it's a made-up excuse to expect a gift or give something over the top.
If you want to get something to commemorate a kid's birth, go for it. But the term puts me off.
As i did not push a child out of me, and we aren't into such things, we didn't get anything in particular for DD.
I too am skeeved by the term "push present". I have a friend who received diamond earrings for Mother's Day after her baby was born. It was only a week or so after the birth. They were beautiful, but she insisted on calling them her "push present", which grossed me out. Why not just say, "My husband got me these for my first mother's day?". Ick.
My birthday was a week before my due date and my husband got me a diamond pendant that he told me was for DD, but that I could "borrow" it for 20 or so years. I liked the idea of passing something down to her on a big occasion in her life that her dad gave me to celebrate her birth.
I did not ask for them. DH just wanted to get me a present. He most certainly did not call them a push present and probably has no idea what that term means.
Its stupid to ask for one or expect it, but if your SO wants to give you a gift, I think its sweet.
I agree with this. I got a sapphire bracelet when I had ds and it was neither expected nor asked for. It was appreciated though. I didn't get anything for dd and that was okay too. If someone wants to buy their wife a gift who cares?
Post by definitelyO on Jul 11, 2012 14:14:57 GMT -5
Did not read all the responses.
DS was born Dec 12. For Christmas DH got me diamond earrings (which is not the standard of what we normally get each other for Christmas). These were because I had DS, and had such a hard time (bed rest, potential for pre-e, failed induction, etc...). He would have NO idea what a "push" present was if you asked him.
I think that something to commemorate the birth is nice. but not required and I hate the terminiology of "push present"
My birthday was a week before my due date and my husband got me a diamond pendant that he told me was for DD, but that I could "borrow" it for 20 or so years. I liked the idea of passing something down to her on a big occasion in her life that her dad gave me to celebrate her birth.
This is so sweet.
Like some others, I give a side-eye to women who demand a present, but I think it is sweet if a husband wants to give his wife something to commemorate the event. In that case, I think it is perfectly fine for the wife to give her husband ideas of what she might like should he ask for suggestions, just like any other occasion.
I had heard the term when I was pregnant and thought it was a funny name but I did not expect or ask for anything. But my husband bought me a necklace after I had my boys.
It was actually very sweet. My boys were born in April and so was my husband but he had no idea what April's birthstone was. When he asked the sales person and she told him diamond he said he almost fell over. He was like "couldn't it have been something a little less expensive" ;-)
He got me a necklace with 3 diamonds in it for my three April boys. I really cherish it b/c of what it symbolizes and a funny memory when he shared the story of purchasing it.
Like some others, I give a side-eye to women who demand a present, but I think it is sweet if a husband wants to give his wife something to commemorate the event. In that case, I think it is perfectly fine for the wife to give her husband ideas of what she might like should he ask for suggestions, just like any other occasion.
This. DH got me a locket w/ DS's birthstone on it, which I hinted i would like to commemorate his birth. I certainly didn't call it a "push present." I don't like the term.
DH and I joked about push presents since one of his CWs actually asked him about it before I ever mentioned it. People can do what they want, I don't really care. However, I never asked for anything specific.
DH surprised me with a day at the spa w/ my BFF. DS was only 8wks old and it was a really nice surprise. He also sent me on a personal shopping trip at Neiman's immediately after the spa. He set it up so that I could try on all of the Louboutins at the store and told the sales associate to let me buy however many I wanted. He also had my favorite champagne and chocolate covered strawberries in the personal shopping suite so we could have some fun while I tried on the shoes. I went home with two pairs and he said he expected me to get four at minimum. I was quite disappointed in myself for not buying more, lol. It was SO sweet of him and something completely unexpected.
I think to ask or expect one is stupid. If your DH wants to get you one, then fine.
I did not get one, but I don't think my DH had ever heard of one. I bought DH a "congrats on becoming a daddy" gift- a tablet. Didn't expect anything in return.
One of my friends got an Acura MDX. I will say that's a little excessive
Post by kittycatlove on Jul 12, 2012 9:00:18 GMT -5
DH wanted to get me a gift so he did. He kind of combined it with my first Mother's day since DS was born in April. I got a pair of earings. DH also got me a present for DS's first birthday. I think it was sweet, but in no way did I expect anything.
As much as I would love a new coach purse or diamond earrings, my baby was the best present I could ever ask for and having DH be a fully supportive engaged father and partner is worth more than anything money can buy IMO
I think as an expectation they're kinda weird. Dh did get me a small gift near my due date that I joke is a "push present", but reason he got it was because I was so miserable - so it was more a spontaneous mood booster and encouragement that I wouldn't be pg forever
Post by rootbeerfloat on Jul 12, 2012 14:32:49 GMT -5
I got birthstone rings for each of my kids. And I had 2 c/s, so I didn't even push!
I didn't ask for them, but I'm not sure H would have thought to get me something on his own either. My dad got my mom gifts when my sister and I were born (apparently, the concept isn't new!) and urged H to do the same.
I'll be honest and say that I did want a "push present", or whatever you want to call it, and I even hinted around to DH. My DH is great, but he does not tend to do well with picking gifts or making sweet/romantic gestures. I didn't need expensive jewelry or bags but I was kinda disappointed when he didn't even come through with flowers or a card.
I did know of the practice of DHs giving gifts to new moms since most of my friends have gotten gifts of some form (the term "push present" I learned on TB). Really what I wanted was for my DH to do something really sweet for me without me having to come out and ask directly, but that is just not how he normally operates/shows love. And that is ok, but I was a little disappointed at the time.