Bridesmaid dress help please!

[Bernadine]

I've decided, less than 5 weeks out from the wedding, that I don't like the dress my sisters got.  It's too dark (purple).

I can't find a pic of my dress, but it's strapless, A-line, with black around the waist and black ruffle down the side.  Do you think this dress would go?

[Bernadine]

Mar 24, 2014 9:33:00 GMT -5 littleduck said:

Wait, what? You're going to make your sisters buy another dress for you wedding 5 weeks out? That's not cool, especially if they spent money on alterations. Just stick with what you have, I'm sure the original dresses are nice.


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They can return the other dresses, no alterations.

[jaycee]

I've never seen patterned bridesmaids dresses. They look very junior to me.

[zaneyzoo]

Mar 24, 2014 9:33:00 GMT -5 littleduck said:

Wait, what? You're going to make your sisters buy another dress for your wedding 5 weeks out? That's not cool, especially if they spent money on alterations. Just stick with what you have, I'm sure the original dresses are nice.


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I've read this post several times trying to figure it out - hello MOnday morning.

I agree with this.  At this point, it's too late.  Unless you buy the new dress, stick with what you have. 

can you post the original BM dress?  To me the dress above is not very wedding-y especially for bridesmaids.

[cookie510]

I'm not a huge fan of that dress, it's just NMS. Do you have a picture of the dresses that they currently have?

[Deleted]

I don't like that dress at all. At this point I'd let them get a black dress and do a purple sash or something.

[karmasabiotch]

Can you post the other dress too?

[emjacobs]

Put yourself in their shoes, how would you feel if someone told you that you had to return your existing dress, buy this new dress, maybe have it altered, all within 5 weeks.

It's your day, so the decision is truly yours.

[whattheheck]

Does that dress need a special bra so it doesn't show through the keyhole in the back? Because that would be the part that pushes me over the edge.

[janegold]

I think it's really casual for a BM dress. Also, are your sisters very short? I would feel really uncomfortable wearing a dress that short. Do your sisters like it?

[papie]

I really don't like that dress, it screams afternoon at the beach or something. And honestly I would be pissed to have to return and buy a new dress last minute. Don't go all bridezilla on them ;-)

[luckyval]

I think that dress is too busy for a bridesmaid's dress.

Is the original dress that bad? Or are you over thinking things?

[dottyblue]

I really don't like that dress. It's too short and too casual if you are wearing a strapless a-line.

[callalily]

That dress isn't a bridesmaid dress IMHO. It's more beachy and casual.I also wouldn't do that to your sisters, that's a lot to ask 5 weeks before the wedding. Are you sure you aren't just overthinking it? Could they maybe wear a LBD?

[hereigo]

That's awfully casual for a BM dress.

[Bernadine]

Ok, thanks for giving my some perspective. I originally wanted a lighter purple dress for them. My mom and my sister talked me into going darker. I was talking to my sisters over the weekend, and I think they felt bad that they talked me out of what I originally wanted, and said they could return what they had and get something else.

[chiclet]

It's NMS.
Sister or not, I would be pretty upset about having to get a new dress. What if they already cut the tags or threw the receipt away for the other dress?

[anlo]

Mar 24, 2014 9:42:44 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

Ok, thanks for giving my some perspective. I originally wanted a lighter purple dress for them. My mom and my sister talked me into going darker. I was talking to my sisters over the weekend, and I think they felt bad that they talked me out of what I originally wanted, and said they could return what they had and get something else.

It's easy to get caught up in second guessing yourself. I'm sure the original dresses are lovely.

[Waffles]

I really don't like this dress at all. Are you perhaps overthinking things?

[LLL]

that dress is NMS

[wysiwyg]

I hate to say it... but it looks like 50's style wall paper to me.

Go with the original dresses. I am sure they are lovely and will all look lovely.

[leeann]

That dress is not at all bridesmaid-like to me.

I would probably be a tad put-out being expected to return a dress and buy a new one this close to the wedding.

[revolution]

Oh, I am sure the one they have is perfect! Sure, a little darker than you first thought, but it will be perfect and you will be beautiful.

And that one you PIP in the OP, pretty dress, not for a bridesmaid dress though.

[dragonfly08]

Mar 24, 2014 9:47:10 GMT -5 anlo said:

Absolutely.

And the truth is, even if you thought the original dresses were PERFECT now, in ten years you might look back and say "really?  what was I thinking?"  I can't think of too many situations in which going through the trouble of returning one dress, buying another, getting it altered, finding matching shoes, etc. within a five week time span is worth it.

In the end, even if they were wearing potato sacks, the only really important thing is that you and your FI are getting married, and your sisters will be there standing up for you.  

[cleo29]

I like a bunch of the stuff at Nordstrom. And if you find a dress in the same color but different styles, that might look nice.

shop.nordstrom.com/c/womens-bridesmaid-dresses?origin=leftnav

[RoxMonster]

Honestly, I don't care for the dress at all.

And difference in taste aside, I think that would only look OK for a BM dress if your wedding was SUPER casual, like on a beach or something. Otherwise, I don't think it's dressy enough, and it sounds like you have a fancy dress for yourself, so it would look odd.

[KKD]

I actually think the dress is pretty (though admittedly I'm on my phone and can't see the fabric/print very well), and I love the back (though it could create bra issues as pp mentioned). I don't think it seems too casual for the type of wedding you're having.

If it were my sister's wedding, I would probably grumble to myself a bit at the inconvenience but in the end I would want you to be happy. I know you are close with your sisters so I am sure they would feel the same way.

I can't believe it's only five weeks away!

[Bernadine]

I did discuss it with my sisters, they were fine with getting another dress. Just to clarify

But I did tell them we'll just stick with what they have. You guys are right, in the grand scheme of things, this is small potatoes.

[MixedBerryJam]

Mar 24, 2014 9:33:44 GMT -5 Bernadine said:

Mar 24, 2014 9:33:00 GMT -5 littleduck said:

Wait, what? You're going to make your sisters buy another dress for you wedding 5 weeks out? That's not cool, especially if they spent money on alterations. Just stick with what you have, I'm sure the original dresses are nice.


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They can return the other dresses, no alterations.

If I were your sisters I'd be pissed. i don't care if no alterations are needed. i don't care if your sisters will not have one penny of extra expense. What you're proposing is a shitty thing to do. Is the shade of pruple ypur sister are wearing (a shade, I will add, that they probably like and find flattering on them because you said they picked it out) really the most important component of your day?

ETA: I'm glad you changed your mind.

[auntie]

If your dress is trimmed in black, why are they not wearing a classic black? Or a pop color like red, lime or coral?

Not wild about that dress even for a casual event. I like the "looks very junior" comment.