It finally happened.

[skwcm80]

A friend asked me if I was being healthy because if I lost any more weight I'd blow away in the wind. I'm not even mad, but I really should just start telling people I probably a good 20 pounds more than they think I do. 

Sigh...

[slimshamy]

I hate those kinds of comments. It is so rude and disrespectful to speak to someone that way. Like would you walk up to someone and say, "I've noticed that your pants are way tighter than they used to be. For your health, you should probably go up a size."

NO.

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I get this shit often and I clearly have plenty of weight I could lose. Sigh.

[aqualuv]

It's sooooo annoying to hear. I remember when I was losing weight a cafeteria worker told me that my husband doesn't want skin and bones, men like something to grab on.

[sitnspin]

Can I join you gals?  As MH was making burgers on Monday, I saw three of them and wanted the small(ish) one.  He commented that I should have the bigger one because sometimes I eat too little.  Um, no dude.  I eat nearly 2000 cals a day sometimes! 

I also have a few lbs to spare.

[cinco]

Good job on the weight loss!
I got these sort of comments when I was doing weight watchers and lost a good amount of weight, and then after I lost quite a bit of weight after having my first baby. I think people mean well, but my BMI and I are swell, thank you. Just ignore!

[mainewifey]

I hate feeling like I need to justify myself and my workout routines. I get it from all sides. From the "you lift too heavy, you're going to get bulky", to "you don't have any weight to lose, why are you working out so much?" It's annoying.

[slimshamy]

Mar 27, 2014 14:12:09 GMT -5 mainewifey said:

I hate feeling like I need to justify myself and my workout routines. I get it from all sides. From the "you lift too heavy, you're going to get bulky", to "you don't have any weight to lose, why are you working out so much?" It's annoying.

That's the biggest thing, for me.  I feel like I work very hard every day at working out, eating good quality food and doing all sorts of things I can to stay healthy and take care of myself.  I do it for me.  It's no one else's fucking business, you know?

[skwcm80]

cinco thanks! my BMI puts me just on the inside of normal, so I'm ignoring him and my mom. I know they mean well but their approach leaves a little something to be desired.

I'm sorry that others are getting comments similar comments. They suck!

eta - up until a month ago i was overweight according to my BMI, and that wasn't even remotely close to true.

[sitnspin]

Mar 27, 2014 14:19:07 GMT -5 skwcm80 said:

cinco thanks! my BMI puts me just on the inside of normal, so I'm ignoring him and my mom. I know they mean well but there approach leaves a little something to be desired.

I'm sorry that others are getting comments similar comments. They suck!

I totally relate.  My RD says my weight for my height and build should be 118-126 and I am always on the high side of that.  People need to chill!

[derbycitycook]

I don't understand why anyone thinks it's okay to make any comment on someone's body. It happened all the time while I was pregnant (you're HUGE!) and still happens now that I've delivered (you are losing fast--you must be nursing/working out too much/not eating!).

The only appropriate comment should be "You look great!" Silence would be preferable.

[taratru]

This kind of stuff makes me STABBY. I spent a whole year being told I looked "sick" and that I needed to get "healthy"....all while training for a marathon. Now I've put on 5-10 pounds and people are saying how I look "so much better" and "so much healthier". Eff off, bro.

People need to mind their biz.

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Mar 27, 2014 14:18:16 GMT -5 slimshamy said:

Mar 27, 2014 14:12:09 GMT -5 mainewifey said:

I hate feeling like I need to justify myself and my workout routines. I get it from all sides. From the "you lift too heavy, you're going to get bulky", to "you don't have any weight to lose, why are you working out so much?" It's annoying.

That's the biggest thing, for me.  I feel like I work very hard every day at working out, eating good quality food and doing all sorts of things I can to stay healthy and take care of myself.  I do it for me.  It's no one else's fucking business, you know?

Amen.

[slimshamy]

Mar 27, 2014 14:40:44 GMT -5 taratru said:

This kind of stuff makes me STABBY. I spent a whole year being told I looked "sick" and that I needed to get "healthy"....all while training for a marathon. Now I've put on 5-10 pounds and people are saying how I look "so much better" and "so much healthier". Eff off, bro.

People need to mind their biz.

Omg. 

[schitzengiggles]

I got this a lot after a certain point when I was actively losing weight. Very frustrating, I'm sorry! Just do what you know is healthiest for YOUR body and screw everyone else.

[skwcm80]

Mar 27, 2014 14:44:44 GMT -5 @sessalee said:

Mar 27, 2014 14:18:16 GMT -5 slimshamy said:

That's the biggest thing, for me.  I feel like I work very hard every day at working out, eating good quality food and doing all sorts of things I can to stay healthy and take care of myself.  I do it for me.  It's no one else's fucking business, you know?

Amen.

I've to explain so many times that I run because I want to, not to lose weight. My mom asked if I could cut back on my workouts. I told her that I have a race that I'm kinda training for, plus I'm not going to eat just to eat. Like I said, her approach leaves a bit to be desired, plus exercise for her has always been about weightloss. 

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Mar 27, 2014 14:58:40 GMT -5 skwcm80 said:

Mar 27, 2014 14:44:44 GMT -5 @sessalee said:

Amen.

I've to explain so many times that I run because I want to, not to lose weight. My mom asked if I could cut back on my workouts. I told her that I have a race that I'm kinda training for, plus I'm not going to eat just to eat. Like I said, her approach leaves a bit to be desired, plus exercise for her has always been about weightloss. 

I keep getting asked what's my "end game" so I can back down. I hate this question. I'll back down if and when I want to, I'm not reaching for a tangible goal. Right now I'm healthy, I eat plenty, and I feel great. 

[slimshamy]

Mar 27, 2014 14:58:40 GMT -5 skwcm80 said:

Mar 27, 2014 14:44:44 GMT -5 @sessalee said:

Amen.

I've to explain so many times that I run because I want to, not to lose weight. My mom asked if I could cut back on my workouts. I told her that I have a race that I'm kinda training for, plus I'm not going to eat just to eat. Like I said, her approach leaves a bit to be desired, plus exercise for her has always been about weightloss. 

Yeah I can relate to this.  I'm a runner too - my in-laws keep saying to me "Be careful, blah blah, can't you just run a mile and be done?" Um. No...

[labbie]

I've had these types of comments recently too, and maybe it's because I am actually trying to lose right now- but I get excited when someone notices.
Then again, mine have been more on the side of just "are you losing weight?" versus anything judgemental....at least for now.

I do get ticked off when people comment on my choices of food or the fact that I run in cold weather ("you're crazy" or "must be nice to be able to eat that donut/cookie/pie and not worry about gaining weight"-  really? You have no idea what I eat/don't eat on a daily basis to allow for an occasional sweet- shut up!)

[thom]

People can be SO frustrating. Most of the time I feel like I can't talk about my running too much IRL or people will think I'm crazy and/or compulsive. I know I'm running waaay less than many serious runners, but I suppose it's all about perspective. We're proud and happy for your progress and training, skwcm80 ! Keep up the good work.

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After I gained weight after grad school, people started telling me how my face had been too skinny and I weighed too little. Um, 126 lbs on a 5'3 frame is not too skinny people! I still had belly pudge. People amaze me.

[taratru]

Mar 27, 2014 14:52:06 GMT -5 slimshamy said:

Mar 27, 2014 14:40:44 GMT -5 taratru said:

This kind of stuff makes me STABBY. I spent a whole year being told I looked "sick" and that I needed to get "healthy"....all while training for a marathon. Now I've put on 5-10 pounds and people are saying how I look "so much better" and "so much healthier". Eff off, bro.

People need to mind their biz.

Omg. 

omg, what?  

[slimshamy]

Mar 27, 2014 15:33:58 GMT -5 taratru said:

Mar 27, 2014 14:52:06 GMT -5 slimshamy said:

Omg. 

omg, what?  

I was just omg-ing at how rude people are.

[mainewifey]

You would think that when people actually saw the portions of food I eat at any given meal that they would realize that I'm eating plenty, but they actually go the other way. "look at her scarf down that food, she must have been starving herself"

No actually, I really do eat like a 200 pound man all the time, thank you very much.

[Susie]

I don't know… I've gotten some of these comments at various points, and I think people just notice change and blurt something out without thinking. Is it polite, no. But why should I think harder about it than they did before they said it? It's not worth the mental energy.

[emilyinchile]

Mar 28, 2014 9:06:50 GMT -5 Susie said:

I don't know… I've gotten some of these comments at various points, and I think people just notice change and blurt something out without thinking. Is it polite, no. But why should I think harder about it than they did before they said it? It's not worth the mental energy.

For the most part this is how I feel. I also have had a couple thoughtful, caring comments from people really just wanting to make sure I was healthy, and I didn't take offense to those. But I have had a weird or overly rude comment or two, and that can be annoying.

[hannahb]

Yeah this type of behavior annoys me. I get it from time to time. I think people just don't get the amount of work it takes to train. They also don't see me eat 2 breakfasts and snack all day long.