WWYD re: FRG

[Jam]

Okay so humor me for a moment. Some of you already know that I'm one of the FRG leaders for H's unit. Another one of the co-leaders' husband posts REALLY graphic photos (bordering on nudes) of said leader all over his public Facebook, instagram account, etc. I wonder if I should say something about this to the commander's wife. WWYD?

It wouldn't brother me if it were any other person but since she's one of the leaders and an FRG representative I feel like it's inappropriate for these pictures of her to be showcased all over the place.

I'm inclined to post a photo as an example and blur out some info. They're NSFW.

[MrsAggie]

My vote is for an example. Why would her husband post her goods for everyone? And are they arguably inappropriate or more definitely inappropriate?

[basilosaurus]

Stay out of it. Alert her if she's unaware, but if she's fine with it being public, it's not your business. People will judge the shit out of her, but that's her choice to make.

Her being an frg leader really doesn't mean anything in the grand scheme of things. Now if she were running for office, our puritan electorate would have a field day.

[amaristella]

I don't think I'd bring it up on purpose but if it's out there that badly then I'm sure he's developed a rep for it whether he knows it or not.

I'm the treasurer of our FRG and I'm trying to imagine if I were in the same situation. I judge other things such as how they treat the FRG Facebook page but I don't judge their personal pages unless they're making bad OPSEC or PERSEC decisions.

[Jam]

Jul 11, 2012 20:41:02 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

Stay out of it. Alert her if she's unaware, but if she's fine with it being public, it's not your business. People will judge the shit out of her, but that's her choice to make.

She's aware of it. I don't know why I'm all prudish about it either since I'm generally not like that but for some reason, the excessiveness of it all kindda makes me cringe.

Guess I'm just overreacting.

[basilosaurus]

Klassy (but kinda hot, actually). Still, not your deal. They're obviously fine with it.

And aren't you the one who admitted to you and your partner peeing on each other? Glass houses and all.

[nsl]

I would be majorly squicked out about him if I saw those photos, but I agree with the others that this is a private matter that has nothing to do with FRG business. Stay out of it.

[Jam]

Jul 11, 2012 20:47:32 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

Klassy (but kinda hot, actually). Still, not your deal. They're obviously fine with it.

And aren't you the one who admitted to you and your partner peeing on each other? Glass houses and all.

Lol yeah that's why I said humor me (amongst other indiscretions). Pot, kettle and all that jazz.

[MrsAggie]

I'm judging the shit out of her. But no, I wouldn't say anything.

[bettydraper]

Wow.

How close are you to her? As a good friend, I'd probably just straight up tell her they're too racy for fb. However, if she's just an acquaintance I'd stay out if it and side-eye the shit out of her for being ok with her dh posting those.

[Jam]

Meh. We aren't close in the sense that I hang out with her outside of FRG related functions but I may say something to her privately after seeing how things pan out during the upcoming strong bonds retreat.

I know that being part of the FRG is volunteer work but I think the position should be respected regardless. I think it's irresponsible to post stuff like that and/or allow your husband to post that when he has so many of his soldiers as FB friends.

[basilosaurus]

I think maybe you take the frg too seriously.

[Jam]

Jul 11, 2012 22:30:33 GMT -5 basilosaurus said:

I think maybe you take the frg too seriously.

Perhaps, but I take every job position seriously. Even the volunteer ones.

[softspot]

Youza a hoooooo (ho)! I said that youza a ho.

For real though, I can not believe how either of them are ok with everyone seeing pictures like that. I wonder if they are FB friends with their parents. :/

I don't think I'd say anything to the Commanders wife, but I would to the ho.

[beans]

I cannot believe you reposted this picture on an open forum and have left it up this long. I know her face is not there but still bad form.

If her H wants to post questionable pics of his wife and she let's him, they're grown adults who can make the choice to look like jackasses if they want.

[bigmamma]

Its on HIS FB and HIS Instagram. They made a choice to share her awesome ass with their friends. Maybe they are into exhibition as well. You just happen to be a "friend" and have access to their photos.

Holy shit. Is this a southern baptist FRG?

I posted weight loss pics that were more revealing than that.

Their pics, their accounts.... your opinion.

The commanders wife? Really? is it 1942 where spouses are wearing rank again? Did you even talk to HER about them?

[Jam]

@bigmama - I'm not Facebook friends with them but I run the company fb page so when she commented on something, I looked at her profile (and his).

Telling the commander's wife isn't related to rank, but we all handle the FRG stuff together and the person above has already exhibited some questionable behavior in ways I can't disclose the details of. This is just something that adds to that pile.

beans- I didn't think this forum was 'open' unless you already knew it existed. I mean, I didn't think you could just google it and stumble upon it, but I posted this last night and did want some east coast feedback before I took it down. I specifically chose a photo that doesn't show or say who it is.

[beans]

Well you got your feedback and its still up....? so...?

This is a very open forum, as open as TN or maybe more since more people might randomly wander on to a forum not called the nest. It is searchable, and there have been plenty of random posters who have joined this group without being part of the nest first. They made it searcable so that we could get "new blood" over here. FTR I googled "frg inappropriate pictures on facebook" and this was the sixth post on there.

I'd do the considerate thing and take the girl's ass out of the post. I'm guessing (could be totally wrong) but I'm just guessing that if some aquaintance of yours came on and posted a picture of your ass to prove a point you wouldn't be very happy (which is different than your H posting it on his facebook). Maybe someone still has your infamous picture you posted early on and we can test the theory? with no face, of course. But some other identifiable information like you have posted about this woman. Thing about puzzle pieces is that if we know enough about you, we can now find this person if we tried hard enough (not that I am)

[Jam]

Jul 12, 2012 11:44:58 GMT -5 beans said:

Well you got your feedback and its still up....? so...?

This is a very open forum, as open as TN or maybe more since more people might randomly wander on to a forum not called the nest. It is searchable, and there have been plenty of random posters who have joined this group without being part of the nest first. They made it searcable so that we could get "new blood" over here. FTR I googled "frg inappropriate pictures on facebook" and this was the sixth post on there.

I'd do the considerate thing and take the girl's ass out of the post. I'm guessing (could be totally wrong) but I'm just guessing that if some aquaintance of yours came on and posted a picture of your ass to prove a point you wouldn't be very happy (which is different than your H posting it on his facebook). Maybe someone still has your infamous picture you posted early on and we can test the theory? with no face, of course. But some other identifiable information like you have posted about this woman. Thing about puzzle pieces is that if we know enough about you, we can now find this person if we tried hard enough (not that I am)

I'd like to think I didn't put enough info on her in order for it to be traced but I just did the search you mentioned and this pulled up. The internet continues to creep me the fuck out. Although there's nothing that links her and I together, I've tried to be very careful about what I post on the web (specifically in the last three years).

In any case, you can't remove an image you post via the proboards app, which is what I was using up until this very moment. I'll remove it now that I can since I'm on a PC but I wasn't able to prior (FYI for anyone who may use the app and try to DD a photo thereafter).


ETA: Apparently, you can't delete the photo period without removing the entire PP :-| (for future readers who may be confused by the flow of conversation).

[nsl]

Protip: never, ever post anything online unless you'd be okay with your mother, grandmother, employer, and children seeing it someday.

[Beeps (WOT?*)]

Just as a sidenote, GDs cheer coach was reprimanded by the org for posting a pic that was of underwear down around ankles going to the bathroom with nothing explicit showing, just innuendo. It was on her private account but the mother of one of the kids saw it and complained; she was removed from her position as coach and head of the cheer group. This was in a Navy town with a lot of Navy spouses and kids on the team. there can be repercussions in outside groups for "inappropriate photos or posts" that might be seen by others in the squadron or by the children.

It also shows the command a certain kind of temperament, behavior and decision-making abilities and can reflect on his future promotions to have this stuff out there.

[Jam]

Update:

He's removed the picture, the other photos he had of her and an album he had consisting of photos of younger girls in pin ups/costumes. He has 1,500 FB friends so I guess someone else freaked lol.

[basilosaurus]

I just keep coming back here to laugh at "respect for the position" again and again.

I'm an frg volunteer! You will make that brooch for the newcomers' brunch! Respect my authority!!!

[bigmamma]

Do you not have a board for your FRG? Is the commanders wife ON the board? Do you have an SOP for issues such as ethic violations in your by-laws? Do you even have a standard of conduct written for your FRG?

It just seems to me that she posted a comment on the FRG or company page... then YOU took it upon yourself to look at HER pictures then got upset/concerned about what you found.

Curiosity killed the cat.

Maybe she should discuss keeping the love alive during deployment. Seems to me she and her husband are pretty into each other and making the best of their distance.

Maybe her FB isn't as locked down as you think it should be, but she's of age and its her body. Do I want to see her T&A? No, but I'm not into FB Stalking so I don't think I'll have to.