I like dog parks but I cannot stand when people bring their kids to dog parks and let them run around. I bring my dog to the dog park so HE can run around safely. He get we excited around kids he doesn't know and jumps on them. I don't bring him to the playground, so don't bring your kid to the dog park! It's HIS safe place to play.
I can not get on board with getting pictures of your kids with the Easter Bunny. Maybe it's just the one in my area, but that costume is creepy as hell. I feel like I would be running the risk of traumatizing them forever.
I am distrustful of any dog around my child who is not my dog. I worry because Ozzy is SO sweet and has absolutely zero aggression- he has sort of made her a bit too trustful of dogs in general IMO. I don't trust any dog that isn't ozzy.
I am definitely MORE wary of dogs that are large and have powerful looking jaws. Sure a toy breed may bite but a pitbull could literally kill my child in a second. I mean so could Ozzy, his mouth is enormous. He could probably kill me if he felt like it.
So yeah I trust large dogs less, and I trust dogs less who in this country especially TEND TO BE more aggressive. It isn't that a pitbull as a breed is INHERENTLY aggressive but when you are walking around in the US of A and you encounter a pitbull, statistically speaking this dog is more likely to BE aggressive than many other breeds. That doesn't mean you should run away screaming or tell that person they are scum and their dog should die, he might be the sweetest dog ever. Nor does it mean that you should let your toddler run up to a random Golden because hey they're usually cool!
but, STATISTICALLY speaking it is more likely that a pitbull you encounter will be aggressive in comparison to a Golden you encounter. It's unfortunate if you happen to own sweet pitbulls and feel strongly about them and how misunderstood they are. But the fact of the matter is that sucky people in the world have done a lot of work to breed aggression into a breed of dog who happens to be the proud owner of a giant vice like jaw.
I've said it before, but I love having a toothless dog and want only toothless dogs in the future. I mean, it's sad that their teeth get to the point where they have to be removed, but if the damage is already done, I'm here to adopt them. lol
My pom has almost no teeth. If he didn't have cancer, I'd have already scheduled a dental to get the rest yanked.
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Nope. I understand that. I'm talking about like not saying your kid's name or whoever it was that was using MN here instead of the first name.
I don't get why you think it's weird to start with. I don't use my own name or my DD's name on the internet (with the exception of FB which is locked down and where I cull my friend list regularly). Not everyone is willing to be an open book and some people may have histories of being stalked or attacked. Others may work in sensitive positions (military, government, semi-public figures) where they want to reduce the risk of having excessive information attributed to them, or about them. They can eliminate that risk entirely by staying off boards like this but there's been plenty of discussion before about how motherhood can be lonely if you don't have a circle of fellow moms to communicate with and gut-check you.
I just don't get how saying your kids first name on a message board means you are at a higher risk of getting stalked. Though I wouldn't want people IRL coming here, if it happened, I wouldn't be too upset about it because I put it out there publically. In fact I'm pretty sure there is someone I know reading my stuff here somewhat regularly and I'm just meh about it even though everything is made into drama with this person and those around her. Maybe I'm just naive about this whole thing. And if so, then I guess I just have one less thing to worry about.
And when it comes to my kids I really don't give a shit about how you feel about your own lovely dog. Whatever breed your dog is, I will be cautious. If you own a dog with a ferocious giant death jaw I will be extra cautious. If your giant-death-jawed dog is straining his leash and growling, I don't care if he is "really sweet actually." and his "bark is worse than his bite hahaha".
I feel like having a child has made me less rational and more paranoid. But I don't care. My child is the most important thing in the world to me, and hurting someones feelings because I don't trust their dog is far, far less important.
I am distrustful of any dog around my child who is not my dog. I worry because Ozzy is SO sweet and has absolutely zero aggression- he has sort of made her a bit too trustful of dogs in general IMO. I don't trust any dog that isn't ozzy.
I am definitely MORE wary of dogs that are large and have powerful looking jaws. Sure a toy breed may bite but a pitbull could literally kill my child in a second. I mean so could Ozzy, his mouth is enormous. He could probably kill me if he felt like it.
So yeah I trust large dogs less, and I trust dogs less who in this country especially TEND TO BE more aggressive. It isn't that a pitbull as a breed is INHERENTLY aggressive but when you are walking around in the US of A and you encounter a pitbull, statistically speaking this dog is more likely to BE aggressive than many other breeds. That doesn't mean you should run away screaming or tell that person they are scum and their dog should die, he might be the sweetest dog ever. Nor does it mean that you should let your toddler run up to a random Golden because hey they're usually cool!
but, STATISTICALLY speaking it is more likely that a pitbull you encounter will be aggressive in comparison to a Golden you encounter. It's unfortunate if you happen to own sweet pitbulls and feel strongly about them and how misunderstood they are. But the fact of the matter is that sucky people in the world have done a lot of work to breed aggression into a breed of dog who happens to be the proud owner of a giant vice like jaw.
I'm pretty sure that statistically there are more bites by labs each year than pitbulls. I think the media has done a great job of making pitbulls seem like they are statistically more aggressive.
I've said it before, but I love having a toothless dog and want only toothless dogs in the future. I mean, it's sad that their teeth get to the point where they have to be removed, but if the damage is already done, I'm here to adopt them. lol
Lol, DH and I always joke about not minding that Chewy's losing his teeth. We actually don't feel that threatened if he "nips" Evan because he has no front upper teeth anymore. Of course getting Evan to stop provoking him is a different story.
I don't get why you think it's weird to start with. I don't use my own name or my DD's name on the internet (with the exception of FB which is locked down and where I cull my friend list regularly). Not everyone is willing to be an open book and some people may have histories of being stalked or attacked. Others may work in sensitive positions (military, government, semi-public figures) where they want to reduce the risk of having excessive information attributed to them, or about them. They can eliminate that risk entirely by staying off boards like this but there's been plenty of discussion before about how motherhood can be lonely if you don't have a circle of fellow moms to communicate with and gut-check you.
I just don't get how saying your kids first name on a messagr board means you are at a higher risked of getting stalked. Though I wouldn't want people IRL coming here, if it happened, I wouldn't be too upset about it because I put it out there publically. In fact I'm pretty sure there is someone I know reading my stuff here somewhat regularly and I'm just meh about it even though everything is made into drama with this person and those around her. Maybe I'm just naive about this whole thing. And if so, then I guess I just have one less thing to worry about.
L's name is pretty unusual, and if we have any common friends on FB it's not hard to figure out her last name. A quick google just pulled up her name, A's name, H's name and his place of employment. I don't blame anyone for not wanting that info out there.
And when it comes to my kids I really don't give a shit about how you feel about your own lovely dog. Whatever breed your dog is, I will be cautious. If you own a dog with a ferocious giant death jaw I will be extra cautious. If your giant-death-jawed dog is straining his leash and growling, I don't care if he is "really sweet actually." and his "bark is worse than his bite hahaha".
I feel like having a child has made me less rational and more paranoid. But I don't care. My child is the most important thing in the world to me, and hurting someones feelings because I don't trust their dog is far, far less important.
Agreed. Because of my situation and how i was attacked, i am weary of ALL dogs, Regardless of breed. But i still love dogs. But lets face it, they are animals, and can attack a child. So i am overly cautious with Louie, even with my own silky/maltese mix, and she is sweet with him.
My dog sucks. He's not friendly with other dogs so my opinion is biased. I also have a general distrust of other people and their judgement of their dogs being dog-park material. Too risky.
That's fair. Puck loves to be chased by other dogs so it is a great place for him. However, we always check what dogs are there are how they are playing before we let him in. If we find a dog being too aggressive or that puck isn't playing well, we leave and take him for a walk on his leash.
I don't get not getting people wanting privacy in a venue like this or the Internet in general. If you say enough identifying information people can Google and possibly learn more about you than most would like for random Internet people to know. This isn't a closed private forum...
I think all dogs should be judged on an individual basis, not on their breed. My dog is a big baby, but my family thinks she looks "mean" and they won't let the cousins play with her. Meanwhile, my sister has a little dog who has bitten all of her children but she still lets her kids play with him but not my dog. It makes no sense.
Post by Regina Philange on Apr 3, 2014 9:44:50 GMT -5
All the pitbulls i have encountered have been so sweet. Obviously i am wired to be scared of golden retrievers. A few years ago, i did meet a really sweet one. Still scared! Getting bit was my first memory.
Actually, I am in the process of legally changing my name to Rainbowchip. I love it that much! Kidding. I can understand not wanting people IRL to find you here but I guess I don't understand how saying your kid's name here makes it easier to google you. And what exactly is terrifying about someone googling you. Unless you piss someonr off really bad or something. IDK, I just think that if someone wants to take the time to stalk me or something, more power to them. Wink wink musiclover
I work in Government here. My husband is from a fairly well known family that is involved in politics. I would not be stunned if A went into politics or another visible public position when he grows up. At that point, I'd hate someone to bring up posts where I was complaining about a major blow out or something! I also believe he should have some control/choice over his internet presence when he is old enough to have a say in that matter so I try not to post much about him in places where people can find it.
Yup, I've even see people lose jobs and severely damage their careers because their Facebook pages were, literally, hacked or things were taken out of context in other public forums. Another co-worker was followed by her stalker (an angry customer who knew her unusual first name and place of work, found her from there).
I agree on the internet presence too, which is why I stopped blogging. I had a decent sized readership at one point but just started to feel less comfortable. I think it'll be different for our kids than it was for us (already is!) so that's why I keep using FB and IG but I try to be judicious in what I post. I don't care what others do for their kids though, none of us can predict the future so we're all just taking our best guesses. My only side-eye is public naked or potty pics (a la Selfie).
I am distrustful of any dog around my child who is not my dog. I worry because Ozzy is SO sweet and has absolutely zero aggression- he has sort of made her a bit too trustful of dogs in general IMO. I don't trust any dog that isn't ozzy.
I am definitely MORE wary of dogs that are large and have powerful looking jaws. Sure a toy breed may bite but a pitbull could literally kill my child in a second. I mean so could Ozzy, his mouth is enormous. He could probably kill me if he felt like it.
So yeah I trust large dogs less, and I trust dogs less who in this country especially TEND TO BE more aggressive. It isn't that a pitbull as a breed is INHERENTLY aggressive but when you are walking around in the US of A and you encounter a pitbull, statistically speaking this dog is more likely to BE aggressive than many other breeds. That doesn't mean you should run away screaming or tell that person they are scum and their dog should die, he might be the sweetest dog ever. Nor does it mean that you should let your toddler run up to a random Golden because hey they're usually cool!
but, STATISTICALLY speaking it is more likely that a pitbull you encounter will be aggressive in comparison to a Golden you encounter. It's unfortunate if you happen to own sweet pitbulls and feel strongly about them and how misunderstood they are. But the fact of the matter is that sucky people in the world have done a lot of work to breed aggression into a breed of dog who happens to be the proud owner of a giant vice like jaw.
I'm pretty sure that statistically there are more bites by labs each year than pitbulls. I think the media has done a great job of making pitbulls seem like they are statistically more aggressive.
P.S. I have a lab/golden mix.
Really? can you post the link, I would be very interested if this was actually the case!
I just don't get how saying your kids first name on a messagr board means you are at a higher risked of getting stalked. Though I wouldn't want people IRL coming here, if it happened, I wouldn't be too upset about it because I put it out there publically. In fact I'm pretty sure there is someone I know reading my stuff here somewhat regularly and I'm just meh about it even though everything is made into drama with this person and those around her. Maybe I'm just naive about this whole thing. And if so, then I guess I just have one less thing to worry about.
L's name is pretty unusual, and if we have any common friends on FB it's not hard to figure out her last name. A quick google just pulled up her name, A's name, H's name and his place of employment. I don't blame anyone for not wanting that info out there.
I'm not being snarky, but what would one do with that information?
Nope. I understand that. I'm talking about like not saying your kid's name or whoever it was that was using MN here instead of the first name.
That's me. This is kind of funny to me. Is your name IRL Rainbowchip? Why isn't your user name your real name?
I try to stay somewhat anonymous on here. I've met one probie in 5 years of being on here. Not because I don't like a ton of probies, but I'm a little more private and don't know if I want to mix the 2 worlds. Its not like I will call them Henry and Jack in front of Probies if we ever meet at a GTG.
I may have less confidence in lurkers not being weirdos. I've shared my city and a bunch of other personal stuff. I'm sure someone could google enough and find me. I'd rather not make that easier for them as my kids have somewhat unique names. H would not be happy and I respect that.
If being more private allows you to post, i'm all for it.
I'm pretty sure that statistically there are more bites by labs each year than pitbulls. I think the media has done a great job of making pitbulls seem like they are statistically more aggressive.
P.S. I have a lab/golden mix.
Really? can you post the link, I would be very interested if this was actually the case!
I imagine if it were true it would be because there are more labs in the country.
If you look purely at deaths by dog breed, pit bulls and Rottweilers cause most of them. I think I read around 50% once. But there is a large chance a lot of those were fighter dogs.
Even if more tiny toy dogs bite annually I don't care. If matilda got bitten on the hand by a chihuahua, whatevs. I'm far more worried about a dog who can kill her with his bite.
Again I'm not saying "all pitbulls suck and should die". Simply that, going by statistics, it's more likely my child would die at the jaws of a pitbull than any other breed in this country. Ergo, i am more wary of pitbulls than any other breed. It's a simple conclusion. And if strangers I don't know, who own pitbulls are put off or hurt by my automatic distrust of their dog based on his breed alone so be it.
L's name is pretty unusual, and if we have any common friends on FB it's not hard to figure out her last name. A quick google just pulled up her name, A's name, H's name and his place of employment. I don't blame anyone for not wanting that info out there.
I'm not being snarky, but what would one do with that information?
Exposing my kids' names is enough for me, but also calling my or h's place of work. I don't want any random having that info.
I think fatalities ate higher with pits but not the number of bites. I don't have a link handy but it was something I read a few years back. I thought it might habe even been on here.
I can understand people wanting privacy. Especially if they work in certain professions or have an uncommon name. Growing up my dad had patients threaten to kill him and his family, this was before google, but we were never in phone books.