Has the mom shaming her kid on FB been discussed?

[Deleted]

Good lord, that was hardly embarrassing. I think it's perfect and the punishment fits the crime.

[housegeek]

I think it was creative and I applaud her for it. I plan on keeping my kids offline as long as possible, but I think ReShonda's kid will think twice about what she posts online, and in that I think its successful. She's not the first to go that route, there was that one girl whose dad shot her laptop because she was bitching about doing chores...

[druidp]

I like it. And she's so right about needing to find the "it" that is an effective punishment and gets the message across.

It's not like she shot her kid's laptop, y'know.

[basilosaurus]

Sounds good to me... but I thought you were supposed to be 13 to be on fb.

[curmudgeon]

Seems pretty reasonable to me.

[PinkSquirrel]

I don't understand what's so wrong with what the mom did. I gave the guy I do pottery with crap about taking his daughters Facebook away for 6 months because she posted something about it being "Fucking cold," but really a 12 year old has no business drinking and that totally deserves to be shut down.

[lollipopsandcrisps]

May 14, 2012 20:37:36 GMT -5 @natariru said:

“Get tore out where you show out.”

What the fuck does that even mean? Is it English?

[Deleted]

That doesn't seem "hugely embarrassing" to me. Hardly the sort of thing a kid isn't going to recover from or that their friends are going to hold against them. Given that the infraction happened online, the punishment seems fitting. I vote no big deal

[overture]

12 year olds shouldn't have FB pages anyway.

[frauschmindy]

May 14, 2012 21:22:05 GMT -5 druidp said:

It's not like she shot her kid's laptop, y'know.

:Y:

I don't think she needs to be on FB at that age anyway.

[pvillewife06]

It seems like the girl knew her parents monitored her facebook so she's asking to be punished if she posts a picture with liquor.

[CheshireGrin]

May 14, 2012 22:48:40 GMT -5 lollipopsandcrisps said:

May 14, 2012 20:37:36 GMT -5 @natariru said:

“Get tore out where you show out.”

What the fuck does that even mean? Is it English?

I'm assuming this is rhetorical, but I agree that the language is atrocious.

Other than that, I have no issue with this punishment. It sounds like it was entirely appropriate to me, and you know what? The kid will get over it. I wish all parents were as involved as she is with what her daughter is doing, online and off.

[thejackpot]

She deserves it. She knows her Mom and she was warned. I am all for parents finding creative solutions to new problems.

[ceejay]

May 15, 2012 4:02:46 GMT -5 CheshireGrin said:

May 14, 2012 22:48:40 GMT -5 lollipopsandcrisps said:

What the fuck does that even mean? Is it English?

I'm assuming this is rhetorical, but I agree that the language is atrocious.

No one's heard "S/he was tore up from the floor up!"? Classic slang from my day. Maybe I'm old.

[frlcb]

May 15, 2012 0:12:00 GMT -5 overture said:

12 year olds shouldn't have FB pages anyway.

It wasn't FB, it was Instagram

[dulcemariamar]

I think the mom still has a lot of control if she was able to get her DD to hold up a sign and post it to her Instagram.

I guess punishments are going to change because of social media but I dont think the mom should have posted the pic on her FB. It just sounds like she wanted attention from her friends.

[Deleted]

i can see wanting to DIIIIIIIIIIE over this at 12, but in the grand scheme of life, it's not that embarassing. i thought she was going to have to give a speech to her whole school or something.

i'm not sure that i'd do it to my kid, but i don't have a TWELVE year old posting photos of herself pretending to drink liquor, either.

[thejackpot]

As for the language, I had no problem understanding it and had to re-read to see what could possibly be an issue. "Tore up from the floor up", yeah pretty well-known.

[wawa]

May 15, 2012 8:26:07 GMT -5 cville said:

i can see wanting to DIIIIIIIIIIE over this at 12, but in the grand scheme of life, it's not that embarassing. i thought she was going to have to give a speech to her whole school or something.

i'm not sure that i'd do it to my kid, but i don't have a TWELVE year old posting photos of herself pretending to drink liquor, either.

Ditto.

I was expecting something along the lines of the the head-shaving diaper-wearing incident. A picture explaining that you're taking a break from social media because you're being punished is perfectly reasonable in my book. And I'm generally opposed to public humiliation as punishment for kids.

[NitaX]

May 14, 2012 22:48:40 GMT -5 lollipopsandcrisps said:

May 14, 2012 20:37:36 GMT -5 @natariru said:

“Get tore out where you show out.”

What the fuck does that even mean? Is it English?

Yes. In Black Folk Land it means that your parents will lay the smack down on your candy ass in front of your friends? Act a fool outdoors, then watch yo' momma come outside and act a plumb fool in front of your friends.

I recently laid into T's ass one morning in front of her friends. Trust, poor child was so embarrassed that she was like Jesus on the cross and didn't say a mumbling word.

[mrsjuleshs]

That's the only punishment she got? I would totally do something like t his with my kid.

[eclaires]

I think the punishment is fine... I don't think I'd let my 12YO have social media access like that, but I like that she made her say why she had to leave and didn't just leave. Sometimes a little embarrassment goes a long way.

[emilyj]

I like this.

One of the instructors in my department teaches all social media related courses. On the first day of class, he friends all the students. On the 2nd day of class, he does a slideshow of the embarrassing photos he finds on their pages and basically does a "Do you want your potential employers to see this?" demonstration. I have no problem with that either. Kids need that kind of reality check.

[arborgold]

May 15, 2012 13:24:51 GMT -5 emilyj said:

I like this.

One of the instructors in my department teaches all social media related courses. On the first day of class, he friends all the students. On the 2nd day of class, he does a slideshow of the embarrassing photos he finds on their pages and basically does a "Do you want your potential employers to see this?" demonstration. I have no problem with that either. Kids need that kind of reality check.

And that's why you make sure when you add your prof to your friend you list you put him in the "Restricted" category.

Actually, thinking about it, I'm pretty sure I'd be in favor of Social Media 101 classes for junior high kids, with a huge emphasis on safety.

[vanillahip]

May 14, 2012 20:42:45 GMT -5 @habbsies said:

Good lord, that was hardly embarrassing. I think it's perfect and the punishment fits the crime.

:Y: I wish my stepmom had the balls to punish my 14 year old sister like this. I am positive that she wouldn't act like such a tart.

[druidp]

May 15, 2012 13:24:51 GMT -5 emilyj said:

I like this.

One of the instructors in my department teaches all social media related courses. On the first day of class, he friends all the students. On the 2nd day of class, he does a slideshow of the embarrassing photos he finds on their pages and basically does a "Do you want your potential employers to see this?" demonstration. I have no problem with that either. Kids need that kind of reality check.

I should pay him to come teach our staff. It's been far too easy to bust some of them being stupid online.