My co-workers have kindly offered to throw me a shower. We have recently had two types of showers: 1) more typical weekend afternoon in someone's home for a FTM, and 2) get together after work at a restaurant where everyone just paid for their own meal and gave the 2nd time mom a group gift.
I am a FTM, but the hostesses asked if I would prefer the restaurant version since my MIL's friends are also throwing me a shower (although with a completely different guest list). I would in fact prefer the more typical type, but is it too demanding to say so? Obviously it is more effort and expense.
I would say something like "I think it would be really fun to do the shower on the weekend, but I'm totally grateful for whatever you guys want to do."