Post by blackkitty on Jul 12, 2012 14:01:05 GMT -5
If you are supposed to have dinner with someone on a Thursday night and they suggest a restaurant and you agree to it having never heard of it. Then you google the address and it's an HOUR drive? (when you have perfectly good restaurants close by)
Don't you think suggesting a restaurant an hour away is something that should be noted when you suggest the restaurant? And WTF drives an hour to eat somewhere? I'm questioning his judgment now.
Post by riverpestie on Jul 12, 2012 14:05:32 GMT -5
Maybe it is one of his favorite places and wants to show you a good time?
The BF and I have a favorite place that we like to eat (several, actually) so we will drive over an hour to eat there. I don't really think it is that big of a deal. We make an afternoon of it.
Post by trafficgirl on Jul 12, 2012 14:05:52 GMT -5
I'm guessing this is a date? Is it a first date (or early date), or someone you've been dating? Former - dude is an idiot and I would be super annoyed. Latter - dude probably thinks you would be okay with it, though I would still be annoyed.
And I feel like I should know if you're actually "dating" someone, just from reading the board, but I seriously have a hard time keeping track. Sorry!
ETA: In line w/ what RP said - if he had stated it was one of his fave restaurants and wanted to take you there, that's different. If he was just like "this is a good place" - yup, annoyed. If it's an hour drive somewhere, I want someone to tell me that in advance.
I would ask him to pick another place, or suggest another place that's closer. No way no how would I be driving an hour away for a first date when it's not necessary.
And I feel like I should know if you're actually "dating" someone, just from reading the board, but I seriously have a hard time keeping track. Sorry!
I'm not dating anyone in particular just a bunch of different guys here and there. I have one "special friend" but he's not boyfriend potential at all so we just hang out together. We go out but I don't consider it a date.
Post by blackkitty on Jul 12, 2012 14:11:19 GMT -5
I told him I didn't want to drive an hour so he offered to pick me up. No way. Still the same concept of traveling two hours for dinner! So I suggested two other places that are closer and of course he picked the one that is the farthest. I'm so lazy when it comes to driving to a restaurant during the week! But I have been wanting to try this place for a while.
I'm still annoyed he suggested it though. I think I'm looking for reasons to be annoyed though. lol
I told him I didn't want to drive an hour so he offered to pick me up. No way. Still the same concept of traveling two hours for dinner! So I suggested two other places that are closer and of course he picked the one that is the farthest. I'm so lazy when it comes to driving to a restaurant during the week! But I have been wanting to try this place for a while.
I'm still annoyed he suggested it though. I think I'm looking for reasons to be annoyed though. lol
I think you have a right to be annoyed (even if you are looking for a reason). No one I know likes driving to far off places on the weekdays - who wants to deal with traffic if they don't really have to?
Does he know it is an hour away from you? (maybe he is closer and doesnt realize?) Call him and tell him you just realized how far it was and you really dont want to go that far. I'd also give him a side-eye for suggesting it if he realized how far it is.
It's a steakhouse and he says they have the best seafood. I was side eyeing that too. Who goes to a steakhouse to have seafood? If I want seafood I go to a seafood restaurant. If I want steak I go to a steak house. Reminds me of my six year old who always wants pizza when we go out for Mexican food.
I would have been annoyed. And his first 'fix' was for him to drive both of you? Hmmm, 2 hour drive with someone you don't/hardly know.. I don't know, that just seems creepy to me. But then again, I'm the kind of person that watches way too many crime/murder mystery shows.
Post by blackkitty on Jul 12, 2012 14:48:38 GMT -5
Okay now get this... He is now suggesting that we meet at a bar first and have a drink and if it goes well then proceed to dinner.
But before he was suggesting that he pick me up and drive an hour to the restaurant together! And another option he gave me for tonight was to go on a dinner cruise where we would be stuck on a boat together all night.
I'm very tempted to just say forget it at this point because he's being weird.
Okay now get this... He is now suggesting that we meet at a bar first and have a drink and if it goes well then proceed to dinner.
But before he was suggesting that he pick me up and drive an hour to the restaurant together! And another option he gave me for tonight was to go on a dinner cruise where we would be stuck on a boat together all night.
I'm very tempted to just say forget it at this point because he's being weird.
I wonder if he realized/ talked to a friend about his original plan and realized how it came across. So now he's going in the opposite direction.
A first date really shouldn't be THIS complicated.
Post by turtle1120 on Jul 12, 2012 15:06:05 GMT -5
I'd be completely annoyed and would probably tell him to forget it. If he's worried about how things will go - which is why he suggested drinks and then possibly dinner depending on how things go, why on earth would he also suggest a dinner cruise where you'd be stuck together all night?
Post by trafficgirl on Jul 12, 2012 15:09:49 GMT -5
I agree w/ MCC and ECB. This guy is making things too complicated. Just suggest the drinks and apps as the entire date. That way it doesn't create this pressure of trying to decide if dinner is happening afterward or not.
I'd be completely annoyed and would probably tell him to forget it. If he's worried about how things will go - which is why he suggested drinks and then possibly dinner depending on how things go, why on earth would he also suggest a dinner cruise where you'd be stuck together all night?