I hate being asked for gift ideas

[Bernadine]

HATE.  People are starting to ask about wedding gifts, and I don't know what to tell anyone.  We didn't register, because we're having such a small wedding.  My sister is bugging me about it.  I hate asking for things.  Everything we really want is $$$$.  Like a shed, or fencing in the yard.  And I don't want to say money.

[looseseal]

Maybe this was tacky, but we were in the exact same situation as you. I didn't register, or have a bridal shower. We just wanted to make some home improvements. When/if people asked, I told them that I hadn't even thought about it, we were just happy to have people come celebrate with us. Then, if the conversation swung that way, I told them that we weren't taking a honeymoon because we were looking forward to doing some home improvement projects.

[cookie510]

When a couple doesn't' register I thought it was just assumed that they wanted cash.

What if you said you are working on some home improvement projects and would like home depot or Lowe's gift cards? I don't know what the etiquette is here, but it's not the same as asking for cash.

[VeryViolet]

I hate this too. It feels tacky/rude to discuss or something but then I get all uncomfortable and probably end up being the rude one.

[captainobvious]

Could you ask for gift cards to the nearest home store (Home Depot, etc.)?

[aprilsails]

I'm sure your sister wants to give you something personal and concrete as a wedding gift.

If you are doing work around the house and yard, I would suggest a gift card to a nursery where you can go and pick out some plants, a tree, or flowers together.

My other favourite gift is sheet sets because you can always use more and they are a traditional wedding gift. Or linens for a spare bedroom. I generally make my close friends (and certainly my sister) a homemade quilt. Along with cash.