Mom vent

[W.T.Faulkner]

Sister. mom and I are at lunch.

Sister: Hey, is P (BF) around tonight? We could all hang out, since C (her BF) is home.
Me: No, he's got a gig tonight. He's playing a lot on the weekends now since the weather's getting nicer.
Sister: Aw, that sucks!
Me: Yeah, I know! I feel bad.
Mom: You can't feel bad. This is your life. You're going to marry him, and this is how it's always going to be. You chose this.
Me: Thanks, Mom.

WTF, Mom. I know he works a lot of weekends and I did choose this, but that doesn't make it suck any less.

[Deleted]

I hate when my mom says stupid stuff like that that just makes me feel worse.

[isabel]

Yeah, because having a different schedule than your spouse should never be bothersome. 

[lime]

Uh geez. From an armchair therapist POV, this sort of sounds like your mom regrets her life choices.

[pantsparty]

WTF? Sorry

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Surely as they age, our moms filters deteriorate. It's got t be true. My mom said to me last week, during a lull in conversation, after I'd already told her how upset I was, "Wow! I just can't believe that Frank is dead. Dead!"

What. The. Fuck. Eileen?

[livinitup]

No feelings for you!

[Kit]

She makes it sound like venting about it is a damn crime. Ugh. Sorry. sounds like something my mom would say.

[W.T.Faulkner]

I think it's her way of making sure I'm prepared? I don't know. What am I going to do, break up with him because his work schedule doesn't match? She loves him. I don't get this. lol

[thinkofthesoldiers]

Apr 19, 2014 15:10:17 GMT -5 ProfessorArtNerd said:

Surely as they age, our moms filters deteriorate. It's got t be true. My mom said to me last week, during a lull in conversation, after I'd already told her how upset I was, "Wow! I just can't believe that Frank is dead. Dead!"

What. The. Fuck. Eileen?

I for real laughed at this. My mom has no filter and often says WTF-worthy things, but she always does it in public.  It has made for horrible moments when I take her places. I like to drink a lot when she's around.

[themoneytree]

My Mom said that to me more than once if I dared voice any frustration about having a newborn. So helpful.

[Odonata]

Do all moms have this trait? Mine is the same way. No empathy At ALL.

She called me once early in my pregnancy when I was so sick I puked up every sip of water. She asked me how I was and I told her I was so sick and afraid I'll become dehydrated. Her response was something like "can I tell you one thing? Quit complaining. You wanted to have a baby, so quit complaining"

Im taking notes from her in what not to do as a mother.

[penelope]

DH travels for work and when he left one time last summer I was pretty bummed. My mom actually threw a "think of the soldiers" line in, while she told me the same thing. You chose this.

Sheesh, can't anyone have feelings anymore? It is what it is, but that doesn't mean we always have to be excited about it.

[nsl]

Mine has absolutely been known to pull this card, particularly if I've mentioned being down because H is working a lot of nights/weekends or is OOT for weeks at a time. At one point I got so frustrated with her that I rather angrily pointed out that neither she nor my dad EVER traveled for work when my sister and I were young, nor did they work weekends, so she really had no idea what it was like to solo parent for an extended period.

[aussiecrush]

I would have a had a hard time resisting the urge to point out that you did not choose her and she sucks.

[lime]

Apr 19, 2014 18:14:38 GMT -5 aussiecrush said:

I would have a had a hard time resisting the urge to point out that you did not choose her and she sucks.

Legit LOL

Not that I would say this to my mom...well, ok, I said this a lot as a teenager. 

[midnightmare81]

I know I'm late to the party but I think the phrase I hate the most is "you signed up for it" or "you knew what you were getting into".

My MIL used to say it to me ALL the time when H was deployed and I would say something about missing him.

Didn't you know we aren't allowed to have feelings anymore!?

[sailorgray]

Ugh. My H does this. He travels a lot and I get frustrated. His reply is always, "we'll, you knew what I did and still married me." Drives me crazy.