Confessions time...

[brandienee]

I am having a Bee Bee "I miss my husband" day. He volunteered for a deployment a couple of weeks ago and left for training last week. He will be back soon before he goes for the rest of the year, but FML. Finally I have time to enjoy my life, and no one here to enjoy it with. I m going to cry into my wine glass... Tonight I am calling it a "whine" glass.

What does everyone else need to get off their chests?

[basilosaurus]

That I'm dreading the job search so much I'm actually pleased to be busily freaking out about H leaving and packing him up. Plus, I get to go with him, so that not only makes my travel heart happy, it lets me delay the demoralizing of a job search longer.

[Jam]

Well, I'm an FRG leader for DHs unit and there is a wife who calls me with gossip, drama, misc complaints on a regular basis. She's a pathological liar and I'm convinced she's delusional. I've dealt with her level of crazy this whole time because I've had to but half the time I want to hang up on her ass or tell her to calm the fuck down. Actually, I have told her to calm down minus the 'fuck'. She annoys the living crap out of me and I can't wait until homecoming so that I can ignore her calls and not feel guilty about doing so.

Speaking of homecoming-- I really am not wanting to make a big stink out of it. DH had R&R all of a month before homecoming so he practically JUST left. I'm cheap and don't want to spend money on anything since we are going on vacation once he gets back. I'd rather use money towards that. I don't really want to decorate anything either. He's not into that stuff and I'm not really either but I feel like an asshole because all the other wives are going to be talking endlessly about the ways they tried to make this special and I'll be there in silence.

[TulipBelle]

I hate school, and sometimes I feel like I just can't do it. Also, I miss my family. A bunch.

oh, and Hiiiiii everyone. It's been a minute, I know, but school pretty much consumes my life. I went to TN the other day and heard crickets, and was led here by some posts. Wtf happened??

[brandienee]

Tulip, your back! What are you in school for? I feel your pain, this semester killed me. I am glad you found us. :-) The nest finally pushed us over the edge wiht the new format and censoring posts that critique it.

[TulipBelle]

May 14, 2012 23:10:18 GMT -5 brandienee said:

Tulip, your back! What are you in school for? I feel your pain, this semester killed me. I am glad you found us. :-) The nest finally pushed us over the edge wiht the new format and censoring posts that critique it.

Hey! I'm in school for Veterinary Technology. The last few months I've just been buried under books and note cards. Yeah, I noticed that...I thought maybe the whole format thing was just another one of TN's many, many regular "glitches" Wow, they really eff'd that up.

[verycontrary247]

H is making my eye twitchy. He's been gone for about a month and is coming home for a few days before heading out again. He keeps hounding me about making plans of stuff we can do while he's around.

Personally I'd be cool with us just having a lot of sex, eating Mexican food and then playing Diablo 3 the whole time but he has this list of stuff he wants to do and I feel like it's going to be incredibly stressful trying to cram it all in. Also, the IL's keep harassing me about wanting to see him and I don't even want to add that to the already long list of expectations.

[basilosaurus]

May 14, 2012 22:55:50 GMT -5 Jam said:

Speaking of homecoming-- I really am not wanting to make a big stink out of it. DH had R&R all of a month before homecoming so he practically JUST left. I'm cheap and don't want to spend money on anything since we are going on vacation once he gets back. I'd rather use money towards that. I don't really want to decorate anything either. He's not into that stuff and I'm not really either but I feel like an asshole because all the other wives are going to be talking endlessly about the ways they tried to make this special and I'll be there in silence.

I don't think this is a confession. It sounds totally normal to me! Then again, we've never been in a mass homecoming situation. It's usually just me at the airport at some godawful hour.

[bettydraper]

I have less than a week left at this duty station and I'm hyperventilating. Literally. It just hit me that our life is changing DRAMATICALLY. I didn't have this reaction after the last PCS, I'm not sure what's different now. I'm overwhelmed. My mom will be here tomorrow to help us with the babies while we finish packing/cleaning and I haven't even started to clear out the guest room of laundry...or done anything else to make the upstairs look presentable.

I held a newborn baby the other day and surprisingly was really happy to give him back when I was done holding him. I was dreading this visit b/c I thought it would kick off a ferocious case of baby fever. Nope. Whew. He's was precious and so tiiiiiny. Someday I'll be ready, but thankfully that time isn't now.

I have HUGE decorating plans for the new house. I surmise about 5% of said plans will actually be executed before I get lazy.

[twoslicehilly]

I am so, 100% thankful we live across the world from our families.

[iluvmytxrgr]

My ILs are making me stabby. Over the last year, MIL has been posting all sorts of passive aggressive bull shit all over FB any time she's pissed off at me. J just got back from a 6 week school the other day and is leaving VERY soon for deployment. FIL sent him a FB message yesterday asking if he was home and said he'd like to see him before he leaves. J said he would call him today. This morning, she posts on her FB, "Guess we won't be allowed to see our son before he leaves to go to war again. Some one else has plans for him and we don't really matter." No one said jack shit about him not going over there. J is making plans to see his dad when is SM isn't there. He's going to tell his dad that she either needs to lay off the crazy or they won't be seeing him or the kids at all. I'm already done with her.

[ggirl]

May 15, 2012 7:50:47 GMT -5 iluvmytxrgr said:

My ILs are making me stabby. Over the last year, MIL has been posting all sorts of passive aggressive bull shit all over FB any time she's pissed off at me. J just got back from a 6 week school the other day and is leaving VERY soon for deployment. FIL sent him a FB message yesterday asking if he was home and said he'd like to see him before he leaves. J said he would call him today. This morning, she posts on her FB, "Guess we won't be allowed to see our son before he leaves to go to war again. Some one else has plans for him and we don't really matter." No one said jack shit about him not going over there. J is making plans to see his dad when is SM isn't there. He's going to tell his dad that she either needs to lay off the crazy or they won't be seeing him or the kids at all. I'm already done with her.

That would make me stabby as well. That's also why some people shouldn't have a Facebook. H's mom did that once before to me, before we were even married. I was seeing red.
I guess those goes with my confession. I don't want my H to go with me on my visit to my home town. His mom wants to have a party with all her cousins (who h and I never talk to) and I'd rather spend the time with my family and friends. She makes a visit home from h this whole big deal when all we want to do is relax and have fun.
At least I know we won't stay with her and will stay with my parents.

[iluvmytxrgr]

May 15, 2012 8:00:43 GMT -5 ggirl said:

That would make me stabby as well. That's also why some people shouldn't have a Facebook. H's mom did that once before to me, before we were even married. I was seeing red.
I guess those goes with my confession. I don't want my H to go with me on my visit to my home town. His mom wants to have a party with all her cousins (who h and I never talk to) and I'd rather spend the time with my family and friends. She makes a visit home from h this whole big deal when all we want to do is relax and have fun.
At least I know we won't stay with her and will stay with my parents.

J's family in TX tried to do that last time we went to visit. He told them he wouldn't be there if they through a party. They got all pissy at first, but he told them he just wanted to chill out and visit with people on his own time.

[ggirl]

Yeah, h hasn't been home since December 2010 so he probably will go along with it. I have no problem leaving early and letting him stay there though haha. I haven't seen my nieces and nephew since August, they take priority over his moms cousins who I can't remember the name of haha.

[Dory1988]

They're going to be offering me part time at work. A part time employee recently took full time and I'm the most senior hourly employee. Most senior after 3 weeks...ha! Anyway, I really don't know what to base this decision off of until I know if I'm going to MC OCS or not. Ugh. On the bright side, I found out that if I'm still working there over the holidays I don't work Christmas. I have Thanksgiving and New Years.

[jamesonontherocks]

May 15, 2012 7:50:47 GMT -5 iluvmytxrgr said:

My ILs are making me stabby. Over the last year, MIL has been posting all sorts of passive aggressive bull shit all over FB any time she's pissed off at me. J just got back from a 6 week school the other day and is leaving VERY soon for deployment. FIL sent him a FB message yesterday asking if he was home and said he'd like to see him before he leaves. J said he would call him today. This morning, she posts on her FB, "Guess we won't be allowed to see our son before he leaves to go to war again. Some one else has plans for him and we don't really matter." No one said jack shit about him not going over there. J is making plans to see his dad when is SM isn't there. He's going to tell his dad that she either needs to lay off the crazy or they won't be seeing him or the kids at all. I'm already done with her.

Ugh. My almost MIL is like that. Yes, you are the grandmother for my 2 children, not by choice. But no, the two times a year you decide to come to town their lives will not change. They will still attend school. You will not pick them up from school. They will not stay up late. And the reason they shy away from you is you live 1000 miles away, are unemployed and can't bother to get in your car or on a plane to come see them more (not that I want you here more and its not that you don't have the money - that was a nice trip to the casino last weekend!).

Her big passive aggressive FB posts usually involve how much I work and how she was able to stay home from work. I work 12-16 hours a day 5-7 days a week. You think I don't know I work too much?? I ended up blocking her from all my status updates because I couldn't take it.

[jamesonontherocks]

My confession is that I applied for a new job last night, then found out today that it is ulmately through the US Public Health Service Commissioned Corp. The hours are awesome, location is ideal....but I don't know how I feel about becoming an O, etc...especially when I'm non-mil now.

ETA: I know this isn't a "real" military position - but all of its benefits, pay, uniforms, etc are through the Military.

[jamesonontherocks]

May 15, 2012 11:11:43 GMT -5 Stan said:

May 15, 2012 10:59:40 GMT -5 jamesonontherocks said:

My confession is that I applied for a new job last night, then found out today that it is ulmately through the US Public Health Service Commissioned Corp. The hours are awesome, location is ideal....but I don't know how I feel about becoming an O, etc...especially when I'm non-mil now.

ETA: I know this isn't a "real" military position - but all of its benefits, pay, uniforms, etc are through the Military.

'Real' mil or not, it's service to your country. Good luck making a decision!

Thanks Stan. My big decision making is (like the recruiting sites for Mil) there isn't a whole lot of information online. It doesn't say if you are required to PCS, only that you are at a duty station a minimum of 2 years and being mobile increasing promotions. I managed to read the 19 page Uniform and Grooming rules and my head is spinning. My concern at this point would be PCS-ing and "deployments" - 2 kids, IRR SO, and we are in the process of buying a house.

[jamesonontherocks]

Haha, yeah Stan. I forgot to put my former TN name in my siggy like I did on the other proboard site...oops!!

[Dumbledork]

My sister got married yesterday. I found out via FB. I'm annoyed that because I don't live within an hour of my hometown like everyone else in my family that I get all this big news secondhand.

At the same time, it's happened so often that I'm starting to care a lot less. Plus her new husband is a douche.

My other confession, DH had surgery recently. He was in a cast for a month and he'll be in a walking boot for up to the next three months. He's still in a lot of pain and obviously not back to his full potential so he comes home from work moody and exhausted. I get it. I'm trying to be patient, but I need help. I swear it's easier when he's actually gone for TDY and deployment and I'm here by myself compared to him being here but unable to help. Really, if he could just do the dishes and pick up Lilly's toys at the end of the day, I'd be fine doing everything else. I need it to be August. Until then, I need to go clean the rooms I've avoided while trying to finish student teaching. It's a disaster in here.

[basilosaurus]

I'm pretty anti-mil for myself, Jameson (I cringe a bit when I mention I went to nursing school and people automatically ask if I'll commission), but PHS is something I think I'd really enjoy, at least before I got burned out. I've looked into it if it would work with H's locations (it wouldn't).

It can be pretty depressing, though, from what I hear. It's generally underfunded, and you're working with impoverished populations to a degree that can be fairly demoralizing. I'd still do it, though!

[ilovecandy]

I am getting an Iphone at the end of this week. This is my first smartphone.

My oldest brother is still not talking to me because I kicked him out. dude you and your family lived with us for 6 months and all you paid for was your food, and some utilities. Be a big boy and get a place of your own for your own family.

Also I met with a recruiter the other day. No one besides H knows this right now.

[sookie]

I'm worried there won't be any fun drama over here with beebees or randoms like we had on TN. I enjoyed them and they make me laugh. ML just had one and it made me miss those days on MN. pandce.proboards.com/index.cgi?board=ml&action=display&thread=3541

[NomadicMama]

I confess that I can't keep all the new SNs straight. I appreciate it when former SNs are listed in the sig, or a familiar picture is attached. (I'll try to put up a picture soon. . . .). I know--big big confession. Sorry!

[sookie]

May 15, 2012 13:32:37 GMT -5 NomadicMama said:

I confess that I can't keep all the new SNs straight. I appreciate it when former SNs are listed in the sig, or a familiar picture is attached. (I'll try to put up a picture soon. . . .). I know--big big confession. Sorry!

Me either. I'm unsure of who at least 1/3 of the people here are.

[verycontrary247]

May 15, 2012 13:32:37 GMT -5 NomadicMama said:

I confess that I can't keep all the new SNs straight. I appreciate it when former SNs are listed in the sig, or a familiar picture is attached. (I'll try to put up a picture soon. . . .). I know--big big confession. Sorry!

Dude, this. I'm so confused.

[audette]

Well, I was hoping the nest boards would end up getting fixed by the time I finished this business trip.

The trip is not yet done, but I've lost hope they'll actually fix any issues. So, Hi! I've moved over here. But, I won't be around much until I get home.


Oh, and opposite work travel schedules suck. DH left for work 1.5 weeks before I did, and arrived home 5 days after I left. He'll have over a week at home alone before I make it back there.

[jamesonontherocks]

Thats how SO and I were when I was pregnant. He had to go away for 3 weeks, we were supposed to have a day together before i left for 2 weeks, but his uncle died and he flew home. Maybe DH will be productive?

[drunkpeggy]

I purposely hung up on a junior lien holder calling for the umpteenth time for status on a case we represent the senior lien holder on because my voicemail clearly indicates how all status inquiries are to be handled and they never listen. Like picked up the receiver and put it back down...not the send it to voicemail.

I want both my co-worker and myself to get jobs and give notice at the same time so we can say "fuck it" together and just bullshit for two weeks while the department goes down in firey flames.