Yes, I know I'm being a brat, but...

[picksthemusic]

MIL is throwing us a baby shower in July. We started talking about who to invite, and she mentioned someone who I don't really care for that she was going to invite. It's a friend of SIL's (the one we live with), and while I get she's a friend of SIL, she's not my friend, and I don't really like her. I don't want her at my baby shower. But MIL is throwing it/paying for it, so... I know I have to suck it up and let it go (her reasoning was more presents - but I could care less if this particular person got us anything or not). But shouldn't I get some say in who gets invited? It's not that I can't stand her, I just don't hang out with her at ALL. SIL does all the time - they're BFFs. But it's not SIL's baby shower - it's mine/J's. I guess I just needed to whine, but ugh. I just wish MIL would have asked me if it was okay if she invited this person rather than saying, "I'm inviting so-and-so," leaving no room for discussion. And I guess another part of me is thinking that SIL asked if her friend could come - but I would never try to invite one of MY friends to her baby shower. Ugh.

/end whine.

[Deleted]

I don't think you are being a brat! I think its completely normal to want people who care about you and your baby at YOUR baby shower...I would have J bring it up, or bring it up yourself and say you really don't want this person there and stand firm.

[jennlin]

I think one or two extras is fine..if they were dictating the entire guest list then that's a pain I wouldn't tolerate.

[shevacc]

I'm sorry. How big is the shower? If it's more than just a few people, I would probably just more-or-less ignore her. It sorta sounds like back when my parents let my brother invite one friend to my birthday party (and vice versa). Ok when you're 7 but when you're an adult???

[picksthemusic]

Apr 22, 2014 14:08:36 GMT -5 jennlin said:

I think one or two extras is fine..if they were dictating the entire guest list then that's a pain I wouldn't tolerate.

Yeah, I'm here too. She won't ruin anything - I just don't like the fact that it was pushed on me instead of asked. KWIM?

[jennlin]

Apr 22, 2014 18:09:38 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

Apr 22, 2014 14:08:36 GMT -5 jennlin said:

I think one or two extras is fine..if they were dictating the entire guest list then that's a pain I wouldn't tolerate.

Yeah, I'm here too. She won't ruin anything - I just don't like the fact that it was pushed on me instead of asked. KWIM?

Yes I know what you mean--but as I'm re reading what I wrote im surprised you guys knew what I meant. My ESL is really showing in that one.......

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Apr 22, 2014 19:19:58 GMT -5 jennlin said:

Apr 22, 2014 18:09:38 GMT -5 picksthemusic said:

Yeah, I'm here too. She won't ruin anything - I just don't like the fact that it was pushed on me instead of asked. KWIM?

Yes I know what you mean--but as I'm re reading what I wrote im surprised you guys knew what I meant. My ESL is really showing in that one.......

Didn't seem ESL to me.

Yes, its kind of annoying but maybe it was so SIL would have someone to hang out with like pp said?

[alias]

Agree w/ pp. It's a little annoying, but it's not that big of a deal. I'd let it go.

[7costanza]

Your in-laws sound really frustrating to deal with, I'm sorry. In this case I would let it go (and it sounds like you are), but I totally get the need to vent.