Somewhat H&F. Would like advice....

[taffy]

First off I know how petty this is going to sound. I do, I really do. 

DS who is 9 is in a swim class from 5-5:45 every T and Th. It is at the Y. There is a men's and women's  locker room for age 12 and up.  There are 3 family changing rooms with showers for younger kids. I should mention that there are also swim lessons at this time for really little kids. There are usually lines to use these bathrooms. 

  EVERY session, starting at about 5:35, this mom sits in one of the 3 bathrooms and "reserves" it for her 7 and 8 year old boy and girl. I've complained to management twice with no response. Today I said we were going in there because she was just sitting there with the door open, talking on her phone. She said she was waiting for her son. I said well my son needs to use the toilet. She said "he can go somewhere else" I said he was too young for  the other lockers. She went back to talking on her phone saying I was bothering her and she didn't want to talk to me anymore. At that time one of the other bathrooms opened up and DS went into it. She said her kids had to be somewhere after practice and that's why she got to do it. I said your after practice plans are no more important than anyone else's and you are being really rude. I said there are babyish who are cold and need to change. She said they could use another bathroom. I said I  was going to get management. People around who were watching cheered.  She said she didn't care and for me to go away. I went to the front and demanded a manager (not my finest moment). One came over, I explained the situation and he said yeah, that's not right where is she. By that time she was in the room with her son, her daughter was outside. Then the son came out and the daughter went in. The mom saw us and told the guy something was wrong with me "I must be hormonal and I need to pray to Jesus". He and I kept quiet, then another manager came over I explained to her. . The mom came out of the bathroom and walked by them both....I said so, you aren't going to say anything to her? The second manager said "well, not in front of you ma'am" and left, I presume to talk to her.  5 minutes later the 1st manager came back and told me they had taken her statement and there would be an investigation.....so is there anything left for me to do? 

I do realize how absolutely petty and insignificant this is in the grand scheme of life but it really isn't fair. 

[Wines Not Whines]

You are completely right. I think you did the right thing.

[kams]

An "investigation" and "statement"? What??

I can't believe how rude she was about it. I agree with you, she shouldn't be able to camp out in the room to reserve it. Like you said, her plans are no more important than anyone else's. God, that midset makes my blood boil.

[runaways]

That's insane. She's insane. Good on you for trying to do something about it and I hope management puts her in her place.

[lauren170]

So does she leave her kids unsupervised while she sits in there? I'm trying to think how you can get there before her, but I'm guessing its not worth ditching your kids...

[taffy]

I'm so not good with confrontation that I was shaking and I know I came across as a crazy lady. If nothing changes, what should be my next course of action?

[hannahb]

Don't you realize her children are so special that she must do this? I'm being sarcastic. Good for you for sticking up for what's right. This attitude annoys me to no end

[kams]

Apr 22, 2014 19:13:44 GMT -5 taffy said:

I'm so not good with confrontation that I was shaking and I know I came across as a crazy lady. If nothing changes, what should be my next course of action?

I'm the same way - we have been having a neighbor dispute - the guy thinks our dogs are barking all of the time but it's the dog behind us. He is so badgering and crazy, that he makes ME feel crazy. 

Anyhow, I think I would call management in the morning to talk about some resolution. If they don't do anything and make you out to be the bad guy, I would probably look to move my child elsewhere

[hannahb]

Apr 22, 2014 19:13:44 GMT -5 taffy said:

I'm so not good with confrontation that I was shaking and I know I came across as a crazy lady. If nothing changes, what should be my next course of action?

Ya me too. I turn beet red when I get angry and am confronted. I look like I have some disease

[archaeominx]

That would piss me off so bad. Our Y only has two family stalls so if someone was pulling that crap I would complain too. I think you need to get the other parents complaining also to get that to actually deal with it. What the hell kind of investigation are they going to do?

[runaways]

If nothing changes I would complain to management every goddamn time she tries to claim the stall without her kids actually present. And agreed that getting other parents to complain will probably also help.