WWYD: daycare lost a shoe

[tennisgal]

When DH picked DS up from daycare on Monday, he had on a pair of shoes that weren't his.  They said that DS had lost a shoe and that these were just an extra pair that they put on him (these were sz 9 and he's about a 6)  So I brought the extra pair back on Tuesday.  They just said they still couldn't find the lost shoe.  I mean, he is in a relatively confined area at daycare, so there are only so many places it could be.  Today, still no luck on finding the shoe. 

Would you ask daycare to buy a new pair of shoes for him?  Or do I just need to accept that some things are going to get lost along the way with a toddler?

FWIW - he does have a few other pairs of shoes he can wear and the particular pair that was lost was a hand-me-down, so I didn't actually pay for them...

[Beener]

If it's the only thing they've ever lost, I would forget about it. If it becomes habitual, I would ask them to pay.

[ruby412]

I would not ask them to pay for it. Things get lost and ruined at daycare. You should see our lost and found at my elementary school. It's insane!

It sucks but it happens.

(I also feel that if my kid breaks a toy at daycare I should not be asked to pay for it. So it's even, so to speak.)

[Faevantastic]

Unless it's a nice expensive pair of shoes, I'd just take it as a loss. It'd probably turn up eventually. Still annoying though!

[Deleted]

When I worked in a twos room a few years ago one of the boys lost a shoe. We noticed when we came in in the afternoon from our play area. This mom had always been very difficult since the infant room we ended up buying him a new pair. We seriously digged up the whole sand box, looked on the other side of the fence in the trash everywhere and could not find it anywhere. We felt awful bc like you said there's only a few places it could of been.


If they were hand me downs I probably wouldn't have them pay if they were new or my favorite shoes I would see if they would split the cost

[melis74]

I wouldn't ask them to pay for it but I DO think it's weird to lose a shoe.

[kemangel124]

I think you have to let it go...unfortunately. I would be pissed, but things get lost and ruined at DC quite often so it is just one of those things. I would not ask them to pay for them, no. Sorry it happened though.

[laurack]

I'd just let it go.

I lose stuff all the time though even in my confined house lol

[tennisgal]

Apr 23, 2014 10:21:38 GMT -5 ruby412 said:

I would not ask them to pay for it. Things get lost and ruined at daycare. You should see our lost and found at my elementary school. It's insane!

It sucks but it happens.

(I also feel that if my kid breaks a toy at daycare I should not be asked to pay for it. So it's even, so to speak.)

Good point. 

[tennisgal]

I just think it's weird that when they noticed that he only had one shoe, go look in the are where he just was for the shoe.... or how long did he run around with just one shoe on?

Oh well... yes, I probably will just let it go.

[katie]

I wouldn't ask them to pay for it. I would be annoyed if she came home with a missing shoe. Just seems weird.

ETA- not the same obviously but Lillian came home yesterday with her shoes on the wrong feet. Lol, I was like WTF.

[charlielove]

I would just buy another pair. Stick a label on the interior of the shoes with his name on it.

[teamhayes]

I would take it as a loss too

[Regina Philange]

Buy another pair.

The shoe may turn up.
It might be in another kids bag or something.

[sunnysong]

I'd be annoyed, but accept it. Things get lost in my house all the time. It will probably show up eventually.

[melmon0417]

I would just buy him another pair (or not). I wouldn't ask daycare to pay for it, unless this is a habitual thing.

A loses thing in our own house, and I know what a crazy ass kid she is, so I wouldn't really fault daycare. Like PP said, I also wouldn't expect daycare to ask me to pay for a broken or misplaced toy. Shit happens at daycare.

[pinchofspice]

I would be annoyed, but sometimes things happen. I would be mad if it happened again though!

[muppetinma]

Annoying, but these things happen. This is why I'd only send my kid to daycare or school in cheaper items. They get stained, ripped, or lost.

But seriously, how do you lose a shoe?

[kkfeb04]

We lost a pediped shoe last year. No clue what happened to it, it may have ended up in the trash for all we know. It never crossed my mind to ask them to pay for it, shit happens. Speaking of shit happens, she decided to paint the toddler room with poo yesterday. Oh her clothes were disgusting yesterday and I almost threw them out (along with her SKR that were brand new). Luckily, all stains, smells came out of everything.

I am of the mindset not to piss off the people taking care of children.

[jaime183]

I'd be annoyed but let it go

[rubber pants]

I'd let it go. Stuff always gets lost at daycare. If they somehow manage to lose ANOTHER shoe in the near future, then I'd re-asses and talk to the director.

[lolaburns]

I would let it go. That sucks but like you said it would really suck if we were asked to pay for everything broken at day care.

[Deleted]

Ditto everyone else. Is pick my battles & I would push this one.

[browndog]

Another one who would let it go as well. I think the breaking of a toy is a good comparison.

[rxbeth]

I would be annoyed and it would be hard to let go but I wouldn't say anything.

They did lose her spare set of clothes and I was annoyed with that.

[EnchantedSoul]

I bet it got tossed in the trash. Toddlers love to throw things away. I wouldn't ask them to replace it, stuff happens.

[badgermom]

Stuff happens. I'd let it go.

[Deleted]

J has lost all kind of things at daycare but one in particular was perplexing because it was a swimsuit. We thought someone must have taken it home and then it surfaced a year later behind the daycare's washing machine. Apparently someone had picked it up (with her name in it and all) and taken it to wash and it fell back there. They gave it back a year later stained from sitting back there and mildewing...thanks but no thanks.

[mabillon]

I guess I'll be different! In your specific case, my reaction would depend on how much the shoes costs (were they brand-new from Stride Rite or similar?) and how good daycare generally is about this stuff. In our case, daycare lost (aka threw out) four of DD's cloth diapers (a couple China brands, 2 BumGenius) and I absolutely asked what they were planning to do about the situation. I didn't get all mad about it but it was $60 worth of diapers and a wet bag and I asked them what they planned to do about it. I would've accepted them paying half but they insisted on full reimbursement. I couldn't replace the China dipes very easily (and those were actually fairly old) so I just submitted the recipt for the other two. The most important thing was that then they modified their internal procedures to minimize the risk of a repeat incident.

Note: I was very clear with the center director that I did not want reimbursement if it had to come out of the teacher's pocket. I was assured this was part of their corporate "slush fund" for these things - we use a large center with 100+ children.