Do you think you're well liked at work?

[Deleted]

I am liked by everyone except one woman.

She is vile.

So I don't care.

LOL.

[polka]

Ugh, she sucks! Forget her, she sounds like a miserable person anyway. I'm only sorry you have to be around that negativity.

To answer your question, there used to be one person who disliked me. She made that clear from day one by telling my co-workers that she was not happy about me being there, because she used to be the "young one" in the office, and then I came in and was ten years younger than her. She was awful and not well-liked by anyone though. So whatever, lady!

[shostakovich]

I'm sorry mekia - that lady sounds intolerably crotchety.

I think I'm pretty well-liked around here. I'm sure everyone wishes I would quiet down, though - I'm usually at 11, and tend to yell at my computer.

[shostakovich]

Apr 25, 2014 16:45:14 GMT -5 mekiakoo said:

It just sucks because we all are teachers and you'd think we would be careful around our students, but my students have told me they've noticed how mean this teacher has been towards me

Wow.  That is so unprofessional!  Is there any way you can talk to an administrator about it?

[noodleskooze]

Apr 25, 2014 16:42:45 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

I always assume people like me lol

I always assume people dislike me. :/

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Apr 25, 2014 16:45:14 GMT -5 mekiakoo said:

It just sucks because we all are teachers and you'd think we would be careful around our students, but my students have told me they've noticed how mean this teacher has been towards me

Her behavior is unacceptable, but you need to get a thicker skin.

Personally, I make it a game.

I'm sooooooooooooooooooooo nice to the bitch who hates me, which I'm sure annoys her.  LOL.

Seriously, though, who cares what she thinks of you?  Everybody else likes you.

[So_Fetch]

I'm fairly new. I think people are afraid of me, like they avoid me.
Not because I'm in power, but because I have a very different personality than the engineers/scientists that I work with.

[polka]

Apr 25, 2014 16:47:48 GMT -5 noodleskooze said:

Apr 25, 2014 16:42:45 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

I always assume people like me lol

I always assume people dislike me. :/

aww, why? You shouldn't think like that, because you'll miss out on opportunities for potential friendships! Plus, if someone doesn't like you for no reason, you wouldn't want to be friends with them anyway.

[Odonata]

I have a bitch that I work with that is just so smarmy to me. She often talks down to me like I'm one of her students and has even yelled in my face before over god-knows what. This "yelling" happened in front of my students and I just rolled my eyes and walked away from her (I wasn't going to get into a fight with my kids in class) and one student said "Don't worry Mrs. D, she's like that with us, too." I did say back "yes, that is not nice of her to do to anyone, especially a colleague. That is just rude and not acceptable."

She definitely looks down on me but I sure don't go out of my way to try and get any kind of respect from her. I mostly just ignore her. She doesn't get in the way of my teaching so she's just an annoyance in my day. She's very judgmental about really trivial things people do (both coworkers and students) and I can't believe she's still a teacher.

She's also the type of person who loves to hear herself talk and is *always* right.

ETA:  after reading Misoangry's post about being soooo nice to her mean person I remembered another thing.  Because this lady think's she's the smartest person in the world and gives the *best advice* and everyone should also listen to her harsh criticism, I make it a point to ignore anything she says.  If I don't react or respond (because 99.99% of what she says to me is unsolicited from me and is due to her listing in on my conversations) she fumes inside, and I love to see that!  She also gets really angry if people at work say something positive to me after she says something critical.  

[birdistheword]

I'm well-liked at work, and I like most of my coworkers. I can't think of anyone who outwardly and obviously dislikes me.

At my last job, there was one bitch who hated me for no reason. She was downright awful to me and always tried to throw me under the bus. She twice claimed to our bosses that I tried to sabotage her and steal her clients, and yelled at me until I cried once (my default anger reaction is tears :/). She was pretty terrible to everyone, but she really focused in on me for some reason.

[housewife]

I was well liked, but those that didn't like me reeeaaaalllyyy didn't like me. I come on strong, I'm ok with not everyone liking me. I made some great friends there.

New company is a strange situation. We'll see how it goes, but ultimately I only care how they view me professionally.

[Odonata]

Apr 25, 2014 16:55:07 GMT -5 mekiakoo said:

Apr 25, 2014 16:52:05 GMT -5 Odonata said:

I have a bitch that I work with that is just so smarmy to me. She often talks down to me like I'm one of her students and has even yelled in my face before over god-knows what. This "yelling" happened in front of my students and I just rolled my eyes and walked away from her (I wasn't going to get into a fight with my kids in class) and one student said "Don't worry Mrs. D, she's like that with us, too." I did say back "yes, that is not nice of her to do to anyone, especially a colleague. That is just rude and not acceptable."

She definitely looks down on me but I sure don't go out of my way to try and get any kind of respect from her. I mostly just ignore her. She doesn't get in the way of my teaching so she's just an annoyance in my day. She's very judgmental about really trivial things people do (both coworkers and students) and I can't believe she's still a teacher.

She's also the type of person who loves to hear herself talk and is *always* right.

She has done that to me too. She barged into my classroom, yelling at me about my "loud students outside of the classroom". None of my students were out, they weren't even my students.

You know, maybe at some point if she yells at you again, just flat out tell her (in front of your students) that this is no way to talk to me and to leave and come back when she can have a more adult-like conversation with you.  And then turn your back to her and go back to what you are doing.  For me, ignoring my bitch-coworker works but maybe you have to actually confront her.  Treat her like you would your students who are out of line.  

Sometimes bullies learn who the people are that will "take it" from them and so they keep dishing it out.  The woman at my job gets really annoyed if I don't respond to her bitchiness or reply with a joke as if she was joking with me.  That seems to do the trick.  

[pantsparty]

Yes, I am well liked. If someone doesn't like me, he or she is hiding it well.

[Odonata]

I have to say, though, with the exception of this one crazy lady I am well liked.

I know this one person is always on your case and treats you with less respect, but are there others at work that you do get along with and feel comfortable around? If so, just focus on them. Don't let this one person's stick up their ass get you down. Remember, you don't have to have everyone like you.

[noodleskooze]

Apr 25, 2014 16:51:23 GMT -5 polka said:

Apr 25, 2014 16:47:48 GMT -5 noodleskooze said:

I always assume people dislike me. :/

aww, why? You shouldn't think like that, because you'll miss out on opportunities for potential friendships! Plus, if someone doesn't like you for no reason, you wouldn't want to be friends with them anyway.

I'm boring!

[Deleted]

Apr 25, 2014 16:52:35 GMT -5 mekiakoo said:

I know I shouldn't care about what she thinks of me, but I care about my students noticing and asking me about that.

I've brought it up with her by e-mailing her (she doesn't know how to sign), but never a response back.

I've talked to the principal, but it was more of him asking how I was feeling and that sort of thing when I was trying to set up additional levels for my class, but that teacher kept shutting things down (the entire department has to agree first) and the principal seemed to be scared of her. That was 4 years ago. So I've just been keeping my mouth shut and pretending to like her.

The best example you can set for your students is to kill this cuntersnatch with kindness.

It will show what a stand-up individual you are and magnify what a bitchwhore she is.

When your students ask you about it, you can simply say, "I don't know why she acts that way" and smile.

If your principal is too much of a pussy to deal with her, all you can do is let her be and rise above it.

[cuddlyevil]

I think so. There are a few people that may not be fans but they're leaving soon.

[alzi]

Yep!

[olegregg]

I only have issues and a mutual dislike for one person. Everyone else seems to like me and get along with me.

[Deleted]

Apr 25, 2014 16:42:45 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

I always assume people like me lol

It's really the only way to live life.

[zoidberg]

I think I was pretty well liked at my last job. I got a ton of hugs on the last day. I have only been at the new job for a week so it is too soon to tell.

One person at my last job really didn't like me, but she is just a venomous, genuinely bad person so I don't care.

[agnes]

I like to think pretty well liked.

[redwino]

I'm well liked by the people I work with regularly. Occasionally I piss somebody off but that's the nature of my position. Most people get over it.

[elleblue]

Apr 25, 2014 16:42:45 GMT -5 jenny1980 said:

I always assume people like me lol

This. And sometimes it comes as a shock when someone makes it obvious they don't. It's probably because I pretty much like everyone I meet, unless they're a complete jackoff or something. Luckily very few (I can think of only one atm) people in my life dislike me. *hair flip* 

heh

[marylennox]

I like to think so. I try to be pleasant and get along with everyone I have to work with.

I'm sure there will always be someone who may not be my biggest fan, you can't please everyone. But as long as they're professional I don't care.

I'm sorry your coworker is behaving so unprofessionally. I don't know what I would do in that situation, it sounds really frustrating.

[Deleted]

I'm pretty sure one of the guys who would have been up for partner my year, but who wasn't put up, doesn't like me. Don't blame him. I wouldn't either.

And my former secretary doesn't like me. But my current one does.

[peachykate]

I just got off the phone with my aunts and I'm pretty sure they legit hate me right now.

I think I'm as well liked as the boss can be here at home.

I like myself, lol.

[wkatie]

I'm pretty sure I'm well liked. There was a department head that strongly disliked me, but he was an idiot and was fired after about a year so he doesn't count.

[spitforspat]

I'm pretty sure people like me. And if they don't I DGAF.

[fezzik]

I'm a SAHM now, so everyone likes me, ha.  When I worked as a paralegal in a small law office, I was well-liked by everyone (except an intern).  H's ex-girlfriend (we'll call her A) had been a summer intern there before I was hired and they were considering hiring her once she graduated from law school.  I wasn't aware that A was interning there.  

Later, I found out when the two attorneys that hired me announced it to the rest of the office, A pitched a fit to the other paralegals saying how awful I was (we've never met or even talked to each other).  Word got to the attorneys (after I had been there a few days) and they were like, "wtf? Fezzik seems really nice and seems to be a great fit."  Then, they decided they didn't need A's drama in their office and told her they didn't have a position open for her anymore.  Sucks to be her.  Anyway, I was a bit embarrassed that stupid drama went on because they hired me, even though I had no idea it was going on.

That's my not so exciting story of someone at the office not liking me, ha.