She shouldn't pay, right?

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We went out for friend's bachelorette last night. I sat at the other end of the table during dinner, but I realized when we got our cards back from paying that friend bought her own dinner! Her sister (who is moh and organized the party) was sitting beside her. I assumed she would buy her dinner or ask us to chip in. Then at the comedy club, the waiter brought friend her ticket for drinks and apps and no one offered to take it from her. I finally grabbed it and paid for it myself. No one offered to chip in. It was only $40, so not really a big deal.

This isn't normal, right? Any bachelorette I have been to, we have always paid for her stuff all night.

[underwaterrhymes]

Yeah, the bride doesn't pay.

[spitforspat]

What? No. No!

[daisybuchannan]

You're right, she shouldn't pay.

[zitiqueen]

The MOH/party organizer should have asked everybody's budget beforehand, including chipping in for the bride, and then planned accordingly.

[Deleted]

I feel bad she had to buy her dinner.

[shell24]

No, that's not normal. Bride shouldn't pay!

[redwino]

She shouldn't have had to pay. Who planned the b-party?

[marylennox]

I paid for every single thing at my "bachelorette party."

I don't think the bachelorette should have to pay for her own drinks, at the very least.

Cheap bitches. lol. But seriously.

[eb777888]

Yes, she shouldn't have to pay. Maybe the MOH was broke? lol

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Apr 26, 2014 11:47:34 GMT -5 redwino said:

She shouldn't have had to pay. Who planned the b-party?

Her sister. The MOH.

[bania]

No she shouldn't have had to pay. MOH fail.

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Apr 26, 2014 11:50:49 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Yes, she shouldn't have to pay. Maybe the MOH was broke? lol

I don't think so, but maybe! I thought it was awkward, but no one seemed to act weird about it.

[redwino]

Apr 26, 2014 11:54:12 GMT -5 @t2j said:

Apr 26, 2014 11:47:34 GMT -5 redwino said:

She shouldn't have had to pay. Who planned the b-party?

Her sister. The MOH.

That's who should have paid. Or planned something different.

[Deleted]

She definitely shouldn't have paid.
My DH and his friends plan pretty elaborate parties (Vegas, Boston, NYC, Chicago) and they still budget so that the groom isn't paying for anything at all.

[pooh8402]

hell no the bride doesn't pay. whoever plans the bach party pays, or it is split between the whole group. I didn't pay for a damn thing at mine and I'm not entirely sure who did. my sisters, the MOHs, did not organize the party but I'm sure they paid for at least part of it.

[noodle]

The guest of honor shouldn't have to pay.  I can't believe no one paid for her meal! (I know you weren't near her, and you did what you could.)  But that anyone near her let her pay is bizarre to me.

[furby]

Poor bride :-(

[eb777888]

Apr 26, 2014 11:54:48 GMT -5 @t2j said:

Apr 26, 2014 11:50:49 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Yes, she shouldn't have to pay. Maybe the MOH was broke? lol

I don't think so, but maybe! I thought it was awkward, but no one seemed to act weird about it.

Well, you're a good friend, Sally. :-)

[auntie]

So wrong.

Is this a situation where the sister/MOH has never been included on such an event and doesn't understand the protocol? Like she's 18 and has never been in a wedding? I can understand mom not wanting to pass the hat, but if she wasn't willing to- someone should make this right.

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Apr 26, 2014 12:22:45 GMT -5 auntie said:

So wrong.

Is this a situation where the sister/MOH has never been included on such an event and doesn't understand the protocol? Like she's 18 and has never been in a wedding? I can understand mom not wanting to pass the hat, but if she wasn't willing to- someone should make this right.

No she is older than bride. She is married with two kids. She has to understand what the protocol is. Or at least I would think she does. Maybe not?

[adhdfashion]

Bride doesn't pay. I thought the norm was for the bridesmaids to split it.
Weird.

[sewpinkgal]

Ugh no. I thought that was common knowledge. Obviously not. :/

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Apr 26, 2014 12:51:42 GMT -5 @tambcat said:

Not cool! 

You just reminded me I had a dream about you!

My coworkers were texting me in a group text and one of them texted, "It reminds me of tambcat." I realized they had found me on here and had been lurking.

[runforrest]

Did everyone at least buy her drinks at the bar or something?

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Apr 26, 2014 13:43:15 GMT -5 runforrest said:

Did everyone at least buy her drinks at the bar or something?

Nope. We went home after the comedy club.

[runforrest]

Man, sucks for the bride.